#cuddling

I strongly disagree with judging someone’s identity. By identity, I mean their sexuality, gender, etc. If they aren’t harming anyone, live and let live. And, not understanding someone who identifies differently isn’t a valid excuse to be judgmental either. If you don’t personally relate to it, or you wouldn’t choose that life, okay fine, but it doesn’t make it inherently non-sensical or wrong. 🤷🏼‍♀️

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The way I see it, putting people in small boxes of who you think they should be/how they should identify based on your own bias, and judging them if they step outside of it, never helps anyone. It only tells those people that they can’t be themselves with you, and ultimately, they can’t trust you. 😅 I’m a firm believer that you meet people where they’re at, and you learn from each other, and grow together. And when someone has enough confidence in you to show who they truly are, listen, learn, and support them.

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I’ll give you a personal example: I’m asexual, largely s*x averse, but romantically attracted to men. When I share this part of myself, people often place value judgements on how “worthy” I am of a relationship. They believe they can talk me out of it, that I haven’t found the right person yet, I’m stuck up, selfish, cold, anti-s*x, and so on. All before even attempting to understand that asexuality is different for everyone, and doesn’t always mean “anti-s*x.” 😑 It also has nothing to do with hormone imbalance, trauma, or if your body functions normally. It has to do with attraction. I don’t feel s*xual attraction to anyone, period. However, does that mean I’m a robot and feel nothing? Or that I hate any kind of affection/intimacy? Absolutely not. I’m averse to s*x itself. There’s many ways to be intimate and create a strong bond outside of that though. Heck, I’m a very affectionate person, I love hugs, holding hands, cuddling, etc, but you wouldn’t know that without taking even a moment to learn what asexuality means for me.

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Point being, when you take time to truly understand someone, you can learn from that. We weren’t born hating or judging people because they identify a certain way, that comes from somewhere. I just feel like people should be free to show their true selves without others nitpicking/debating whether their existence is valid or not. If it doesn’t harm anyone else, I feel that doing so is a one way road to a lonely existence. People don’t have to tolerate or accept the box you think they are better off in, and frankly, they shouldn’t.

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Enjoying a beautiful sunset/skies - nature, cuddling up with a good book on a rainy day, trying out a new recipe and savouring the delicious flavours, and taking a moment to appreciate the small joys in life, like the sound of birds chirping or the smell of fresh flowers. These simple pleasures bring me happiness and one of the little things that truly matters to me is the genuine connections I have with people. It is the moments when I can have meaningful conversations, share laughter, and feel understood and supported. These connections remind me of the beauty of human relationships and the importance of empathy and kindness. Another thing that matters to me is personal growth and self-reflection. Taking the time to learn, explore new ideas, and challenge myself helps me become a better version of myself. And I love noticing things. I delight in the details. The hidden depth. The usually disregarded and overlooked. It is these little things that add depth and meaning to my life. 🌻

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Most certainly, all of the above options could be considered as great feelings. However, the ones I would like to highlight are as below:

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1. When someone appreciates beyond bodies and genuinely compliments things other than just appearance.

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2. Able to sleep a tad extra on an off-day when you worked hard the entire week to achieve your goals.

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3. Taking off your shoes after a long hectic day or that first gulp of water after walking home on a hot day. Sometimes, moments of relaxation are the moments of happiness.

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4. Peeling the plastic sticker off electronic gadgets which you just bought. With own money? More sweet.

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5. Successfully moving on from toxic relationship and feeling the freedom within.

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6. Reading your favourite novel on a rainy day, while sitting in the balcony and holding a cup of tea/coffee.

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7. Unexpectedly meeting old friends and end up living your childhood once more.

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8. Witnessing your parents smile and talk about you with pride in their eyes.

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9. From being a part of the crowd to being the reason for a good crowd.

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10. And sometimes, even the tiniest of things like "Cashback" and "Out for delivery".

