Ask @prodeeboy:

How do you know when you're in love?

When you find yourself worrying more about the other person all the time. When you think of what would be the best breakfast/lunch/dinner to cook for him. When you look at that person as they sleep and draw in a deep breath and smile for no reason. When even everyone praises you but all that would matter will be what he says. When you take a shower wishing you're there with him. When you wanted to share every little thing that happens to you with him.
All those does not necessarily indicate you're in love.
You can never tell.
You just know it, way deep inside of you.

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Bakit kaya bottoms are looked down upon even by fellow gay men? Have you witnessed/experienced this before?

Ryan See
It is the pervading thought that the one being penetrated is of the weaker inclination. Look how women are treated. Nobody wants to be seen as weak, womanly. Gay men are still essentially men and men are hardwired for centuries to be assertive than receptive. And generally, gay men are more attracted to those who are more "manly" since bottoming is perceived as being "too womanly". That mindset is wrong in so many levels. Dominance/manliness is never measured by who does the penetrating or who gets penetrated. And yes, it happens. Bottom jokes are very common and those who bottom are always subject to ridicule, hence this stigma prompts gay men to mostly present themselves as top so as to prevent possible discrimination among peers.

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Is it true that guys with shirtless FB profile pics are usually gay? Why or why not? :p

Not necessarily. Some may be just proud of their bodies, but straight. Perhaps they are just trying to score a modelling contract, a shot at fame. The prevalence of gay guys with shirtless pics whether on FB or Twitter is just an indicator of the current market trend. But then, you gotta purchase a decent gaydar so you can filter out the straights (assuming you're a girl).
On a side note, you know, I've been working out and I know how difficult it is to even get a decent shape for your abs. If I get ripped, I swear by my father's ashes I will post the most fabulous selfie ever.

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Would you feel slighted if a loved one/boyfriend asked you to get tested for HIV?

Hell no! I would actually want that. You can never be too sure these days. It's better to know your status. HIV and other STDs are serious matters. I would actually think highly of my boyfriend if he asks that. That is responsibility. That is a way of showing you love the other person.

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Ano ang mas masakit? Ang iwanan ka o ikaw yung mang-iiwan? Bakit?

Having experienced both, I'd say, parehong masakit. Pareho kayo nagpundar ng emosyon, oras, salapi, what-not. Hindi mo masasabing mas masakit ang iwanan o ang mang-iwan. Pareho lang nawawalan. Pareho nalulugi. Nasa sa 'yo na 'yan kung papaano mo haharapin yung nararamdaman mong sakit at kung papaano mo ito gagamitin para matuto, bumangon, pagpagan ang sarili, at sumubok ulit.

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What are ten important things you would tell a young gay man?

Edited for Ms. @shakirasison:
10. Learn what you can from school then learn more outside school. The best weapon that you can have for life will be what you know.
9. Know the perfect balance and proper applications of being bitchy and nice. You'll need that.
8. Be aware and be involved regarding LGBT stuff. You are on the same boat with a lot of others like you. You wouldn't want to be the clueless, useless guy in the corner.
7. Love yourself. It's a hackneyed phrase and it's losing value but let me tell you that it will come in handy and it means a lot of things. When the bigots of society try to bring you down, you will have enough sense and self-respect to stand up against it. It will not be a smooth ride down this road, but if you love yourself enough, you will get through it. Hindi porke't bakla ka ay magpapaapi ka na lang ng ganun-ganun. Maria Clara is so 1800s, gurl!
6. Make them respect you as a gay man who is independent and can stand his own ground. Use that one raised eyebrow when you have to.
5. Have a plan for yourself and your future. Open a savings account. You can thank me later.
4. Remember, you are not limited by anything but yourself and your subscription to society's norms. It does not matter what your sexual orientation is.
3. Never ever give up on love. It might be harder for us to find it but it doesn't mean that it isn't there somewhere.
2. ALWAYS practice safe sex. You owe that to yourself and your (would-be) partner. Don't be stupid. How can you enjoy life if you get curtailed by those pesky little monsters?
1. Always use a moisturizer that is perfect for your skin type. Never compromise on being fabulous. That's the reason why they hate you so much. :)

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What is the dumbest thing you've heard about being gay?

You know what? There are a lot of dumb things being said about being gay I really can't tell which one's the dumbest anymore. What comes to mind now is what my mom's church mates told me when my mom told them I was gay:
"Buti hindi ka nagdadamit babae."
I rolled my eyes so hard back there I almost got vertigo.
Right now, I have this idea germinating in my mind of a project about breaking the stupid stereotypes regarding the LGBT. It's going to be a long, difficult fight and we will start sounding like broken records but if no one will pick up the metaphorical sword, we will not progress. We will languish (BIG WORD!) in the darkness of stupid notions.

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Do you think someone who has been unpemployed for 4 years since graduaction still has a chance to succeed in a career he chooses in case he decides to finally work? I'm talking about my boyfriend. I love him but, ugh.

Of course! It is never too late for one to pursue what one wants. Sino ba nagpauso ng social pressure na kailangan pagka-graduate work agad? Nasa sa tao 'yan. Choice niya 'yan. Buhay niya 'yan.
Are you frustrated with your boyfriend because he hasn't got a job yet? Why? It's perhaps a personal issue between the two of you and I don't want to pry, but I suggest you guys talk about priorities and shizz. Malalaki na kayo. Go act maturely.
Also, yung "I love him but..." na 'yan ha? Delikado 'yang linyahang ganyan. :)

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Hi, i was referred to you by @shanelezz to ask this question. What do you think would be the best way to come out as a gay man? Ty.

Flashmob with fireworks! LOL Just kidding.
Hmm. Tough question, but what I could tell you is, THERE IS NO BEST WAY. It will all depend on each individual. Sometimes you will have to test waters, not to see if you can handle it but to see if THEY can handle you. What matters is to have courage to face whatever the reaction to your coming out will be.
Do you remember the first time you went to school alone? It's somewhat like that. It's scary. You want to go home and stay in your comfort zone. But you do know that nothing will happen if you don't go. So you brave it. You sling on your heavy backpack and walk to the classroom. At first, everybody's a stranger. Everyone will think you're weird. No one will want to talk to you. But eventually, someone will sit beside you with a smile and make friends with you. And the rest follows. And it all started because you decided to be brave and step into that strange world.
I am not saying it will be easy. People will hate you, ridicule you, mock you, but you have to be strong. Why? Because there are people like me out here who will be there for you when you need us. When you need someone to talk to, cry on and pour your heart out (I will listen if you bring vodka. Kidding!) Just give us a holler. You know where to find us. :)

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What's your best advice for someone dealing with a broken heart?

1) Feel it. In its hurtful, soul-wrenching totality. Cry if you have to. Then take a shot of vodka.
2) Search yourself for whatever is left of your self-esteem. Take a shot of vodka. Watch the self-esteem grow.
3) Look for something to hit. Never a person. A wall if you're gutsy. A pillow if you're a wuss. Take a shot of vodka.
4) Take a shower and look into your closet. Dress yourself up even if you're not going anywhere. Feel good about yourself. Take a shot of vodka.
5) Call up some friends (since you're already dressed up) and go out. Take as many vodka shots as you can.
6) Go home. Remember that there are more things to do in life than be depressed about a shitty love life and that someone will eventually fall for your hot, pretty, funky self soon. Go to sleep. Wake up, it's another day. No more vodka.

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