any advice on how to heal from a break up and have to watch your ex move on with someone else while you still feel stuck?
Don’t watch your ex? Take time for you, look after yourself and work on yourself. Wish them happiness and then focus on your happiness. Just enjoy the now, you’ll meet who you’re supposed to meet. It just wasn’t them. :) chin up chuck, everything becomes ok even if it doesn’t seem like it now.
Was you ever gaslighted by somebody? Did you ever gaslighted anybody?
Yes to both. Don’t really want to say more on it tho, but I learnt from both sides. I feel sometimes if we don’t fully understand something or learn something, sometimes we learn from both sides. Not always, and it’s just my belief.
What are the things we often do to people without realizing that it would hurt them?
Depends on the person really
What do you think about gaslighting? How would you deal with a person who is gaslighting you?
What anyone els thinks of gaslighting. Well it’s about communication. If all communication fails and they fail to correct this behaviour then that’s the person call to decide what to do for their own health.
But if the silent treatment is being used everytime the person is upset (as stated in original question), then it'll never get solved. Most likely the two people would just pull away from each other.
Well we don’t know context. They may have not taken into account the mental health side to it so after this is addressed then maybe it won’t? So if we don’t know the context we can only meet in the middle with an answer. But on analysing the behaviour from the point of the person asking it. If they feel it’s a way of manipulation after the talks and such then that’s up to them to decide if they feel it is and then act accordingly.
That's why I said "generally". There are circumstances when both parties involved are at fault. But generally they are not the best way to go around a problem. It doesn't solve anything if the issue isn't addressed at its roots
Then it’s best to communicate on both ends after this situation and come to understandings either way. But either way it still will happen just maybe not as frequent I guess 🤷🏽♂️ all about understanding on each end.
The adult way is to tell that you do need space and then practice it, not to run away. Silent treatments are generally a form of manipulation,
Well there human, some people have mental health issues and even saying they need space is hard for them to communicate, and is sometimes not a form of manipulation. :) *intensely smiles*
What is the best way to respond when someone gives you the silent treatment everytime they are upset with you?
Give them space I guess. If a person needs space when they are upset, sometimes it’s not a childish way of getting back at you, but they need time to process things in silence without the chaos of emotions. Other times they are being stubborn and if it rubs you up the wrong way all the time then maybe your characteristics clash too much 🤷🏽♂️ so it’s a tricky one. Try find balance in between.
Anyone else found themselves in a sudden unexpected long distance relationship? How did you adapt?
I guess you figure out times you can speak to eachother and ways to overcome the barriers of distance. Then figure out when you can meet up and such. And long term move to be closer
A simple question, but how are you doing? How’s this week treating you so far? :)