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I’m a guy thinking about getting my navel pierced. Are they hot or not for men?

Gender conformity is a prison. If it's something you want to do, do it! I don't think anyone else's opinions should matter when you make decisions about how you decorate your own body, but I can guarantee you there are people out there who would find it attractive.
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Lol well in your display pic your skin makes a girl want to cry

Haha, that's my birth control coming in clutch. But I do appreciate the sentiment, it is nice to hear 🙂 Plus I'm sure there's plenty lovely about you, nonny.
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Do you think you're more intelligent than the average person? Why?

I think I'm on the upper end of average, but that's only by a standardized measure (e.g. IQ, which is flawed). I believe everyone has intelligence of some kind, it just manifests differently via strengths and skills.
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Is it weird to be following an ex on social media but never contact them?

There are some cases in which it might be okay, like if you didn't unfollow them out of sheer laziness, or you had an amicable and mature breakup and there's no need to get some distance, or because you hope to build a friendship with them but you're giving them space for a while. That being said, I think it's more likely to be an unhealthy - potentially even harmful - thing, and if there's no good reason to get in contact with them you're better off cutting the cord entirely.
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Does toxic masculinity extend into so many women psychologically craving to be treated badly?

If you want to talk psychology, that issue isn't about "women *wanting* to be treated badly". Girls and women are a social group who have faced a lot of trauma in the way of abuse, neglect, and r*pe in childhood. (Not to say they are the only ones who do, but they're the only ones whose motives have been called into question here, so that's what I'm gonna talk about). When a person experiences those things - especially in early childhood, which unfortunately a lot of women do - it is highly likely they will develop one of three insecure attachment style. In this context, women who have developed a pattern of toxic relationships in adulthood tend to have either an anxious attachment style or a disorganised attachment style.
With an anxious attachment style, a person will look for an identity and meaning in other people and will fear abandonment, leading to clinginess - even when the person they're clinging onto are all sorts of wrong for them. With a disorganised attachment style, a person both craves and is fearful of love and relationships, and safety within a relationship might feel threatening because it's a) alien and b) you're waiting for the other shoe to drop, so continuing the cycle of victimisation might feel more predictable and therefore safe.
The perception that "women want to be treated badly" hinges upon misogyny and a lack of awareness of how trauma from a young age alters the brain. I'd recommend educating yourself before making such awful, harmful claims.

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Yes or No: You are very shy

Yes, but I think I do well enough to pretend I'm not. I'm not overly sociable, but if I'm in a situation where I have to pretend I'm confident and act friendly, I can do that.
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What's the oddest thing you've purchased from a vending machine?

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I don't think I've purchased anything odd from a vending machine, but I did purchase an out of date Coke from one not so long back, which I think was odd because it was located in one of the biggest malls in my city.
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If you had a button in front of you that would change your sex for a day, would you push it? What if it was permanent?

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Yes. Probably not if it were permanent, though I know I probably wouldn't be all that dysphoric, and would feel right at home on certain days.
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