#advice

192 K people

50 posts

Posts:

advice on introducing kids to new partners

Wait a decent chunk of time first and introduce slowly. Little hangouts first. See how they get on, let them get used to each other. Don't pressure it, and don't try to make the new partner be seen as a parent or anything like that, let them see them as a friend, and if in time the kid choses to see them as a parent figure that's up to them 😊

My cousin's baby (11m) is permanently following her every where in the house (she crawls bc she cant walk yet) and she wants to be picked up and held all the time otherwise she cries. She doesnt sleep unless held either. Is that normal? My cousin said she was so fed up with her, she's constantly mad

Yes this is normal. Remember, babies are human and as such they learn at a very early age how to manipulate their care givers to get what they want. Babies, like most people, crave attention and must be taught which behaviors are acceptable and which behaviors are not acceptable. This is no easy task and requires patience, kindness and most importantly, perseverance and consistency.
For example, when our first born was a baby he would cry whenever he had to go to bed. Unfortunately my wife mistakenly believed that whenever a baby cried you had to pick the baby up and comfort the baby. This behavior and attitude from my wife simply reinforced the babies inappropriate behavior and so the crying episodes increased until it started to have a negative effect on our family because none of us were allowed to sleep.
So I spoke to my parents and several other older relatives for their advice. Their advice was to put the baby to bed and let the baby cry itself to sleep. The first time we tried this was tough because our baby cried and screamed and carried on for hours, but finally fell asleep. This routine lasted about one week until the baby finally learned that once he was put into his crib, mommy was no longer going to rush in and pick him up whenever he cried or screamed.
My followers have heard me say this many times, but it is important in all human relationships to establish personal boundaries with your family, friends and anyone whom you interact with to protect your own self interests. In this example, our self interest was to not allow our child to manipulate us and to teach him that when he goes to bed he must sleep.

View more

My bf is abusive physically and mentally too kbhi breakup kr k chala jata hai kabhi kia I am so fed up of him but idk why abhi tk he being caught cheating several times mera bc dil yahi kehta hai k nai muhabat krta tha wtf bro??? Yeh muhabat hai give advice guys I am in depression

Mujhe lagta abusive relationship bot toxic hote Han or Ksi ko right nahi Hai mentally torture kare or wo tmhe cheat b kr chuka ankhe kholo wo tmhe deserve nahi kerta tmhy to usy dafa karo

My bf is abusive physically and mentally too kbhi breakup kr k chala jata hai kabhi kia I am so fed up of him but idk why abhi tk he being caught cheating several times mera bc dil yahi kehta hai k nai muhabat krta tha wtf bro??? Yeh muhabat hai give advice guys I am in depression

Em getting this type of questions in abundance everyday..... kis museebat me phns gye ho sb? Or ni yeh koi muhabat ni hai ... Khud pe rehem ni ata Tum logo ko?

My bf is abusive physically and mentally too kbhi breakup kr k chala jata hai kabhi kia I am so fed up of him but idk why abhi tk he being caught cheating several times mera bc dil yahi kehta hai k nai muhabat krta tha wtf bro??? Yeh muhabat hai give advice guys I am in depression

Its just a Habit of yours having him but not Love, the only way is to avoid to keep yourself busy and get occupied and involved in something else

My bf is abusive physically and mentally too kbhi breakup kr k chala jata hai kabhi kia I am so fed up of him but idk why abhi tk he being caught cheating several times mera bc dil yahi kehta hai k nai muhabat krta tha wtf bro??? Yeh muhabat hai give advice guys I am in depression

Man needs a whole 16 chapters character arc for him to respek you 💀 nah fr tho if a person cheats on youu, it's obv he doesn't care or respek you. People realise the importance of their partner only when they hit rock bottom and become a caterpillar in their thoughts (character arc) 😎👍🏼

My bf is abusive physically and mentally too kbhi breakup kr k chala jata hai kabhi kia I am so fed up of him but idk why abhi tk he being caught cheating several times mera bc dil yahi kehta hai k nai muhabat krta tha wtf bro??? Yeh muhabat hai give advice guys I am in depression

Step up for yourself , he's not worth the pain and heartache he's causing you , why would someone else prioritize u if u aren't prioritizing yourself.:/

My bf is abusive physically and mentally too kbhi breakup kr k chala jata hai kabhi kia I am so fed up of him but idk why abhi tk he being caught cheating several times mera bc dil yahi kehta hai k nai muhabat krta tha wtf bro??? Yeh muhabat hai give advice guys I am in depression

You already know that he’s abusive, you know that he doesn’t love you, idk why do you need our approval to leave him?

