#empath

Ez egy érdekes téma, ami kapcsán biztos lesznek popular meg unpopular véleményeim is.
Először is, szerintem ezek a "Viselkedj már férfiként" benyögések eléggé toxikusak, mert egyrészt ha a férfiakhoz kötik a jól funkcionáló, normális viselkedést, akkor nem tudom, hogy milyen lehet a sztereotíp nő az ilyen társadalmi berögződések szerint, másrészt talán összefügghet a férfiak globális szinten nagyobb számú öngy*lkossága azzal, hogy míg a nők körében mentálhigiéniai szakember segítségét kérni már-már trend, a férfiak esetében ez még mindig cikinek számít, mert ugye erősnek, tehát "férfiasnak" kell lenni. Szóval ilyen szempontból eléggé rossz, hogy az egyik nemtől ennyire elvárják a lelki erősséget, meg az ötéves Pistikének is megmondják az óvodában, hogy "Ne sírj, nem vagy te kislány".

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A véleményem unpopular része pedig az, hogy szerintem van feminin illetve maszkulin agy, DE ez nem vonja azt maga után, hogy gendernormatív berögződésekkel vagyok tele, vagy netán transzfób lennék, és ráadásul nem is állítom azt, hogy a feminin illetve maszkulin agy mindenképpen összefügg azzal, hogy mi van az ember lába között.
Szóval, szerintem a maszkulin agyat logikus, analitikus gondolkodás jellemzi, magasra törő, sikerorientált, nagy benne a versenyszellem, inkább reál érdeklődésű, és nem igazán empath. Ezzel szemben egy feminin típus érzelmesebb, empatikusabb, sokkal inkább közösségi ember, nem nagy benne a versenyszellem, inkább ilyen "kollektív" típus, illetve inkább humán vagy művészeti érdeklődésű.
Aztán ez vagy passzol valakinek a biológiai neméhez, vagy nem. Akinek nem passzol, annak pedig vagy vannak gender non-conforming tendenciái, vagy nem.

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nem ismertem a definíciót, de ezt talátam: “an empath is someone who understands the mental or emotional states of others in a way that defies conventional science and psychology. empaths have the ability to sense the feelings, thoughts, and energies of people, plants, animals, places, or objects. In addition to sensing, empaths absorb the energy of those around them. empaths often experience stress or illness if they are bombarded by too many negative emotions. empaths can also use their abilities to help others by imagining themselves in someone else’s situation and connecting with them on a deep level”
nekem három nem is feltétlenül különválasztható dolog jutott eszembe, feltételezve, hogy nincs valami substance hatása alatt az illető (és mondjuk akkora része az énjének a drogfogyasztó én, hogy magáénak tekinti tiszta állapotában is azon képességeit, amiket akkor tapasztal)
- empátia, mint spektrum: valaki egyszerűen könnyebben jön empátiás gerjedelembe, ha másokat szenvedni lát, ez olyasmi lehet szerintem, mint az alap érzelmi palettáink, ilyen szubjektív megélés. ennek oka lehet pl. egy magasabb alap arousal-szint, ami szerintem logikus is, olyan szempontból, hogy ugyanakkora ingerléssel, de magasabb alappal hamarabb jut el az illető oda, hogy neki is fájjon más szenvedése.
- gyerekek, akik úgy kényszerültek felnőni, hogy az alap elvárás egy ilyen durva walking on eggshells volt, és a túlélés érdekében folyamatosan monitorozták a környezetüket, így megtanulták, ki mikor hogyan merre
- testhatárokkal kapcsolatos vonalak elmosódása, meddig a másik érzelme/véleménye, honnantól az enyém

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ez mind csak szerintem, meg csak más emberekre vonatkozóan, a többi felsorolt dologgal kapcsolatban passzolok. szerinted?

