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How can someone be a good friend?

I don't know that I'm an expert on this but I have had good and bad friends which I've had to weed out throughout the last few years of my life, so this is what I think makes a good friend. A good friend...
-is trustworthy. If you can't tell everything to your close friend and trust them not to spread it around, maybe they aren't really your friend at all.
-doesn't talk about you behind your back. In that case, if they do, what you've got is a frenemy, which is worse than an enemy. End that relationship.
-is always there for you when you need it. Obviously if you just wanna go out and they have something important like an AP test to study for or something, that doesn't apply. But if they get "tired" of listening to your problems and consoling you, they're not in it for the long run.
-accepts you for who you are. My ex best friend tried to change me and alter what I liked to form me into a mindless mini-her, and I didn't even realize it. Now that I'm out of that friendship, I don't even know who I am anymore. Your friend should like you even though you like something she doesn't. Get out of that relationship.
-is someone you can just have fun with and be yourself around! If you don't feel like you can say anything around your friend or that you're not happy around them, they're repressing you. Get out of that relationship.
-isn't always bringing you down. Everyone has that one friend who's always complaining, and while a good friend listens and consoles her friend, if she seems like she's always gloomy about everything and wants to drag you down bitterly with her, that's not someone you want to be around. Find someone who makes you feel good to be around.
-this is like someone you can be yourself around, but also it's important that they don't pressure you into anything. I'm not just talking about drugs and that stuff, just anything at all. If they try and force you to do things you don't feel comfortable doing, they're not a good friend.
-is as giving as she is selfish. It's important to be selfish so you can take care of yourself and you needs, but a good friend should be giving and caring to you just as much as she takes. This is not only literally (if she's always asking for money and always seems to only have one more dollar when you need some) but figuratively, giving you as much time and care as you give to her.
-is not only a fair-weather friend. A friendship is like a marriage, you're there through thick and thin. If your friend is only there through thin, she's not a good friend.
But most of all, a good friend is someone who loves you and who you love, unconditionally, with all their flaws-not despite them. Don't let me tell you what makes a good friend, go with what's in your heart, baby, but don't let anyone pressure you to stay in a friendship you don't want :)
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