My bf is abusive physically and mentally too kbhi breakup kr k chala jata hai kabhi kia I am so fed up of him but idk why abhi tk he being caught cheating several times mera bc dil yahi kehta hai k nai muhabat krta tha wtf bro??? Yeh muhabat hai give advice guys I am in depression

people really need to understand that these haram relationships are nothing but waste of time.
idk but i find the words boyfriend and girlfriend a gaali for me.

So I don’t understand why my mother feels anxious, depressed or a bit hopeless sometimes.

I think that your mother is grieving many losses at once. The loss of her family members and the loss of the physical strength she had a few years ago. Grief in itself is a very heavy feeling, it emotionally exhausts us. Along with this grief, she also fears for the future. She sees that your eldest sister hasn’t settled down yet and she has grown so weak already, would she even be there for all the rest of your siblings? Would she be physically and mentally able to get all of you settled down? This also is a cause of a lot of stress for a parent who feels like they’re physically declining because for most people, physical decline is a sign that they are losing control over their lives. If they are depending on others now, how are their kids gonna depend on them for their future? This thought scares them.
All this stress and anxiety, along with grief exhausts a person so they don’t feel doing anything that they once used to enjoy. You wouldn’t want to go and enjoy yourself if your mind is so burdened right?
One way to deal with this situation is help her open up about her concerns. But you can’t do that by asking her directly because she wouldn’t want to stress you guys out with her problems. So you could do that by creating a fake situation. Like say that you met a friend online jiski ammi is soo sick and she s so worried for her daughter’s future. She has x number of daughters and none of them are married. She has asked me for advice because she is my friend, what should I tell her mama? See what she says in response to that. Does she reveal her concerns too? Even if she doesn’t you can answer your own question by citing different ahadith. By saying ke you have read that Allah has promised that if something is written for something, even if the entire world is to gather against it, that person would get what’s destined for him. And tell her ke you know a woman on youtube who got married early in her life and thought she was so lucky but later own got divorced and now she recalls that her married life was a nightmare and she’d rather stay single. I know of a yutuber like that, that’s why I am mentioning this. So tell her that delay in marriage is because Allah prepares us for the life He has chosen for us. He has to equip us with all the skills we need to raise our children and live with the spouse that he has chosen for us.
Baaqi grief of losses, tell her to read a few verses of qur’an everyday for all the people she has lost. Qur’an reaches the departed souls and Allah eases their hereafter as a result of this. Talk to her about your khalas more often. Don’t let her suppress these feelings of grief. Sometimes crying it all out is the solution. My mother saw my nani breath her last, right infront of her. I thought there’s no way my mom would be able to recover from this trauma. At first it was very hard, she wouldn’t fall asleep no matter how hard she tried. But then I started talking more and more to her about our nani.

View more

Free Advice ' نصيحة مجانية قَّـد تَكْون هَذهِ الرِسْالَة مُتْأخِرة لكن ؛ يجب ألا ننسى الله 🙏🏼!.

ابداً لا تحّملون نفسكم فوك طاقته ! ابداً لا تدوس ع روحكم في سبيل احد لانو محد حيذكر تعبك الهم وحتى تنازلك
واهم شي لا تبادر الاّ للشخص الي ميندمك ع مبادرتك

Say anything to me "Advice for example" ♥️

israaeldeeb3’s Profile PhotoP A N D A "
‏فِيمَ التَّشَاؤُمُ وَالحَيَاةُ جَمِيلَةٌ؟
‏وَعَطَاءُ رَبِّكَ عَنْكَ لَيْسَ بِزَائِلِ
‏اُشْكُرْ عَطَايَاهُ وَعِشْ مُتَفَائِلاً
‏مَا ارْتَاحَ فِي الدُّنْيَا سِوَى المُتَفَائِلِ
Liked by: ㅤㅤ Aml Etman

What’s the best piece of advice a family member has given you?

Be_smile123’s Profile PhotoAsmaa
اني متكلمش عن حد مهما كان مضايقني ومحاولش انتقم ابداً، اخلي فراقي فراق وهجر جميل بمعنى انه خالي من الاذى تماماً لجل العشره.. يكفي بُعدي
لان لما اقرب يا احب بصدق و بكل قلبي يا بلاها ♥️
سمعت الكلام وده احسن نصيحه اتقدمتلي في حياتي كلها

What’s the best piece of advice a family member has given you?

Be_smile123’s Profile PhotoAsmaa
- أنا في تالتة إعدادي كنت نسخة معجونة بمياه عفاريت ومتعرفش يعني ايه استقرار وكتب ومذاكرة، فكل الأقارب والمعارف كانوا شايفين الثانوي لي مضيعة للوقت والمصاريف وحاولوا جاهدين إقناع والدي على إني مدخلهاش لكنه -الله يكرمه ويرضى عنه- قالي ده قرارك ودي حياتك وأنت حر فيها وأنا معك، ولكن لما تغلط تحمّل نتيجة خطأك.
والحمد لله لم أخذله من وقتها.