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Werde ich mich nicht zu äußern.
Nicht nur, weil es hier nicht so ist und man es demzufolge gar nicht wirklich beurteilen kann (machen viele, aber eben sehr eindimensional und parteiisch). Sondern auch, weil es etwas ist, was außerhalb unseres Einflusses liegt.
Sich solidarisieren schön und gut
Aber was genau bringt es jetzt hier zu sagen ja bla Rassismus ist schlecht.
Ja wow, No Shit Sherlock.Es tut nichts an der Lage und hilft null. Man hat sich nur komplett unnötig mit etwas absolut selbstverständlichem zum moralischen Overlord und "besseren Menschen" ernannt.
Crap...von vorn bis hinten.
Die wenigsten, die jetzt alle, nun wo es medial herum geht, auf Blacklivesmatter machen, als hätte es für unser eigenes soziales Umfeld überhaupt irgendeine Relevanz, sind schon selbst an irgendeinem Punkt rassistisch oder voreingenommen gegenüber anderen gewesen und sind es auch jetzt noch.
Es ist absolut für die Tonne dazu etwas sagen zu müssen. Nicht WIR müssen etwas tun und was dazu sagen, sondern diejenigen die es wirklich betrifft und die da Einfluss haben.
Lächerlich hoch zehn auf jeden Stuss aufzuspringen und sich als größter Empath der Erde aufzuspielen. Das war das selbe wie bei Paris etc.
So lange du keinen fikk gibst, was DU tust und was vor deiner Nase jeden Tag passiert, musst du nicht im Internet über Themen die dich nicht betreffen versuchen dich moralisch zu erheben und selber zu glorifizieren.

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Bei mir ist es tatsächlich mein Schmuck. Immer wenn ich der Haus verlasse lege ich zwei Armbänder um und eine Kette, die jeweils zu meiner Stimmung und meinem Mindset passt. Mit verschiedenen Anhängern verbinde ich verschiedene Gefühle und Bilder und so wähle ich das, was für mich am Besten passt. Vergesse ich einmal den Schmuck, dann fühle ich mich tatsächlich nackt und etwas schutzlos.
Die Sachen helfen mir einfach mich zu konzentrieren und mich abzuschirmen. Als Empath stürmt draußen einfach zu vieles auf mich ein, zu viele Eindrücke und Stimmungen. Da ist jedes Hilfsmittel praktisch um Ordnung im Kopf zu halten. Früher habe ich ebenfalls Musik benutzt wie so viele hier, aber dadurch war ich wiederum zu sehr abgeschnitten von der Welt und dem was um mich herum passiert. Ich brauche da schon eine Balance.
Wenn ich abends wieder heim komme wird als erstes der Schmuck abgelegt, meist gefolgt von der Hose. Dann kann ich entspannen und abschalten.

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From where I see it, narcissists are mostly self-centered people with little empathy for others. They have an unusually high opinion of themselves—which implies they're delusional in a way. They find it hard to sympathize with others, want to see others beneath them, demean others, love being in the spotlight, think the world revolves around them, and can't stand anyone commanding them. They don't see any flaws in themselves. They are good at manipulating others as well; can frame you in any situation to make it seem like it's your fault when actually it's theirs. That's just my conception which might or might not be true.

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I think they're hard to deal with, and definitely not the ideal kind of people to get into relationship with, especially if you are a polite and humble empath with self-esteem issues. If you try to call them out on their eccentric behavior you'll find your name in their hit list; they won't let a chance go by without humiliating you. Personally, I keep my distance from such people, avoid being a part of the group they're in, and offer them minimum attention.

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-- this happened years ago. i'm still trying to give her the benefit of the doubt because that's just the annoying optimistic empath in me, but something about this just doesn't sit right. it's just so random and sudden, and I can testify that even back then, she wasn't exactly innocent either lmfao
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i've been very candid about the fact that i was toxic little fourteen year old. i don't think it's something to necessarily be ashamed of because quite frankly if i wasn't like that, i wouldn't be as empathetic and radiate the 'uwu' vibes i have now. like hell i've been so blatantly frank about it that my old fursona and the main representation of me to this day, despite NOT being my fursona, has pretty blatant ex-girlfriend which was heavily alluded to being the symbolism for her and i's relationship.

