In what ways has your perception/way of thinking changed from being single versus being in a relationship? :P Is there a level of growth there, when two people are involved in thought? Or do we sometimes have to individualize our own thoughts, to not lose ourselves?
"In what ways has your perception/way of thinking changed from being single versus being in a relationship?"
not much, actually.
"Is there a level of growth there, when two people are involved in thought?"
yes, there is definitely a level of growth. 😄
"Or do we sometimes have to individualize our own thoughts, to not lose ourselves?"
yes to this as well. maintaining your sense of individuality so important in any relationship. be it a platonic, romantic, or familial relationships, setting our boundaries and staying true to yourself should be a priority.
I would never want to lose my identity or sense of self due to peer pressure or influence from a person who is close to me.
there was a conversation I had with my best friend (of eighteen years) over lunch sometime ago. I wanted to say something, but I simply listened first. we were speaking about our roles as individuals and family members. she said, "I'm trying to find a way to combine the both..."
I was instantly shocked at her words. after asking her why, she clarified,
"so I'm less confused about who I am as a wife and who I am as an individual."
if I had the emotional energy back then to argue my point, I would have said,
"you are you. why try to combine who are as a person with who you are as a spouse? yes, there are overlaps, for sure, but at the end of the day, the longest relationship you have is with yourself.
only God knows when the person we love most will leave us, and if we will be reunited with them in the hereafter. yes, a spouse is essential in guiding you during your journey here on earth, but ultimately, what *you* do as an individual will decide the rest.
I wouldn't amalgamate my identities as one just so I am less confused. in fact, I might be more confused! but then again, I am me, and you are you. so take that how you will (insert name of best friend here)." 🤷🏻♀️🖤✨
not much, actually.
"Is there a level of growth there, when two people are involved in thought?"
yes, there is definitely a level of growth. 😄
"Or do we sometimes have to individualize our own thoughts, to not lose ourselves?"
yes to this as well. maintaining your sense of individuality so important in any relationship. be it a platonic, romantic, or familial relationships, setting our boundaries and staying true to yourself should be a priority.
I would never want to lose my identity or sense of self due to peer pressure or influence from a person who is close to me.
there was a conversation I had with my best friend (of eighteen years) over lunch sometime ago. I wanted to say something, but I simply listened first. we were speaking about our roles as individuals and family members. she said, "I'm trying to find a way to combine the both..."
I was instantly shocked at her words. after asking her why, she clarified,
"so I'm less confused about who I am as a wife and who I am as an individual."
if I had the emotional energy back then to argue my point, I would have said,
"you are you. why try to combine who are as a person with who you are as a spouse? yes, there are overlaps, for sure, but at the end of the day, the longest relationship you have is with yourself.
only God knows when the person we love most will leave us, and if we will be reunited with them in the hereafter. yes, a spouse is essential in guiding you during your journey here on earth, but ultimately, what *you* do as an individual will decide the rest.
I wouldn't amalgamate my identities as one just so I am less confused. in fact, I might be more confused! but then again, I am me, and you are you. so take that how you will (insert name of best friend here)." 🤷🏻♀️🖤✨
