#empath

It varies from person to person. With time, you go through a lot of experiences. Good, bad, painful, healing. Time can either make you more empath and compassionate, or it can make you bitter. It all depends on your outlook.
A person who starts thinking that world is unfair and unjust, they start imposing that bitterness on people around them. And call it the "bitter reality" or "harsh truth" that everyone should have a taste of. They start thinking that they didn't have it easy, and no one else should have it easy either. Everyone should go through the hardship and pain they went through. It makes them lose empathy.
People just need to accept that whatever happens in our life, negative or positive, it's for our own good. And not everyone is gonna have the same experience as us. And if anyone is going through smth that we went through, we should just... tell them what we needed to hear at that moment, but no one told us. But now we have the power to make someone's life easy because of our prior experiences. When one accepts that things happen for the better, everything's written, and it's gonna happen one way or another, there is no bitterness.

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I don’t think a narcissist is looking for someone who he’s attracted to or who attracts him because he’s too busy living in his own world and thinking that the world revolves around him, most likely to the point he barely considers the beauty of the woman he’s with (unless her beauty will benefit him someway or somehow). I do believe that a woman who is an empath and who is willing to go out of her way for him would be someone he would consider being with because she’s an “easy target” who will do as he wishes (most likely). A narcissist is hardly ever self aware and/or hardly ever takes the blame for the things he’s responsible for so whichever woman is willing to let go of his flaws, doesn’t call him out for his behavior and makes him look good in society (when they’re out together) will probably be the woman he wants to be with and chooses.

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Ez egy érdekes téma, ami kapcsán biztos lesznek popular meg unpopular véleményeim is.
Először is, szerintem ezek a "Viselkedj már férfiként" benyögések eléggé toxikusak, mert egyrészt ha a férfiakhoz kötik a jól funkcionáló, normális viselkedést, akkor nem tudom, hogy milyen lehet a sztereotíp nő az ilyen társadalmi berögződések szerint, másrészt talán összefügghet a férfiak globális szinten nagyobb számú öngy*lkossága azzal, hogy míg a nők körében mentálhigiéniai szakember segítségét kérni már-már trend, a férfiak esetében ez még mindig cikinek számít, mert ugye erősnek, tehát "férfiasnak" kell lenni. Szóval ilyen szempontból eléggé rossz, hogy az egyik nemtől ennyire elvárják a lelki erősséget, meg az ötéves Pistikének is megmondják az óvodában, hogy "Ne sírj, nem vagy te kislány".

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A véleményem unpopular része pedig az, hogy szerintem van feminin illetve maszkulin agy, DE ez nem vonja azt maga után, hogy gendernormatív berögződésekkel vagyok tele, vagy netán transzfób lennék, és ráadásul nem is állítom azt, hogy a feminin illetve maszkulin agy mindenképpen összefügg azzal, hogy mi van az ember lába között.
Szóval, szerintem a maszkulin agyat logikus, analitikus gondolkodás jellemzi, magasra törő, sikerorientált, nagy benne a versenyszellem, inkább reál érdeklődésű, és nem igazán empath. Ezzel szemben egy feminin típus érzelmesebb, empatikusabb, sokkal inkább közösségi ember, nem nagy benne a versenyszellem, inkább ilyen "kollektív" típus, illetve inkább humán vagy művészeti érdeklődésű.
Aztán ez vagy passzol valakinek a biológiai neméhez, vagy nem. Akinek nem passzol, annak pedig vagy vannak gender non-conforming tendenciái, vagy nem.

