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Roughly when do you eat your various meals throughout the day? 🕔🍔

TobbeAsks’s Profile PhotoTobbe
Because of my depression I really struggle to eat regularly and, most importantly, consistently. It’s something I’ve been working on with my psychiatrist, but so far it hasn’t really improved.

Who do you actually look up to the most?

brown_fox359’s Profile PhotoBrown_fox35
When it comes to admiration, I look up to people who have the weight of the world heavy on their hearts, but they still manage to make everyone around them laugh and smile.
I remember in particular Robin Williams and Matthew Perry. Many comedians struggle with depression also. Those people to me, are real heroes. They invested into others, despite their emotional circumstance.
Here is one with a happy ending… a man born into a circumstance that would have destroyed most people, but instead, he used humor and inspirational speaking to give hope to the world. His name is Nick Vujicic.
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Who do you actually look up to the most

Having mental health problems are normal. What kinda problems are you facing? Problems could be even negative thoughts or more than this.

laraibajmal72’s Profile PhotoLaraib Ajmal
It's actually not normal to have mental health problems. It's no joke. We take it so lightly. Always consult a therapist or psychiatrist for it.
Depression, anxiety, Stress that leads you to a major sensory problem and can lead you to so many hardships.
SO NO! MENTAL HEATH PROBLEMS ARE NOT NORMAL.

Müssen wir uns überhaupt für irgendetwas schämen?

Fea3li’s Profile PhotoPhe
Die Frage, ob wir kollektiv und allgemein Scham empfinden "müssen", ist sozio-kulturell ziemlich komplex und bar jedweder objektiven Universalisierbarkeit. Scham ist ein Gefühl, das tief in unserer menschlichen Erfahrung verwurzelt ist und unterschiedliche Bedeutungen und Funktionen in verschiedenen Kulturen und Kontexten hat.
Aus moralischer und sozialer Sicht kann Scham eine wichtige Rolle dabei spielen, unser Verhalten zu regulieren. Wenn wir uns für eine Handlung schämen, die gesellschaftlich oder im sozialen "Verhaltenskodex" als falsch oder unethisch angesehen wird, kann dies uns dazu motivieren, unser Verhalten zu ändern und zukünftige "Fehltritte" zu vermeiden. In sozialen Kontexten trägt Scham zur Wahrung gesellschaftlicher Normen und Werte bei, was Anpassung und Harmonie innerhalb der Gemeinschaft fördert. Allerdings verhält sich die kognitive Wahrnehmung von Scham nicht immer moralisch einheitlich, allen voran, wenn diese durch eher schädliche Narrative und Lebensweisen gefördert wird, beispielsweise im Kontext von weiblicher Séxualität (Zwangsbéschneidungen, Slút-Shaming, etc.).
Aus psychologischer Perspektive kann Scham zur Selbstreflexion anregen und dabei helfen, das eigene Verhalten zu überdenken. Sie bietet die Gelegenheit, aus Fehlern zu lernen und persönliches Wachstum zu fördern. Allerdings kann übermäßige oder unangemessene Scham zu negativen psychologischen Auswirkungen wie geringem Selbstwertgefühl, Angst oder Depression führen.
Kulturelle Unterschiede spielen ebenfalls eine große Rolle. In manchen Kulturen ist Scham eine zentrale Komponente des sozialen Lebens, während andere Kulturen mehr Wert auf individuelle Autonomie und weniger auf kollektive Normen legen. In Kulturen, die stark auf "Ehre" und Scham ausgerichtet sind, können Verstöße gegen soziale Normen schwere soziale Konsequenzen haben und das Gefühl der Scham verstärken.
Ethisch betrachtet, argumentieren einige Philosophen, dass Scham notwendig ist, um moralische Integrität zu bewahren, während andere betonen, dass wir uns eher auf konstruktive Selbstkritik als auf destruktive Scham konzentrieren sollten. Ein empathischer Ansatz könnte dazu führen, dass wir weniger Wert auf Scham legen und stattdessen mehr auf Verständnis und Vergebung setzen.
Ob wir uns also für etwas schämen müssen, hängt von einer Vielzahl von Faktoren ab, einschließlich individueller Überzeugungen, kultureller Hintergründe und spezifischer Situationen. Wichtig ist, dass wir uns bewusst machen, wie Scham unser Verhalten beeinflusst und wie wir sie auf eine gesunde und konstruktive Weise handhaben können, ohne ungesundes Schuldbewusstsein auf Menschen zu projizieren (wie bereits erwähnt bei eher fragwürdigen "moralischen" Ansichten, die eher auf Fundamentalismus und Séxismus fußen).
Die Notwendigkeit von subjektiven Gefühlen ist ohnehin sehr schwierig aus einem moralisch-objektiven Standpunkt heraus zu beantworten, aber grundsätzlich neige ich eher zu einem "Nein".

