#feminism

This is like asking “what do you think of people?” Feminists are all genders, from all generations, across all cultures and demographics. They aren’t homogenous so my opinion of ‘feminists’ isn’t homogenous either.

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I support and appreciate feminists that actively advocate for women's rights on the grounds of the equality of the sexes… and I facepalm and deplore those who spout misandry or seek hypocritical goals (that don’t align with equality) because they make life harder than it needs to be for those who seek genuine equality.

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The feminist-misandrists give anti-feminists an excuse to dismiss the entire push for equal rights by straw-manning the worst sorts of behaviour (and wholesale applying them to the term ‘feminists’ which can be frustrating) while the feminists who post “kill all men” or exclusionist nonsense (like TERF’s & SWERF’s)… don’t look so bright when they go on to announce that they want equality…

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Sigh.

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I think equality of the sexes on the basis of gender is still an admirable goal so even though some feminists distort the message into something awful, the onus is on myself and other feminists to try to live up to the ideal of a truly equal society. I can’t control what they do - only what I do.

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Ultimately, I think of feminists in the same way as I think of people → I support some because their idea of equality aligns with mine and I don’t support others because I disapprove of their methods and goals.

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Yes. Big Time!
When I attended college we did not study: gender studies, black history, feminism, equity and inclusion, etc. I studied composition, arranging, harmony, counterpoint, improvisation, music history, conducting, ear training, guitar, piano, bass guitar, digital systems, analog systems, power supplies, electricity, physics, calculus, English Literature, US History, Ancient History, Fine Arts, Public Speaking, Psychology, Philosophy, Network engineering, machine language, basic programming, pascal programming, C Programming, IP addressing, Subnet masking, OSPF, BGP, RIP, WAN, LAN, Routers, Switches, Firewalls, OSI Model, Access Lists, etc

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And after acquiring all of this knowledge I worked hard to apply what I had learned. In the case of music, I performed in bands and practiced to continuously improve. In the case of engineering I became a Cisco Certified and Baynetworks Certified Network Engineer and worked for many organizations over a 40 year career i.e. Motorola, Nortel, Cabletron, Bay Networks, Cisco, State of New Hampshire, Vital Networks, Bloomin Brands and Tech Data.

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Whenever possible, I studied subjects that interested me and that I knew would allow me to earn money and provide for my family. I also studied music, not for the money, but because I love Music and that has always been my dream to earn a degree from Berklee College of Music. Some people say, so what? Who cares? Here is the thing, when we are moments away from death and we reflect upon the life we have lived, what will we think? Will we regret our life because we only did those things that made us money? Or will we have a more balanced appreciation that we utilized our time to not only provide for our family but that we also achieved our dream and thus satisfied our soul? The choice is ours to make and only we, as individuals, can make those choices and be honest enough to own whatever choice we make, and refrain from blaming other people or society, and thus become "victims."

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My father once told me the following: "son you've made your bed, and now you must lie in it." Which translated, means that we are responsible for the decisions we make and the consequences of those decisions whether good or bad. Said differently, we must take responsibility for what we think, say and do.

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