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nem ismertem a definíciót, de ezt talátam: “an empath is someone who understands the mental or emotional states of others in a way that defies conventional science and psychology. empaths have the ability to sense the feelings, thoughts, and energies of people, plants, animals, places, or objects. In addition to sensing, empaths absorb the energy of those around them. empaths often experience stress or illness if they are bombarded by too many negative emotions. empaths can also use their abilities to help others by imagining themselves in someone else’s situation and connecting with them on a deep level”
nekem három nem is feltétlenül különválasztható dolog jutott eszembe, feltételezve, hogy nincs valami substance hatása alatt az illető (és mondjuk akkora része az énjének a drogfogyasztó én, hogy magáénak tekinti tiszta állapotában is azon képességeit, amiket akkor tapasztal)
- empátia, mint spektrum: valaki egyszerűen könnyebben jön empátiás gerjedelembe, ha másokat szenvedni lát, ez olyasmi lehet szerintem, mint az alap érzelmi palettáink, ilyen szubjektív megélés. ennek oka lehet pl. egy magasabb alap arousal-szint, ami szerintem logikus is, olyan szempontból, hogy ugyanakkora ingerléssel, de magasabb alappal hamarabb jut el az illető oda, hogy neki is fájjon más szenvedése.
- gyerekek, akik úgy kényszerültek felnőni, hogy az alap elvárás egy ilyen durva walking on eggshells volt, és a túlélés érdekében folyamatosan monitorozták a környezetüket, így megtanulták, ki mikor hogyan merre
- testhatárokkal kapcsolatos vonalak elmosódása, meddig a másik érzelme/véleménye, honnantól az enyém

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ez mind csak szerintem, meg csak más emberekre vonatkozóan, a többi felsorolt dologgal kapcsolatban passzolok. szerinted?

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Werde ich mich nicht zu äußern.
Nicht nur, weil es hier nicht so ist und man es demzufolge gar nicht wirklich beurteilen kann (machen viele, aber eben sehr eindimensional und parteiisch). Sondern auch, weil es etwas ist, was außerhalb unseres Einflusses liegt.
Sich solidarisieren schön und gut
Aber was genau bringt es jetzt hier zu sagen ja bla Rassismus ist schlecht.
Ja wow, No Shit Sherlock.Es tut nichts an der Lage und hilft null. Man hat sich nur komplett unnötig mit etwas absolut selbstverständlichem zum moralischen Overlord und "besseren Menschen" ernannt.
Crap...von vorn bis hinten.
Die wenigsten, die jetzt alle, nun wo es medial herum geht, auf Blacklivesmatter machen, als hätte es für unser eigenes soziales Umfeld überhaupt irgendeine Relevanz, sind schon selbst an irgendeinem Punkt rassistisch oder voreingenommen gegenüber anderen gewesen und sind es auch jetzt noch.
Es ist absolut für die Tonne dazu etwas sagen zu müssen. Nicht WIR müssen etwas tun und was dazu sagen, sondern diejenigen die es wirklich betrifft und die da Einfluss haben.
Lächerlich hoch zehn auf jeden Stuss aufzuspringen und sich als größter Empath der Erde aufzuspielen. Das war das selbe wie bei Paris etc.
So lange du keinen fikk gibst, was DU tust und was vor deiner Nase jeden Tag passiert, musst du nicht im Internet über Themen die dich nicht betreffen versuchen dich moralisch zu erheben und selber zu glorifizieren.

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Bei mir ist es tatsächlich mein Schmuck. Immer wenn ich der Haus verlasse lege ich zwei Armbänder um und eine Kette, die jeweils zu meiner Stimmung und meinem Mindset passt. Mit verschiedenen Anhängern verbinde ich verschiedene Gefühle und Bilder und so wähle ich das, was für mich am Besten passt. Vergesse ich einmal den Schmuck, dann fühle ich mich tatsächlich nackt und etwas schutzlos.
Die Sachen helfen mir einfach mich zu konzentrieren und mich abzuschirmen. Als Empath stürmt draußen einfach zu vieles auf mich ein, zu viele Eindrücke und Stimmungen. Da ist jedes Hilfsmittel praktisch um Ordnung im Kopf zu halten. Früher habe ich ebenfalls Musik benutzt wie so viele hier, aber dadurch war ich wiederum zu sehr abgeschnitten von der Welt und dem was um mich herum passiert. Ich brauche da schon eine Balance.
Wenn ich abends wieder heim komme wird als erstes der Schmuck abgelegt, meist gefolgt von der Hose. Dann kann ich entspannen und abschalten.

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From where I see it, narcissists are mostly self-centered people with little empathy for others. They have an unusually high opinion of themselves—which implies they're delusional in a way. They find it hard to sympathize with others, want to see others beneath them, demean others, love being in the spotlight, think the world revolves around them, and can't stand anyone commanding them. They don't see any flaws in themselves. They are good at manipulating others as well; can frame you in any situation to make it seem like it's your fault when actually it's theirs. That's just my conception which might or might not be true.