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How to recover from breakup

PSYCHOLOGICALLY SPEAKING!
There are five stages of grief after breakup/loss.
1.You should NOT FORCE yourself to come out of any stage too quickly. Because if you suppress your emotions, they will come out more worse in the later phase of your life.
2. It's really okay to be in the "delusional world"/denial for a while. Don't force yourself to accept that's it's over RATHER try to use your logical and analytical mind to make yourself believe that it's really over. (Find different activities/hobbies/WRITE YOUR EMOTIONS.
3. It's really okay to feel angry/frustrated or have mood swings. FEEL EVERY EMOTION.
Tip! (Each stage can vary in different people and it's possible to experience these stages in any other order)
4. Bargaining means "questioning" (why me?, why he did this? Wasn't I enough? etc). Depression is when you have sleepless nights/extra sleep and your appetite gets disturbed. (Extra hungry or not feeling hungry at all). Acceptance is to fully accept whatever happened and enjoy life to the fullest.
5. You should make new friends rather than isolating yourself. Hangout, keep yourself busy, watch movies etc.
6. Keep their gifts hidden from your sight.
7. Try to reflect positive energy. It helps, I swear.
THESE WERE JUST FEW TIPS, FOR MORE INFO CONTACT ME!

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Are the days when you can't be bothered more often than the days when you can be??

Yes, but small social interactions help me feel better about myself, even tho I don’t get to interact with others in person as much as I’d like to. Unfortunately, I can’t be bothered on days that my depression, OCD, and/or social anxiety get the best of me and one of them is usually bound to ruin my day(s) at some point. I find that the more I distract myself by being surrounded by the people I feel comfortable around, listening to music, spending money on the things I love, and/or reading books, the less bothered I am by trivial matters.

Do you struggle to fake it, and make it in this world?

FreshICYGirl’s Profile PhotoBe Yourself Always
When it comes to confidence, I can struggle to fake it until I’m actually confident one day but I’ve been told that being confident alone doesn’t get you anywhere unless you also take action. I do think that believing in oneself and some confidence is needed in order to be more productive and motivated to reach your goals tho. I don’t struggle with the faking it part but making it to the places I want to be seems more difficult to do on my own as I’ve always relied on my family. Having depression and social anxiety usually does hold me back from being productive and taking chances in life. But, the good thing is that I am able to socialize with others irl when I train myself to pretend as if I’m not the alien I make myself out to be in my head at times.

Hi Livi. I'm 50 years old man and have always lived at home with my parents because I have suffered from major depressive disorder since the age of 21. Should I feel a loser in your opinion?

Hello! I’m sorry to hear that truly, depression is awful and I can’t imagine what it must have felt like to have suffered it to such an extent for so long. No, you shouldn’t feel that way at all. Everyone has their own battles and it’d be greatly unkind for someone to judge you for that. I think so long as you’re okay with being with your parents, and they are too, then that’s all that matters really :)

What do you do to make sure you don't oversleep? ⏰

TobbeAsks’s Profile PhotoTobbe
I try to go to bed at the same time to get my 6-8 hours of sleep. If I have no anxiety and less depression, 7 hours of sleep is enough for me.
Date:17.05.24
Time:16:31
What do you do to make sure you dont oversleep

When did you realize you had ADHD?

i've never been diagnosed, but i suspect i have it (or at least traits of it). it's been increasingly difficult for me to pay attention to things, i lose track of what i'm saying or forget mid-sentence, i procrastinate on certain things a lot, etc.
however ... i'm also not sure if those things can be attributed to severe depression, too. especially since i've been dealing with depression for 20 years.

Interesting? No... I grew up in a ghetto. We don't do Private School or Gifted. Lex can tell you about Coney Island back in the day... Not the greatest place to grow up.

Apeshitz’s Profile PhotoApeshitz
Doesn’t mean it’s not interesting. People here seem to think I come from a wealthy family. I think it’s more that I was an only child and all money was able to go towards me for things like private school and homeschool program. I had a great at home life growing up but not when it came to being amongst peers. Severe “social” anxiety starting much too young than should ever be expected in childhood. And severe depression developed in pre teens. Both lasted until my mid 20s. Even now I’m not comfortable in social situations. So when I say something like wanting to see Lex or something, that goes to show how much I truly adore him.

