#engaged

Well, I was engaged once but unfortunately things didn’t go as planned, it was a very very bad break up, I don’t want to talk about details of course.
Anyway, I was devastated after that, one of my friends ( who wasn’t at the time my best friend but she is definitely now the best friend I have ever had 💞) stayed with me in my apartment for a WHOLE month, she left her whole life just to be with me, she booked us a vacation together, she kept forcing me to go out almost every night to get me out of my dark thoughts, she did too much that I can’t even mention all of the things she has done in a single answer.
No one has ever put this much effort to make me happy, I don’t think anyone would be able to do anything close to what she did, she is literally the best thing that has ever happened to me and I’m blessed and thankful that I have her in my life 💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞

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Yes. In 1996, the late Samuel Huntington (1927-2008), a respected Harvard professor, published The Clash of Civilizations and the Remaking of World Order. He saw the Cold War’s end as a transition into a world in which the divisions among the great powers once based on political ideologies would be replaced by the more enduring divisions in history grounded in cultures and religious traditions. Huntington defined civilization as the broadest cultural identity in history.

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Huntington cautioned fellow Americans: “In the emerging world of ethnic conflict and civilizational clash, Western belief in the universality of Western culture suffers three problems:

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1. it is false;
2. it is immoral;
3. it is dangerous.”

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He said, “The belief that non-Western peoples should adopt Western values, institutions, and culture is immoral because of what would be necessary to bring it about… Imperialism is the necessary logical consequence of universalism.”

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Huntington simply could not imagine that an increasingly faithless, feckless, radically secularized, and libertarian West (and America) might be a greater danger than other cultures in widening the post-Cold War world’s civilizational divisions. In other words, he did not perceive that the contemporary West, culturally in disrepair and spiritually broken, can provide neither leadership nor moral guidance to others when needed in preventing the clash of civilizations.

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America's first president, George Washington, warned:
“Europe has a set of primary interests, which to us have none or a very remote relation. Hence she must be engaged in frequent controversies, the causes of which are essentially foreign to our concerns.” Furthermore, “Why, by interweaving our destiny with that of any part of Europe, entangle our peace and prosperity in the toils of European ambition, rivalship, interest, humor, or caprice? It is our policy to steer clear of permanent alliances, with any portion of the foreign world.”

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you can't just walk away from your pain and misery. The grief will not be vanish if you believe I would go out, catch up with friends, as well as eat my favorite food. No. Your worldview doesn't at all impose to the whole universe. You must find a way to deal with your frustrations. You must acknowledge your pain and misery.

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For instance, your friend might very well approach you and request you to pay heed to him since he is going through a hard time. In the same way you must also pay close attention to yourself.

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You can't seem to escape the pain that life has thrown at you. This seems unrealistic. Just to avoid the pain, you'll try to stay engaged the whole day, but what will happen at night? Are you going to be able to sleep? If you ignore the sadness and try to divert yourself, the pain will keep standing at the door of your room & knocking until you open it.

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"I go through pain since I opened the door." you'll say now. No, it is not the case. You let the pain in, broke down in tears, and afterwards closed the door. And after every week or few weeks you repeat the same cycle. What happened to the pain? How many of you have wondered why it keeps coming back and ends up hurting so much? This is why the pain keeps returning. Because you do not talk to it.

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If your pain will come or knock at your door the next time. Kindly open the door. Welcome the visitor inside. Sit w it & ask "What is it that is bothering you?" What's the issue? What is the matter? What can I do to help you? Perhaps the pain was indeed saying, "Accept me, realize me." Then you must experience it. Nobody would want to be in pain. However, you must.
Say "I welcome you, cutest. How are you in such pain? Tell me, please."
This way, you'll be capable of communicating with your pain, feel it, and embrace it, and the pain will be gone forever. Because you did listen to this now, it will no longer visit you because this time you've experienced the agony.
Feeling pain is not same as going through it. When you go through something, you accept it as a test and face it silently. It's different when you feel and welcome your pain

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🤷‍♂️
I’ve had my fair share of depression and so were my friends.

