As I try to figure out my genderfluidity, I find it increasingly hard to live with the dysphoria that comes when my mental and physical genders don't match up. Is this something you feel too? If so, how do you deal with it?
Dysphoria is scary. It plays into anxieties and insecurities and constantly makes me feel like I'm a liar in some way. My body does NOT fit my mental ideal - I'm very curvy.
I've started to accept myself a little more though, and love myself a little more - the idea that I can be called handsome (thank you twitter, you've helped so much with this) while still having E cups is very empowering to me. I still think I need to change my body in order to ease the dysphoria, but that will come with time. For right now, I deal by reinforcing the notion that bodies do not determine gender every chance I get.
Our bodies do not determine gender. We do. Looking and feeling a certain way is up to us, and that's a long and difficult journey for many of us, and while related, it's completely separate from what a lot of cis people see as gender.
It's tough to explain. The only way I deal with dysphoria is to accept that [social views of] gender is a construct and finding our place in said construct is something we have been trained to do. Those who find their place can often in turn offer support to those who are struggling. I'm getting there. I suspect I'll always be "getting there" - and that's ok.
THE REALITY:
When it's really bad I kiss a cutie if I can. If not I lie on the bathroom floor and stare at the ceiling a bunch.
I've started to accept myself a little more though, and love myself a little more - the idea that I can be called handsome (thank you twitter, you've helped so much with this) while still having E cups is very empowering to me. I still think I need to change my body in order to ease the dysphoria, but that will come with time. For right now, I deal by reinforcing the notion that bodies do not determine gender every chance I get.
Our bodies do not determine gender. We do. Looking and feeling a certain way is up to us, and that's a long and difficult journey for many of us, and while related, it's completely separate from what a lot of cis people see as gender.
It's tough to explain. The only way I deal with dysphoria is to accept that [social views of] gender is a construct and finding our place in said construct is something we have been trained to do. Those who find their place can often in turn offer support to those who are struggling. I'm getting there. I suspect I'll always be "getting there" - and that's ok.
THE REALITY:
When it's really bad I kiss a cutie if I can. If not I lie on the bathroom floor and stare at the ceiling a bunch.
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