Comment puis-je développer et mettre en valeur mon écriture pour les jeux vidéo ?

KeepYourEyesPeeled’s Profile PhotoKeepYourEyesPeeled
I heard that IT firms developping computer games employ people for testing these games 😁 - I guess it is dream job for many boys 😅👍. But I keep myself far from computer games because I use to become addicted to things I like very easily 😂 so no advice for you, I am sorry. 🤦‍♀️

Tunay konsi unhain aqwaal zareen parh k sunain hain or mujhe q personal main ye baijh dia. Debate kar mard ban meri behan mard ban warna choriyan pahan kar gungru ki saath naach !!!✌️✌️✌️😂😂😂

AyishaYousafK’s Profile Photo✨ ԹՎɿՏɧԹ ✨
Logon ko expose karny sey acha hai, unhey samjhayen pyaar se. Warna dosry ki ego hurt karo gie tou usney agey sey pathar he marnay hein phool nie barsany. Expose moqa dhoond key kiya jata hai, moqa bana kar nie. I hope so you get it. Mera kaam samjhana tha and please don't get egoistic after reading this. Koi advice karay tou ego pey nie lena chaiye ager ikhtelaaf be hai tou discuss karlo.

If you could instill one piece of advice in a newborn baby’s mind, what advice would you give?

Ayeman_Shabbir’s Profile PhotoAyeman
If you press down on a memory foam pillow and fart in the hole while it expands, it will trap some of the fart particles. The next person who uses it will be surrounded by the smell of the memory of your fart for a good 5 minutes!

Do you have a sensitive person in your life? If so, how do you treat them? Do you find them annoying or emotionally-draining? Do you have advice for them?

The short answer is yes I do. Due to privacy concerns and the emotional health of this individual I cannot go into any detail because she reads everything I write. However I will say this, I tried my best to help her and get her the psychological help she needed. Currently she is under the care of a psychologist and psychiatrist and is living with her parents which I believe is the best possible outcome for her.

i am at that stage of my life where i don't argue. i just say ok and then my self on mute.🦋🗝

Faiza_Ahmad’s Profile PhotoBrown_eyes
That's relatable. But on a second note, are you alright? You seem to be going through a rough patch rn. I don't know who you are but just know that bad days aren't forever. Wtv you are going through rn, it may seem to be permanent and you might feel suffocated, but just know that you don't have to suffer alone. Talk to the people whom you trust and from whom you can get some valid advice, it might be helpful. Take a break and spend some time doing your favourite things. If that seems hard then just get enough rest, eat healthy and don't overthink. It will all be fine, don't worry 💫💜

Happy Mother's Day!! 🤗✨💐🌄 How will you be spending the day? Do you have a good relationship with your mom, or have someone in your life that you would consider a mother figure?

Coolio247’s Profile PhotoJustine Coolioness
In Sweden it actually isn't Mother's Day! Here we celebrate it on the 29th of May. But I did celebrate my grandma's birthday though by going to a 50's inspired diner! Their burgers and shakes are AMAZING, let me tell you 🤤 I'd definitely say I have a good relationship with my mom, she's one of the go-to people I ask for advice in general 😊
Happy Mothers Day  How will you be spending the day Do you have a good

Want advice: a friend iz dating a girl from a year now...., on him askng her 2 write tht she's committed on her social aacs she refused now he wnts advice 😅

HeerJahazHai’s Profile PhotoHeerJahazHai
Personal space is very important in one's life .its better to avoid invading in someone's life unless you get into some thing official. And it should be one's own choice whether she wants it or not

Want advice: a friend iz dating a girl from a year now...., on him askng her 2 write tht she's committed on her social aacs she refused now he wnts advice 😅

HeerJahazHai’s Profile PhotoHeerJahazHai
Can't expect anything good from this generation. They're the cringiest and going to be the worst adults. Itni ghatya Bakwas harkatein dekh sun kar bachay bhi bolein kin baron k beech hamne rehna future mein. Allah ki panaah

{ 7 شوال 1443 هـ} اتعلمت ايه جديد انهاردة؟ *متنسوش صيام بكرة ( ٦ ايام من شوال) *

كنت بقرأ عن ال stress والثيرابيست قال إنه السبب الحقيقي ليه هو سبب داخلي مش خارجي زي ما الناس معتقدة زي إمتحان أو شغل أو فلوس ..إلى آخره.
وضرب أمثلة ع كدا بالشخص الخائف مثلاً. إنه خوفه دا بيعتمد ع كمية منشطات الخوف اللي جواه وكل ما زادت المنشطات دي كل ما هيكون العالم بالنسباله مكان بشع ومخيف.
ومثال بالشخص الغاضب اللي برضو هيشوف كل حاجة عبارة عن chaos of frustration and vexation والشخص المحمل بالذنب دايمًا هيشوف العالم مليان temptation and sin
وفي الآخر قال جملة فيها الخلاصة
What we are holding inside colors our world.