At what age did you finally start feeling like an adult? What caused it?

tristanandiseult3’s Profile PhotoMarie Curiosity
I felt like an adult for the first time at the age of 11 due to the death of my beloved grandfather.
Since that time I have suffered from depression and this has greatly affected my life, because it has ceased to be the same.
I had a hard time trying to find the meaning of life.
Date:13.05.24
Time:19:45
At what age did you finally start feeling like an adult What caused it

Love was about trust, companionship, support, care but now it feels like all its about is heartbreak, depression, betrayal, trust issues

Because one falls in love without getting to know the mindset and personality.
Of course, it will result in a heartbreak because you create a version of them in your mind that doesn't exist, and choose to love the potential.

It's not just for mental issues? Therapy isn't medication. People go there for all kinds of stuff. I've been there when I was dealing with grief. It also helped me with my panic disorder, anxiety disorder and depression. Why don't you give it a try?

Talking to people gives me more anxiety. That would never ever be the answer for me. I walked straight out during the sessions the two times I was forced as a teen.

I have experienced a lot myself, which caused me to be very depressed, but since this girl came into my life, I am so happy like never before. It's really difficult to find a genuine person in life, but when you do, life becomes beautiful.

A person aint going to cure your depression my bro. The cycle will keep repeating until you fix yourself.

you know you're depressed when you wake up and wonder why did you even wake up for... and you go back to sleep for another few hours because you don't want to be awake.

No, I am simply extremely exhausted, to the extent that I need to catch up on missed hours of rest. I don't wonder why I woke up it's usually because I have to go pee or go do something important like work if it's not my day off.
Reducing depression often involves a combination of lifestyle changes, professional support, and self-care strategies. Here are some approaches that can help:
Regular Exercise: Engaging in regular physical activity, such as walking, jogging, yoga, or swimming, can help improve mood, reduce symptoms of depression, and increase energy levels. Aim for at least 30 minutes of moderate exercise most days of the week.
Healthy Lifestyle: Adopting a healthy lifestyle can have a positive impact on mood and overall well-being. This includes eating a balanced diet rich in fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and lean proteins, getting an adequate amount of sleep each night, and avoiding excessive alcohol and drug use.
Social Support: Maintaining strong social connections and seeking support from friends, family members, or support groups can provide emotional support, reduce feelings of isolation, and improve coping skills.
Stress Management: Learning and practicing stress management techniques, such as mindfulness meditation, deep breathing exercises, or progressive muscle relaxation.

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I quit my job last fall and I thought that'd make my mental health be better. It did for a while but now it's starting to affect me. I feel unproductive and kind of lonely, isolated. I feel as though I don't exist socially anymore. I wasn't happy working but I'm not happy now either... Advice?

I’m currently going through this right now as a college student who doesn’t and never had a job, always at home and in my room being isolated from everyone. You seem to show signs of depression which is something I’ve been dealing with for years. I’m also not productive since I can’t even force myself to start working on my assignments these days and I also neglect personal hygiene on a regular basis even tho deep down, I enjoy being clean and taking care of myself. Maybe you need to find a job that you’re more passionate about, contact old friends if you can, distract yourself with hobbies like sports, or reward yourself after accomplishing a certain task by buying yourself something (but not all the time if you’re worried about finances). Listening to the new music I discover, reading books that help me escape reality, talking to my family members, and having online friends help me cope with my situation in the meantime.

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How would you describe a functional person?

If you can get yourself to take showers regularly or take care of yourself in other ways and have found ways to prevent depression or other problems from taking full control over your life, if you can usually express yourself and your needs to others, if you can make rational and/or good decisions for the most part, if you can focus on tasks and have goals that you’re working towards accomplishing, and if you can have healthy relationships with others then you’re a functional person overall (in my opinion).

في حدا قدر يتعالج من هوس نتف الشعر تعبت منه

اختي كان عندها حالة شبيهة، بس مش لدرجة الهوس، بس قدرتلها ووقفتها، بتقدري توقفيها صبية❤️ بس روحي عند اخصائي نفسي بيساعدك احسن شي خاصة ازا عندك depression/ anxiety

How do you deal with depression?