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I prefer the winter. I feel like it's easier to warm up if you wear multiple layers of clothes and have a thick blanket. Also, who doesn't love cuddling and drinking hot chocolate? In the summer, if you don't have AC you're pretty much out of luck. The electrical bill cost too much as well. You can go completely nude and still be too hot!
I live in Florida, so "winter" is relative but definitely winter. Summer is hot here and there's no other way to describe it. It's extremely humid and in the summer it also rains every single day. The only thing that makes summer manageable here versus going to other cities is that the A/C is always blasting. Whether it's your car, your job, your home...you're just basically going from AC to AC. I noticed in northern cities where they don't blast the AC it's uncomfortably hot when you walk into establishments.
Winter. I live in Missouri, so we have Summer for like 6 months. Then a day of fall, then close to 6 months of winter, with around 11 days of Spring randomly interspersed throughout. It sucks. The summer is unbearably hot and the winter is excruciatingly cold. Living here fucking sucks I still choose Winter though. I can always put on more layers, whereas with summer, you can only take off so much. Plus, the heat makes everyone ornery and bitchy. The cold just makes everyone sad, and I can handle that just fine, because living here fucking sucks.
Oh my goodness I love both though! Summer is perfect for sunrise walks with no one but the birds and me. The flowers and endless fields of green grass definitely are my favourite: then again, winter brings frost. It covers all the trees in little white jewels and the way that the world sparkles in the sunlight is just breathtaking
Summer. I hate the cold... passionately. It's easier to cool down than to warm up,not that I'd want to cool down. The only thing that sucks during the summer is I have to deal with idiots that like to blast the a/c to 65.
Other than how it looks I don’t particularly like or dislike Winter. Cold wind is bad. Summer’s heat is terrible and it doesn’t look nice outside. Just bright.
I like the long days in the summer but hate the heat, fall is really the sweet spot. I enjoy cool/sunny/long days.
I don't so much mind the summer heat itself, but the humidity here is unreal and it turns my hair all poofy. Personally, I prefer autumn over all the other seasons.
I’m not particularly fond of winter because there’s nothing to do in my area and it almost never snows. It’s just cold. I like summer because there’s more things to do activity wise. But I HATE the bugs. Spring looks beautiful but makes my allergies horrible. Same with Winter, but it’s also cold and has what I believe to be a holiday with unused potential and is instead given to children.

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One of my aunt's made me a "pound puppy" back when they were really popular (youngsters look it up). She made 3, one for me and my 2 brothers. They were all unique so to a little kid this was way cool. I still have it 35 years later. The plastic nose broke off but other than that it still in good shape. It's an antique now in storage.
My parents used to give me a stuffed animal for every holiday. When I was 2 they gave me a stuffed dog for Valentine’s Day. I carried it everywhere and slept with it till I was 9. His name was Bosko-Sepia (Bosko from the old cartoon, Sepia from a Crayola crayon, I just liked the word sepia lol). My mom secretly packed him in my things when I went to college. Almost 36 years later, Bosko-Sepia lives on my bed, next to my pillow. His head flops around, one of his ears is almost torn off and he’s been sewed up a couple of times. If my house burned down, he is one of the things I would grab.
Kept the panda plush that his family bought for him on Christmas back when he was 2 years old. 42 years later and he still has it, even when he moved out of his dad's place. Now it just sits at the very corner of his drawer/desk behind a non-functioning desk computer. Surprisingly still intact after all those years. But I find it adorable and slightly amusing when guys still keep their childhood stuffed animals, even if only a few years or decades has gone by. Cuz in most cases I've seen, they would usually hide them away or get embarrassed over it being visible when someone comes over. The small stuffed bear my best friend gave me when I moved from the US. The bunny from when I first got into anime. The miny beanie stuffed whale from when my family visited a zoo. The bigger teddy bear from when I graduated high school.(My class went to a mall together and I bought it at a toy store) The oldest is the mini whale, which I've had since I was 8.
I have some family in Australia (don't personally know them, my late grandfather did but we live in Brazil so I guess I'll never know) and they sent my mom a kangaroo which was passed down to me, still in great condition and will be passed down to my children too. I don’t get very sentimental with childhood stuff but it felt very wrong to just throw them away. They spent many years protecting me from getting my foot grabbed by the monster under the bed, the least I owe them is a dignified retirement.
I had a collection of beautiful teddy bears my dad used to get me when he went on business trips. These days they belong to my kids. The first one I got, which I used to sleep with, is the least appealing to them because the fur is somewhat matted, but they enjoy cuddling with all of the teddy bears.

