(1/4) Hi tita! I’m 23 and I just moved to Canada last December for studies and living in my ninongs house (free). Everything here makes me feel so uneasy and he has a record of being controlling and was very abusive. Right now, ang daming restrictions sa akin.
(2/4) There’s this guy I met on Tinder May last year and he knows about this situation. He thinks I should just move in with him instead. I really want to. This guy and I have made things official this month and I’ve just recently started telling my family about him. Is it too early? (3/4) I also have not landed a job yet but I am not required to pay rent too. What should I do in this situation? I’m afraid of what my parents would think, and I don’t know how to tell them. But I really want to do it. (4/4) For peace of mind narin sana since I’ve been having anxiety attacks since I’ve started to notice my ninong's actions, but I haven’t been very open about what I’ve been feeling in this house to my parents too. (my parents are in the PH pala) Am I making this complicated by overthinking?
ANSWER: DO NOT MOVE IN with anyone until you have a job and money saved up. You always need to be ready to be thrown out on the street, especially in a foreign country where you can't rely on anyone. Your parents seem to care enough about you to let you stay in your ninong's house. Please let them know what the situation is there. Maybe they instructed him to be strict with you and something can be worked out. Or maybe your parents can find you an alternative housing situation. Unfortunately since you're not working and you don't have savings, you are dependent on your ninong and your parents for survival. Moving in with someone you don't know well may seem like an easy fix, but unless you have a back up plan in case that doesn't work out, you get pregnant, or the worst possible situation, don't do it before you communicate your situation to your parents. Good luck.
ANSWER: DO NOT MOVE IN with anyone until you have a job and money saved up. You always need to be ready to be thrown out on the street, especially in a foreign country where you can't rely on anyone. Your parents seem to care enough about you to let you stay in your ninong's house. Please let them know what the situation is there. Maybe they instructed him to be strict with you and something can be worked out. Or maybe your parents can find you an alternative housing situation. Unfortunately since you're not working and you don't have savings, you are dependent on your ninong and your parents for survival. Moving in with someone you don't know well may seem like an easy fix, but unless you have a back up plan in case that doesn't work out, you get pregnant, or the worst possible situation, don't do it before you communicate your situation to your parents. Good luck.
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