If I have just one advice to anyone, it will be let go ..
stress is eating my health and at some point u’ll discover that it becomes a part of you which is the worst.. let go while u’ve the ability.
بالمناسبة شكرًا.
Liked by: 912° سلوى

I lost my job after 3 days, I don’t know how or why. How would you get over sudden loss?

BlueEyesWhiteGuy’s Profile PhotoReaper
I'm sorry that happened to you, the same thing has happened to me before and it absolutely sucks. The best piece of advice I can give - and what worked for me - is to just let your feelings out. Find someone who you trust who you can vent to. If there is nobody available, open up a word document and write it all out. Say harsh things! Use bad language! Call your former boss every horrible name under the sun!
He ain't ever gonna see what you wrote, so it doesn't matter. And trust me, it'll feel muuuch better once you get all of that anger and frustration out.

If you could instill one piece of advice in a newborn baby’s mind, what advice would you give?

Ayeman_Shabbir’s Profile PhotoAyeman
never judge other without knowing.
dont believe if someone tell about other.
Always give respect.
be kind.
Always be respectful to girls.
last And most important
stay far away from those whose has a negative vibes. other than live your life the fullest. make your family. fulfill your dreams. Help your friends in need of time without any execpations.

Depression se kese nikle need some advice

Yaar mere se advice koi na le please, aik dfa i wanted to get rid of a CLINGY girl and as I'm a nice person (mazaq k ilawa) and i didn't want to break her heart. Me and my friend made a deal and we told her k hum dono GAY hain and we used to hold hands uske samne university main,but little did i know k wo KUTTI ye bat puri university mai mashoor kr degi ;-;
Bari mushkil se aakhri 2 saal guzaray hain university mai ;-;

Hi! SO I want to learn drawing but I don't know how to do it. I mean don't know from where to start and how I would proceed. It could be better to attend an art class, but I work full time so I don't have time to attend them. What would be your advice for that? Thanks.

Hello there! No worries at all, first off, I’d practice with what you can access already - ie, doing still life sketches - it could be things in your room or a fruit bowl etc, just to play around with lighting, composition and such. I’d check out YouTube too - I’m sure there are artists on there who do tutorials or can give practical advice to those starting from scratch, on how to draw. To be honest, a lot of it is really the art of seeing and using observation - such as, “How is this item lit? “Where are the shadows falling?”“What angle is the light source coming from?”
All of those dictate the strength of how hard or lightly you sketch an area.
If you wanted, you could also get someone to pose for you, if you wanted to try out life drawing - it could simply just be observing someone sitting and doing there own thing or drawing a pet, as opposed to a full on model shoot, aha. Learning to see and draw things that are in person help a lot, for honing your initial skills. It could just be drawing some plants you may have, for example.
In terms of materials, you can’t go wrong with basics - even if it’s just computer paper and a basic set of pencils, but I recommend any pencils within the HB - 6B range. It basically means that they range in boldness and pigmentation, so you can experiment with drawing deeper shadows, tones and values, etc. Anything that’s H to 4H I don’t recommend, as the lines from the lead are incredibly harsh (hence the H meaning Hard), and it’s very difficult to erase.
There’s probably many art books you can refer to too, on the basics of learning how to draw. From my own experience though, I used to draw all the time as a child, and over time, your skills and observation naturally improve and flourish. All I can say is don’t worry about mistakes - they’re key to learning how to improve next, and it’s a perfectly normal part of the process, and doesn’t mean you’re not cut out to be an artist or to just simply draw for pleasure.
I hope that helps a little, but feel free to ask me anything any time! :)

View more

Hi SO I want to learn drawing but I dont know how to do it I mean dont know from

Should I invest or save my money

You must save before you invest. When you have enough discretionary income (it doesn't take a great amount to get started), you'll have to acquaint yourself with investment vehicles, financial instruments and opportunities which may be profitable. Assess risk, devise a strategy and consider fees / taxes. The best advice that I can give you is to do your homework, monitor trends closely and read as much as you can. This is a highly complex topic which requires patience, research and the proper attitude. Best of luck.
Should I invest or save my money

Language: English