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All of us deals with the depression on different varying levels and to rid or even break free from the clasp of depression, the solution for each and every one of us is never the same for the other.

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But there is this one exactly identical thing that my friends and I did before we could get out of our depressions; What we all did that is the same is — Expressions.

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Most of us would create a shell (or even something that’s sturdier than the Great Wall of China) around us and suffocate ourselves without ever getting help from anyone close to us.

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I noticed how depressions were slowly killing us all, so I fixated a journey of expressions for all of my friends whom needed the help at the time. It wasn’t easy, because just by expressing one’s feelings isn’t the best way to deal with one’s depression.

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The journey of expressions that I’ve given them all, always have one thing that’s in common; Get them engaged to the point that they’ve entered their very own Flow State — A state in which a person fully expresses what is true to their feelings without the fear of being rejected, heckled, judged, biases, nor the stereotypes that people may have upon any one of them.

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Yeah, it wasn’t easy to get them to engage in their own Flow State because you really have to know a person down to the core before you could set the journey to expression for anyone, even yourself.

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But none helped myself in such a way, and it’s my turn to help myself in setting a journey solely for myself as I’ve seen how different I am when compared to all of my friends. Still a work in progress — But if you ever needed any help, you may ask to be heard on ASKfm; Though it would be better if it’s someone you could meet in person that could help you out in such a way.

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@funny_hot Amazing, Special, Patient, Supportive, Irreplaceable, Caring, Confident, fantastic, courageous, Awesome, Smart, humorous, special, beautiful from the inside out, determined to make me smile, intriguing, athletic, motivated, trustworthy

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@nourabdoun5642 Amazing, determined, adventurous, courageous, brilliant, patient, kind, caring, Confident, smart, darn right Awesome, astute, discerning, empowered, skilled, tenacious,captivating

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@RyannWilson515, From where I'm from, so relatable, witty, smart, patient, kind, courageous, empowered

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@NicoleBuckleyyx Special, sincere, compassionate, Supportive, witty, loyal, confident, smart, Awesome, determined, caring, patient, beautiful from the inside out, courageous, one of my first friends in this app.

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@Inna Happy that she found her true love on this app, and they are finally together, engaged and look forward to taking y'alls wedding photos, soon.

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@vivaciousviv Patient, kind, Awesome, determined, funny, courageous, beautiful, polite, darn right amazing!

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@Apeshitz Crazy Dude, good heart, witty, kind, always makes me smile

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@fiezuqa Inquisitive, observant, sincere

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@natalehjayne Amazing, fun, sincere, trustworthy, kindhearted, amicable, optimistic, affable

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@xohollyh obviously for a her weirdo podcast, if you haven't heard it, its hilarious, fun, witty, Often chats with well-known celebrities, definitely vibrant.

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Out of room apparently

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You want to marry a cheater, girl? Honestly, speaking with experience, guys or gals who have history of cheating would repeat the same thing again if they aren't taught a good lesson. Now, every person has some behaviour which he/she repeats again and again. In case of cheating, ppl either get bored of you or they wanna keep having that thrill of dating new ppl every now and then. That intimate attraction that lasts a few weeks or months keep them driving. Now, if you have been giving them right proportion of time and importance, cheating doesn't make any sense. And if suppose dat the person was unsure abt his feelings, he kept using both of you so he won't have to be left alone when he chose any of you. I mean for me, I won't be able to get this idea off my brain that person whom I loved used me for their own ease even if they now become really good and loyal. But would say this again that ppl who get addicted of this kinda spice. It's really hard to let go. And believe you me, 99 percent of ppl never change.
And abt guys who do change, they are those who will start to find something in you that they were missing in themselves. In short, if you make them question themselves, and is very rare. I've told you my take, rest is on you girl. Be happy.

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