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and i've said before that crypt was not a good person and that the relationship he had with connie was downright toxic and harmful, as seen in the one comic i drew to la dispute's "such small hands". this was a direct commentary on my own relationship with her.

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hell scroll though the "my art"tag on my tumblr and you can see all the vent pieces i did while in that relationship. all of it is indicative of someone who felt trapped and forced, which is exactly. how. i. felt.

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no party left that relationship unscathed. even blake (yes, THAT blake) retained damage from that relationship-- he lost his best friend (her) and had to deal with the fact that his boyfriend (me) was depressed beyond all belief.

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lol i'm about to a one-off status rn too which idk food 4 thought :-)))))

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Interests and hobbits:
it helps if you like rodents and cats, are compassionate, write, enjoy psychology, enjoy photography, enjoy the ocean and moon, enjoy helping others, enjoy reading and are an introvert

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Life style: I want more LGBTQ+ friends and friends of different cultures. Have respect for the Earth and others, including animals! Be health-conscious. Don't be dragging me to parties all the time! I will hate it and look for animals to pet! Do try to get me out of the house though. I appreciate it more than you know.
If you don't like animals, we won't vibe. Chance are it won't work out.

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As far as similar struggles are concerned, it's nice to feel like you can relate but also I have my own struggles (so I prefer that you know what you want in life). My Empath self doesn't need more pain, thanks.

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I would say I attract "artsy" creative types (or at least I want to!).
People who embrace being different
People who would say that they are quirky
I attract people who have known adversity
I attract people I consider emotionally strong
I attract ambitious people. at least one workaholic
I attract more liberal people probably. I am an independent.
It always works in your favor if you care about others and animals

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I would say it depends on the offense or misconduct that was committed, and also on what you mean by "empathy". But a person like that, I think would best match someone as equally apathetic. That way, they can establish a professional relationship, where less emotion is likely to become involved and they rely more on their cognitive abilities and moral ethics. Likewise, they can do the same with an empathetic person, if they will. But there's just more risk to it. Not to them, but to the empath involved.

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It also seems like people are forgetting that empathy exists in three types; emotional empathy, cognitive empathy and somatic empathy. Most of the time, when a person reads/hears the word "empathy", they only think of the first one. A person can have a high form of cognitive empathy, but even though they can understand people’s emotions, it doesn’t register emotionally with them — they have no emotional empathy. However, understanding one's emotions, sometimes better than the person themselves, often comes in handy.

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To answer your question, if someone I'm interested in wronged me and felt no remorse due to her lack of empathy (I'm assuming, from all three types) - I'd drop her, instantly. If I see that there is no desire to change and at the very least, having no awareness of one's actions and its implications, then forget about it. If those she fails, I'd leave her. But I don't think that I'd ever get involved with such women. They don't interest me. Besides, lack (or the absence) of empathy is always associated with psychopathy, but even psychopaths can maintain decency in relationships they consider worth it.

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I've tried to do this once and it has changed me irrevocably and made me bitter and untrusting. I'd prefer not to ever have to try dating someone like this ever again. I'm still hurting and I wonder if I'll ever truly be over what happened... I'm aware that it could have been way worse.

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I was naive. I had only dated one guy before becoming involved with A (not his real name). I believed that I was devastated and heartbroken. I had only talked to him online and over the phone and he seemed nice, so one night I surprised myself and agreed to meet him. When I was in school, I saw him on weekends. We would run errands and go out to eat and the movies (he's a movie buff). Nothing out of the ordinary there, right?

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A wouldn't let me say that we were dating and corrected me whenever I wrongly said so.
He was never satisfied dating just me.
He liked to look for things to accuse me of, even if it was not my fault. He never seemed to feel bad for yelling at me. Things would just get ignored and glossed over. He was never accountable for anything, if I tried saying that he did something that hurt me. Things would return to our version of "normal" (except that there never WAS an us to speak of...).
He would deflect any conversations related to feelings/my concerns about being with him. He didn't want to hear it.

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I am an Empath and this probably hurt me even more because I am one.