FallenAngel1991x’s Profile PhotoHana Cruz
I spend a lot of my time being online and relaxing but lately, I’ve been in relaxation mode all the time and maybe it’s just my depression that’s making it harder for me to focus on anything that doesn’t interest me so I escape my “boring” obligations by being on my phone. I talk to my family members everyday, text my friends, sleep throughout the day or take multiple naps when I’ve got work to do but no energy to get anything done, listen to music, rely on my parents to pick up the slack for me, and easily get triggered by the things people normally wouldn’t even think twice about. I’m not dealing with depression as much as I am letting it consume me nowadays.

Have you ever found yourself hoarding stuff? Today, while cleaning, I realized I have a lot of junk. I have 10 pairs of earphones that no longer work, empty medicine bottles, leftover burned candles, and various other items that serve no purpose. Makes me wonder why I even kept them in the 1st place

I hoard all kinds of unnecessary things on my table/in my room like empty medication bottles, glass cups that need to be washed, used paper towels that need to be thrown out, stuffed animals that haven’t been touched in a long time, an old purse, etc. it’s some of the consequences of being lazy and also living with depression at the same time.
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What's your life story?

laxmikanth_cool’s Profile PhotoLax
I was born in California. My parents moved us across country here to upstate New York by truck when I was around six months old due to safety and my grandmother living here. I was a shy child and played quietly on my own or with younger kids that my mother babysat. I had a bit of trouble with school due to having a Mexican last name in an area full of white kids. I was also a bit chubby. But I always had a few good friends and usually a little boyfriend in elementary school. No major bullying but the race and weight things have affected me even into adulthood. Middle school was tough, as my anxiety and depression grew and kids got meaner. I switched to private school after middle school was over due to my anxiety. Kids were kind and interesting there but my anxiety still won and I switched to homeschooling after that. I hung around with a girl that my mom used to babysit at that point. My looks blossomed and we were boy crazy. Always had a lot of innocent fun going places and meeting boys. I met the boy from my first serious relationship at 17 and ended up living at his big family house with tons of his friends and family members. I still was very shy so it was a strange experience but I loved most of those people. We were together for a year and a half. Once that relationship ended I met a guy from Kentucky online about six months later. After I took a couple visits out there he moved to New York to be with me. That relationship ended after two years. I then ended up with a guy I knew from downtown. That relationship had a couple brief breakups for two years. My first apartment was with him. After our breakup I got my own apartment alone and we continued to see each other unofficially until he met the woman he soon married. At that point things really began to change for me. I had some profound spiritual experiences, learned to love my solitude, was working and enjoying my little line life with my amazing cat. I wanted to stay single but I met a guy online and we met and dated for about a month. It was terrible. He left me when I told him my period was late. 🤣 It eventually came thankfully. Then I went back to wanting to stay single. But I again met a man online. We didn’t meet in person right away. It was a bit intense with him telling me we were twin flames and such. But we eventually met and “married,” got another apartment, collected a bunch of stray cats and eventually moved to this house out here in the woods for the safety of the cats since we weren’t supposed to have that many at the last place. Tumultuous relationship to say the least. Many awful years. Lots of off and on stuff after about a decade. And that’s about it for now. Did anyone else write more than this? 😁

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Do you ever feel bad because you don't have a career? I don't work because I am disabled, but I wish I had a career. I know it's not my fault, it's not like I asked for this. But I feel like I could've done much more with my life if it weren't for my health issues. I am a very dedicated person.

I do actually but that’s not my number one priority at the moment. I want to get engaged and possibly spend the rest of my life with someone but it doesn’t look like that’s going to happen anytime soon and because of that, I don’t feel motivated to do anything these days since it’s all I ever seem to think about. Even tho I’m not physically disabled, I do suffer from depression, social anxiety, and OCD so it’s hard for me to focus on the bigger picture when I’ve got these problems that always seem to get in the way of me from living my life to its fullest. Being a dedicated person who has their priorities straight will get you somewhere in life, even if it doesn’t get you to the point where you work a 9 to 5 job on a regular basis. I wish I didn’t worry about the things I can’t control or force but here I am worried about the things that should come or occur naturally but I don’t have the patience to wait for “the one” to show up years later. I just want to live a life where I’m no longer always in my room and make my parents proud for once.

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What is your favorite 'poverty' meal that you would continue eating no matter how wealthy you became in life?

Morgen_muffel’s Profile PhotoMorgen_muffel
I like this question.
So, when my great grandmother was alive, (she passed when I was 13) she would tell me about the stories of her days during the great depression. Her favorite story was her "Poor Man's Spaghetti". Most people loves spaghetti, but she wouldn't have the financial needs to get what was needed for the "normal" spaghetti. So she improvised. She saved the recipe, and in her honor, we make it once a year. There are different variations of it, but we keep this recipe secret, so it's only within the family. So my favorite "poverty" meal is my great grandmother's "Poor Man's Spaghetti".