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🌷- my favorite thing about spring has to be the sprouting of the trees and flowers. I also get to do some gardening, nothing major though just some flowers and veggies. It’s pleasing to watch plants grow, they’re like my children. My least favorite thing about spring are the frequent rainfalls and overcasts.
☀️- my favorite thing about the summer are the longer days, my birthday lol , the sun is out more so I get to soak in that vitamin D. This is actually my least favorite season out of all of them, I dislike the heat, ugh and the emergence of various bugs ( especially those mosquitos ).
🍁- fall is my favorite season, I looovvveee the colors of the leaves , so vibrant and pretty. I get to wear my cozy sweaters, and boots. Oh and the temperature is just right. The only things a I dislike about this season is the shorter days, and the overcasts.
❄️- my favorite thing about this season has to be the first snow fall, snowflakes are precious little things. I am still awestruck at the fact that each snowflake have their own unique structure.. so amazing. Definitely cuddling weather🥰. Least favorite thing has to be those frigid days, it can be a bit too much.

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My ideal guy is ;

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• someone whos pleasing to look at, doesnt have to be super handsome but just a nice face.
• has a good body whether its from genetics or he works for it.
• who can make me laugh like laugh until im crying & my lungs hurt.
• who main veins red pill ALL DAY
• who can have an argument/debate without freaking out or getting angry.
• someone who tries to be positive all the time & enjoys breaking down the psychological aspect of whats going on around them.
• they can cook AND they love food.
• likes to dress up every once & awhile to go out somewhere nice & just live it up.
• someone i can just sit in big sweats binging some show for hours & not get bored.
• lots of cuddling
• big animal lover
• when they smile it makes me smile.
• someone who never wants to stop learning & pushing themselves.
• they love to spoil me & make me happy with stupid shit i dont need but they do it anyway cause they like to see me smile

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(I cant think of any more but im sure there’s more things lol)

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I had a long and intense cuddle session with my cat on my lap.
He loves my lap and in the past years we had a strong bonding, but for a while now he kinda changed, he wouldn't follow me that often around anymore and didn't like to cuddle when my other cat was around. He clearly has some psychological issues (just like me, haha), so I just let him be and tried to be there if he were ready to show more affection again.
One evening the past days he was inside our house and cuddling with my fiancé, but since this guy was exhausted I sat down and invited my cat on my lap just once. He took that invitation instantly and cuddled a lot with me then, he even started moaning a little bit when I fondled over his eyes...so cute! It was a special moment and I feel like we finally grew a bit closer again. Our bonding the past months wasn't particularly bad, but I think it's great for our both mental health if we can rely on each other in a closer relationship.

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With somebody you don’t have feelings for it feels really good for your genitalia more than anything, and that’s totally fine and lots of fun, but great sex while in love is just another level. I feel warmth in my entire body and just have more desires to kiss and be physically close to the person. The post nut with love makes me want to cuddle while often times after sex with people I don’t care about, I don’t feel like cuddling them or sometimes even touching them after and I kinda just want to leave after I nut because I don’t care about them.
It is definitely a more intimate and satisfying experience to make love to a woman I care for. I want her to feel good, more so than I do. I love her reactions to what I do and the level of comfort I feel around her increases my ability and motivation to perform. It's more about me and using her to get myself off. That being said, I have rarely if ever had sex with a girl I haven't had at least some feelings for. In short, the level of feeling determined the level of intimate pleasure we both experienced.
I like having sex with my partner because we understand each other's kinks. It's passionate lovemaking, and most of my one night stands didn't like me slapping them, spitting on them and calling them whores, etc. So, it's nice to be with someone that wants to be degraded but also cuddle up and watch a movie...
Having sex with a girl you love contains certain feelings and brings forward a more powerful sense of vulnerability during intimacy. Sometimes, you get that butterfly feeling in your stomach and don’t know if it’s from the enchiladas you ate last night or if it’s love at first sight. Having sex with a girl I don’t have feelings for doesn’t contain much remorse because there wasn’t any feelings attached, only sexual arousal for a momentary bliss. It is for selfish reasons, and you can tell wether the enchiladas you ate last night affects you. A lot of players or what they call, “Pick-up artists” tend to manipulate women’s feelings and attraction for their own sexual pleasures. It is for selfish reasons because the pick up artist main goal is to build attraction in the woman without the man developing “one-nitis”. For those who don’t know what “one-nitis” is, it’s a powerful weapon in relationships, so powerful it will ruin a man’s entire mind and heart up if he gave in to it. This is a red flag in courtship. It is developed if the man’s attraction for the woman is far greater than his own strength and dignity. It is that powerful to abstain attraction from any other woman in the world. He loses all respect for himself and salutes high to the pedal stool he envisions the woman of his life to be.
I wouldn’t even sleep with a girl I don’t have feelings for. It’s not even worth the time. The sex is just bad and underwhelming. Sex with a girl I have feelings for though? Instant erection and good times will be had.

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