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A was/is a Narcissist, Emotionally Abusive and has Sociopathic tendencies. He has unresolved anger issues that frightened me. I couldn't predict when he's get angry. He didn't ever want to talk and resolve anything.

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If someone is trying to instigate a relationship with someone like that, they need to understand that it won't be a healthy relationship and it will be fraught with arguments, misunderstandings and even sometimes violence. Psychopaths and Sociopaths are especially skilled at brainwashing and manipulation tactics. They will groom you so you are unable to recognize that you are being abused. They can cut you off from everyone and convince you that you need to be entirely codependent on them.

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Love will never be enough for them, so I warn people against it.
They could hurt you and they won't care.
You could lose your life if the abuse becomes violent. A psychopath wouldn't show remorse.
You could also put your children's, family and friend's lives in danger.

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Ask yourself, is any of that worth it?

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I do tarot card readings and have done for a few years now.

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Basically it's the same as a face to face reading, I channel their energy when doing the reading. I pick cards for them and then send over what the cards mean, what they're saying, advice, things to avoid etc.

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I've been doing them a number of years now & had a lot of local people ask me to do face to face, I was even asked to do numerous entertainment nights and my anxiety just won't let me. I wish I could, but at the same time I love how personal my readings are as opposed to on a stage where I imagine you get so much info at once and it wouldn't be something I'd cope with well.

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I always had an interest in tarot cards, but had just never really thought about jumping into that side of things. I then had numerous readings off a number of different psychics and we discussed some things I could do (I'm an empath which we figured out) and was then told to get some cards I felt drawn to and just see how I went, I've had the same deck for four years they've never failed me ❤️

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it is your words that keep me going. I'm not just writing a good love story. I'm writing a series of crippling, heart-breaking tragedies.

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https://youtu.be/oAu7qIRtk9g

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a soul sister told me, "I am so happy about your friendship too. Such an uplifting spirit, you positivity is very vibrant. Thank you my lovely friend"

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she read this, in dedication to each and every one of my soul sisters: https://ask.fm/nurbzee/answers/132772811719

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"It is utterly beautiful. I shed a tear reading it. Knowing you, it is beautiful to see you figure yourself out in that way. Thank you so much for including me in this, I feel privileged."

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I've made people cry just through my words alone. know that you, dear anonymous, have given me the confidence to publish the scarring thoughts that I bled when I was broken, shattered, and extremely unloveable.

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if you're blown away by my writing skills then, you'd be prouder of the words that I've written now. thank you. I love you, whoever you may be. it's you. it's always been you, and every other supporter of mine who's kept this writer going.

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“Highly sensitive people are too often perceived as weaklings or damaged goods. To feel intensely is not a symptom of weakness, it is the trademark of the truly alive and compassionate. It is not the empath who is broken, it is society that has become dysfunctional and emotionally disabled. There is no shame in expressing your authentic feelings. Those who are at times described as being a 'hot mess' or having 'too many issues' are the very fabric of what keeps the dream alive for a more caring, humane world. Never be ashamed to let your tears shine a light in this world.”
― Anthon St. Maarten

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“But pain's like water. It finds a way to push through any seal. There's no way to stop it. Sometimes you have to let yourself sink inside of it before you can learn how to swim to the surface.”
― Katie Kacvinsky

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People assume you aren’t sick
unless they see the sickness on your skin
like scars forming a map of all the ways you’re hurting.

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My heart is a prison of Have you tried?s
Have you tried exercising? Have you tried eating better?
Have you tried not being sad, not being sick?
Have you tried being more like me?
Have you tried shutting up?

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Yes, I have tried. Yes, I am still trying,
and yes, I am still sick.

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Sometimes monsters are invisible, and
sometimes demons attack you from the inside.
Just because you cannot see the claws and the teeth
does not mean they aren’t ripping through me.
Pain does not need to be seen to be felt.

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Telling me there is no problem
won’t solve the problem.