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I think they're hard to deal with, and definitely not the ideal kind of people to get into relationship with, especially if you are a polite and humble empath with self-esteem issues. If you try to call them out on their eccentric behavior you'll find your name in their hit list; they won't let a chance go by without humiliating you. Personally, I keep my distance from such people, avoid being a part of the group they're in, and offer them minimum attention.

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-- this happened years ago. i'm still trying to give her the benefit of the doubt because that's just the annoying optimistic empath in me, but something about this just doesn't sit right. it's just so random and sudden, and I can testify that even back then, she wasn't exactly innocent either lmfao
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i've been very candid about the fact that i was toxic little fourteen year old. i don't think it's something to necessarily be ashamed of because quite frankly if i wasn't like that, i wouldn't be as empathetic and radiate the 'uwu' vibes i have now. like hell i've been so blatantly frank about it that my old fursona and the main representation of me to this day, despite NOT being my fursona, has pretty blatant ex-girlfriend which was heavily alluded to being the symbolism for her and i's relationship.

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and i've said before that crypt was not a good person and that the relationship he had with connie was downright toxic and harmful, as seen in the one comic i drew to la dispute's "such small hands". this was a direct commentary on my own relationship with her.

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hell scroll though the "my art"tag on my tumblr and you can see all the vent pieces i did while in that relationship. all of it is indicative of someone who felt trapped and forced, which is exactly. how. i. felt.

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no party left that relationship unscathed. even blake (yes, THAT blake) retained damage from that relationship-- he lost his best friend (her) and had to deal with the fact that his boyfriend (me) was depressed beyond all belief.

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lol i'm about to a one-off status rn too which idk food 4 thought :-)))))

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Interests and hobbits:
it helps if you like rodents and cats, are compassionate, write, enjoy psychology, enjoy photography, enjoy the ocean and moon, enjoy helping others, enjoy reading and are an introvert

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Life style: I want more LGBTQ+ friends and friends of different cultures. Have respect for the Earth and others, including animals! Be health-conscious. Don't be dragging me to parties all the time! I will hate it and look for animals to pet! Do try to get me out of the house though. I appreciate it more than you know.
If you don't like animals, we won't vibe. Chance are it won't work out.

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As far as similar struggles are concerned, it's nice to feel like you can relate but also I have my own struggles (so I prefer that you know what you want in life). My Empath self doesn't need more pain, thanks.

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I would say I attract "artsy" creative types (or at least I want to!).
People who embrace being different
People who would say that they are quirky
I attract people who have known adversity
I attract people I consider emotionally strong
I attract ambitious people. at least one workaholic
I attract more liberal people probably. I am an independent.
It always works in your favor if you care about others and animals

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I would say it depends on the offense or misconduct that was committed, and also on what you mean by "empathy". But a person like that, I think would best match someone as equally apathetic. That way, they can establish a professional relationship, where less emotion is likely to become involved and they rely more on their cognitive abilities and moral ethics. Likewise, they can do the same with an empathetic person, if they will. But there's just more risk to it. Not to them, but to the empath involved.

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It also seems like people are forgetting that empathy exists in three types; emotional empathy, cognitive empathy and somatic empathy. Most of the time, when a person reads/hears the word "empathy", they only think of the first one. A person can have a high form of cognitive empathy, but even though they can understand people’s emotions, it doesn’t register emotionally with them — they have no emotional empathy. However, understanding one's emotions, sometimes better than the person themselves, often comes in handy.

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To answer your question, if someone I'm interested in wronged me and felt no remorse due to her lack of empathy (I'm assuming, from all three types) - I'd drop her, instantly. If I see that there is no desire to change and at the very least, having no awareness of one's actions and its implications, then forget about it. If those she fails, I'd leave her. But I don't think that I'd ever get involved with such women. They don't interest me. Besides, lack (or the absence) of empathy is always associated with psychopathy, but even psychopaths can maintain decency in relationships they consider worth it.

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