My parents complain about me not taking care of myself while I’m depressed and they remind me that no guy will be ok with the way I’m living right now due to depression and a few other issues I have. Do you think they’re right about that?

I think the reason why your parents want you to take care of yourself is wrong. You should want to take care of yourself for you. Guys are secondary to self-care. Depression is a heavy burden and it can only be overcome by the strength of small steps. Are you seeing a Dr?
My parents complain about me not taking care of myself while Im depressed and

Do you think it’s possible for depression to make it harder for someone to focus on their work? I’ve been feeling more depressed than usual, am so absentminded when it comes to my assignments, and am also determined to change my life yet doing nothing while being on a high dosage of antidepressants.

Froyh’s Profile PhotoMerve
Yes, it definitely makes it harder. When I'm feeling down and even try to distract my mind it's still hard to completely remove how I feel. Feelings still seem to hit me and don't just go away. Usually when I'm like that I also don't want to do anything or be around anyone. Sometimes I have to force myself to do what I need to do in order to get things done. Sometimes doing what I need to do can be a distraction to my mind and can also help at the moment as well. It may not be easy, but you can do it. Believe in yourself.

Do you think it’s possible for depression to make it harder for someone to focus on their work? I’ve been feeling more depressed than usual, am so absentminded when it comes to my assignments, and am also determined to change my life yet doing nothing while being on a high dosage of antidepressants.

Froyh’s Profile PhotoMerve
Of course it makes it harder, but it’s not impossible. Trust me, I didn’t have much motivation up until the last few years. I forced myself to do things, even when I wanted to stay in bed. I felt stuck for so long because I did the “stay at home” thing so my Husband could work on himself, and you do eventually get use to not focusing on your own goals, but I got myself out of that rut. I didn’t think I’d ever get to where I am now, either, but I managed to do well for myself, and that’s on top of dealing with CPTSD. It’s hard changing things when they’ve been the same for so long, but you can do it. I’m sorry you’ve been feeling more depressed, but give yourself more credit. Don’t be harsh on yourself either! ☺️

Do you think it’s possible for depression to make it harder for someone to focus on their work? I’ve been feeling more depressed than usual, am so absentminded when it comes to my assignments, and am also determined to change my life yet doing nothing while being on a high dosage of antidepressants.

Froyh’s Profile PhotoMerve
Of course... I had to take myself off active duty because I can't get my head in the game... I hate being in this funk

My parents think that I would depress my future husband if I were to get married because I myself am depressed and hardly ever leave the house. Do you think depression can be contagious when/if you live with someone who is depressed?

I wouldn’t say it’s contagious, but it can definitely rub off on others. What’s making you depressed? I’d say work on it and hope you feel better. You can still find someone, but most won’t stay on around someone who’s constantly depressed for long.
Especially if they’re not working on it. But I wouldn’t listen to her.
Tbr, you being in the house might play a big part with your depression. I say go out more, the sun helps a lot with mental health in general, especially depression. Hope you’re having a good day!

Were you afraid of vampires when you were a child?

No. I wanted to be one. I identified with the idea of something dead, but still wandering the Earth seeking life. Truly I've wanted to die since I was a very small child. It's the earliest thought I ever remembered having in fact. More than that I wanted to feel joy for life. Even in its destruction. In that way vampires are beautiful to me. A monster who is neither living nor dead. Who must take life to experience life. It is a lot like depression isn't it? That being said I don't feel like I want to die anymore. Not because anything changed. I just came to understand that death would be even more empty than a life unwanted
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Is it worth beating yourself up over being inattentive when it comes to your work, if/when you’re feeling miserable almost all the time due to depression? I feel bad for being uninterested in nearly everything but at the same time, I know I didn’t choose to be this way yet my family disagrees w/ me.

These days work has much duty of care to help with your depression as your family does 🤷🏻‍♂️ do you have a mental health officer?

What is one item on your to-do list that you are currenyly procrastinating on?

Morgen_muffel’s Profile PhotoMorgen_muffel
Everything 😭 I have to work on my assignments/school work (which is my main responsibility at the moment) but I’ve been putting them off for so long and am currently trying to turn in everything at the very last minute. I also tend to procrastinate about brushing my teeth and/or washing my face and do have a habit of neglecting doing self care regularly because I make tasks such a big deal inside my head and usually avoid them (even if I want to be productive deep down). Depression has fully taken over my life these days.

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