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This is not how miracles are born.
This is not how sickness works.”
― Emm Roy, The First Step

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image source: http://intheherenow.com/post/153642969491/stop

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Definitely...Also at adopting them. Make a person look for some pattern for a while and you can be sure at one point they will follow it, no matter how extreme or less likely that may seem. Same way criminal investigators go criminal. Or psychiatrists go nuts.
Take me for example. I discovered the pattern of guilt in people around me in my early teen years. This distinctive kind of internalized regret, props to evolution for developing a moral meter inside of us to keep track of our destructive urges. Of course, it's questionably functioning, but still people hold dear to it, because sometimes it's the only thing standing between a person and a terrible crime. Hypothetically.
I've never felt guilt but i learned to seek out the pattern and when and how it is expressed and my analyzes have become such a deep part of my conscience that, intentionally or not, i tend to follow suit. I manifest the feeling of guilt so well and accept with such willingless the idea that i can experience it that i naturally manage to delude myself into believing i actually feel it.
GUYS I THINK I'M A SOCIOPATH LIKE I READ ABOUT THIS IN THE "CONFESSIONS OF A SOCIOPATH" BOOK AND I RELATED SO MUCH, I RELATE TO EVERYTHING ALL THE TIME, LIKE THE IMPULSIVE CHOICES, THE SUDDEN DROPING OUT, THE..THE STUFF, IT'S LIKE MY LIFE
But then again i've been wondering...DO I RELATE BECAUSE I'M A SOCIOPATH IN DENIAL OR A HIGHLY FUNCTIONING EMPATH WHO RELATES WITH EVERYTHING HE'S PRESENTED, EVEN SOCIOPATHY? AFTER ALL THE TWO EXTREMES ARE OFTEN QUITE SIMILAR.
Also can't help but notice how this Thomas lady kind of wrote this book to make it relatable...what with all the "i was actually glad there was a word for it, that i wasn't the only one like this. it must be a similar feeling to that of people who discover for themselves that they are gay or transgendered: in their bones, they'd known it all along"...oh come on...tell a person he'd known he's something all along and he's sure as fuck going to start deluding himself he did because it makes him smarter than he is and all ppl, not just sociopaths, love the illusion of grandeur...Idk, i don't like books that "say the things you have thought of before, but did not realize it". Relatable is gross. A sense of belonging is useless.

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(Ich glaub ich hab mein Profil öffentlich aber macht ja nix!)

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"Thierry ist von seiner alleinerziehenden Mutter aufgezogen worden. In einem Alter von fünf Jahren hat er erstmals mit der Manipulation von Feuer Bekanntschaft gemacht und dabei fast sein ganzes Zuhause in Flammen aufgehen lassen. Mit Erreichen des sechsten Lebensjahres gab seine Mutter Carol ihn in diese „spezielle“ Schule, da sie selbst nicht in der Lage war, ihrem Jungen etwas im Bezug auf seine Kräfte beizubringen. Schnell hat er Gefallen am Bogenschießen gefunden und hat über die Jahre hinweg viel trainiert; letztendlich kann man sagen, dass er ein hervorragender Bogenschütze ist und sein Ziel so gut wie nie verfehlt. Die Schule ist für ihn wie ein Zuhause, in dem er jederzeit willkommen ist, den Kontakt zu seiner leiblichen Mutter hat er vor Langem abgebrochen. Aus seinem anfänglich aufsäßigen Verhalten ist er 'hinaus gewachsen', wofür seine Kräfte als Empath verantwortlich sind. Anfangs hatte er seine Probleme, mit den verschiedenen Emotionen klar zu kommen, hält sich mittlerweile gut, auch wenn es ihn viele Nerven und vorallem viel Konzentration kostet.
2015 hat er seinen Abschluss gemacht, in der Zeit davor so einiges durchgemacht, worüber er mit niemandem spricht. Es sind seine Narben, mit denen er klarkommen muss; die er akzeptieren muss. Jetzt beschäftigt er sich hauptsächlich mit seiner Musik und reist durch die Weltgeschichte.

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Elementemanipulator | Empath | Bogenschütze | Irish

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Vorbestraft wegen Brandstiftung und der Verursachung von Gebäudeeinsturzen."

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