Ask @lunatalita:

hi, do you have any plan to have biological children in the future? if so, why? i always assumed i'd have one and i'd be glad if i do, but seeing people nowadays sneer at the idea of adding more people to the overpopulated world and deem it as a selfish act, i'm looking for things to consider.

I am easily seduced, Nonny.
Sometimes I see life through rose-tinted glass and, boy, do I want to marry a man and have kids with him. Be the homemaker and all the responsibilities that entail.
But most of the times I don't.
What sticks, though, through the fluctuative nature of my imagination is my desire to have offspring; be they biological or adopted.
I suppose, in the grand scheme of things, considering there are so many unwanted children living in the streets that my selfish nature to reproduce must take a step back. The love of humanity and the understanding that all lives are valuable must be my guiding principles. And thus, adoption seems like the more feasible option to me personally.
Considering the current statistics, I highly suggest taking the path of adoption. Not all women are biologically wired to give birth. Not all women are emotionally or financially capable of raising children. If you somehow have the luxury and the desire to give birth to a child, perhaps consider other factors that comes into play. In the end, though, it's your life, nonny.
Live as you must.

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kak wdyta mas @kiswinar yang merupakan saudara sebapak kak @audreyteguh tapi nggak dianggap? kok bisa gitu ya pak mario teguh nggak menganggap anaknya sendiri?

Maaf terlambat. Isu tidak lagi panas sehingga pertanyaan ini tidak dapat difungsikan sebagai penambah followers.
Tapi yah, begitulah. Dia bisa memberimu petuah-petuah manis yang kadang terlalu berat untuk dijalani sendiri. The downside of being a motivator, I suppose.
Yah, terkadang memang sometimes.

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Mari serukan perlawanan terhadap rejim komunis Ahok dan perilaku korupnya! https://www.change.org/p/presiden-tangkap-ahok

Pertanyaan ini sesungguhnya sudah mendarat di kotak masuk saya sejak enam bulan yang lalu. Namun saya rasa perlu saya unggah--beserta dengan respon saya--mengingat hiruk pikuk masyarakat pasca Pidato Kepulauan Seribu.
Sudah terlalu banyak dukungan untuk Pak Ahok. Sudah terlalu banyak argumen yang dilayangkan oleh para pembelanya, sehingga rasanya bila saya ungkit ulang argumen-argumen tersebut, tulisan saya cuma bakal jadi sampah yang menggunduk di ruang maya ini. Saya paham, kalian sadar bahwa sesungguhnya kasus penistaan agama ini begitu remeh dan tidak selaiknya mendapat sorotan sebesar ini. Lebih dari itu, saya paham bahwa kalian sebenarnya sedang mencari justifikasi untuk marah kepada Ahok.
Sebagai warga negara Indonesia yang sangat menjunjung prinsip demokrasi, saya menghargai aspirasi yang kalian sampaikan di pusat Jakarta pada 4 November kemarin. Saya menganggap kalian berkata jujur ketika kalian memekikkan perlindungan terhadap agama (yang kalian daku harus dijaga kemurniannya).
Pinta saya: bila kalian sungguh mengimani perlindungan terhadap agama dan para penganutnya, bantu saya. Mari kita bersama-sama menjerit sampai tenggorokan menyerah. Mari kita tekan pemerintah--seperti kalian menekan pemerintah untuk menjadikan Ahok tersangka--untuk mengusut sampai tuntas peledakan bom di Gereja Oikumene.
Karena bila kalian sungguh membawa kedamaian dan membalaskan rasa sakit mereka yang dihina dan diludahi kepercayaannya, akan saya rentangkan tangan dan saya jadikan kalian sahabat saya.
(Tapi kita berdua tahu kalian sedang membohongi diri sendiri)

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if putting forward your own happiness is important, is leaving someone for someone else acceptable?

Hello, Nonny. I'm back on this hellish platform because apparently, the mind cannot stimulate itself. Shame, really.
If you are looking for a justification to leave your significant other, congratulations! You've come to the right place. I'm always in the mood to tell people to leave a relationship wherein they no longer feel comfort or happiness ;)
See, the thing is, my dear Nonny, I wholeheartedly believe that your life is for your own. That individual liberty isn't just a textbook jargon but an actual concept that you should aspire to live by. You are, first and foremost, responsible to your own well-being.
Now, if somehow you receive pleasure from making someone else happy regardless of your personal choice in the situation, then go forth and stay. But if you are looking around and you see that the grass really is greener on the other side, then...
Why are you still where you are?

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