#infertility

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Be honest; would infertility be a deal breaker in your relationship? Would it be different if you had no prev kids? DO YOU THINK its wrong for someone to leave a long term relationship over infertility (when they have no other problems)

no but maybe i would feel differently if i didn’t already have avory. yeah, that’s kinda wrong. sorry but you don’t love someone if you can do that.

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On April Fool's Justin Bieber posted pics of an ultrasound pretending his wife was pregnant. He apologised after & said it was just a joke, due to the backlash from people saying it wasn't something to joke about due to miscarriage stats. What's your opinion on this? Did he need to apologise or not?

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He did. It isn't funny at all! We are currently in a day and time where miscarriages and infertility are very common. As someone who recently lost a baby herself, I don't think it's funny in the slightest. Let alone for people who have been trying for months if not years.. Then again, Justin Bieber doesn't seem to have a lot of common sense and boundaries. So I'm not too surprised.
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On April Fools Justin Bieber posted pics of an ultrasound pretending his wife

If I had a daughter I wouldn't let her wear makeup or revealing clothes, she would show her natural beauty, eat healthily and wear feminine long skirts/dresses. To many men do a poor job raising their daughters, you give women an inch at a young age and they'll take a mile later on in life.

same if it weren't for my meddling infertility

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I usually having sex with my gf without protection about 3 years now and I know that pull out methods is about 78% effective. So, in short, that still leaves a 22% chance of fertilization. However, my gf hasn't gotten pregnant yet. Does it mean that i infertility or just lucky?

Both have a good chance tho.
Btw, use protection, dip shit.
Condoms are cheap, but abortion pills are not, especially after two or three months of pregnancy.
Btw, I've seen first hand the effect of abortion to someone. Not something that you want to see on regular basis.
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Hi, can you give me some kind of prove that sex is a basic human needs? (It could be a journal, or something like that). Thank you!

Other than Maslow's hierarchy of needs and his research on human motivations which can be found here http://psychclassics.yorku.ca/Maslow/motivation.htm ?
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Look.
We, as living beings, want to survive.
We'd die if we don't breathe, eat, drink, sleep, and throw waste by urinating or defecating. Homeostasis (a stable state) is also crucial for us to keep on living because we can't sleep naked on a bed of snow or lava, and we can't take a shit naked on top of the world or on the bottom of the ocean. If we keep everything on check, the chance of us dying will be lower. We won't die immediately.
But later on, we will eventually die. You just can't escape it. You, as an individual, cannot sustain yourself forever. But you, as a living being of earth has one rule: as long as your DNA exists, you will still live. Basically, we always copy-paste our DNA every second by cell division and whatnot. So sex, a whole other method of DNA replication, is an option we can choose to continue the existence of our DNA. In fact, is the ONLY way to continue the existence of our DNA "outside" the realm of individuality. We can't replicate our entire selves with our selves' cell division alone; you can't clone yourself naturally. This importance of sex is so big and relevant, that our natural biology will always crave for sex, even if no reproduction actually happens. Our biology will always take the chance of having sex anyway, no matter how many times needed to actually reproduce, even when either/both our biology and psychology knows that reproduction is impossible because of internal forces like infertility or external forces like contraception.
Sex is not a way to not die as an individual. Sex is a way to not die as humanity as a whole. In a sense, you need people to have sex and give births constantly until the number of deaths is lower than the number of births. If it does, then humanity as a species will not die, albeit the individuals will still die.
Sex is not a basic individual need, but a basic human need. In fact, sex is a basic need for all living beings that reproduce sexually.
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So go outside and have sex.
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If a man cannot give birth to babies and he love someone and that person knows dat man cannot giv birth to babies can that girl marry him after even knowing this about him

It will totally depend on the girl. The girl knew about the mans infertility and she is ok with it then she can marry him.
But the man has to disclose it, and the woman to whom he proposes has the right to accept him or reject him. If she accepts him with this fault, she does not have the right to request an annulment (cancellation of marriage) later on because of not having children. If she does not know about the fault and then finds out about it after marriage, she has the right to ask for an annulment if she does not accept the fault.
As far as scholars advice.
Ibn Qudamah says: Having children is a blessing and is one of the aims of marriage, so a woman should not marry a man who is sterile or infertile unless she knows that it is possible for him to be treated and recover.
Rest Allah knows best

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Bf and I have been together 2 years and I recently found out I may have infertility issues. Had the talk. He wants kids. He says he doesn't wanna leave but I'm scared if really can't conceive then what? When we get to that point of trying.

You're worrying about something that isn't confirmed. Before you panic, talk to a doctor and find out what's what and what your options are.

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OMFG! Infertility isn't some huge disadvantage. You can adopt. You can foster. You can be the cool uncle. But ur all "Nah, lets spend $$ on infertile couples coz its important to bring more children into an overpopulated world".

Infertility is a condition of reduced ability. We are all aware of things that others can do that we cannot, or that we can do that others cannot, but these are not evenly distributed. Most people have a predictable range of abilities in a set of socially relevant domains, producing a huge overlap space that forms the basis for our expectations of "what a regular person can do".
This isn't just some benign clustering of capabilities, however. Humans are social and philosophical animals, and we collectively construct meaning in those spaces we share with each other, generally taking the form of traditions, social conventions, life-narratives and role models. To be someone whose abilities & endowments fall OUTSIDE the expected 'normal' range isn't just a benign difference in circumstance, it changes your ability to access the relevant domains of social meaning.
To be ABOVE the normal range in an ability that produces value in people's lives is often a great, if slightly alienating, thing. Being very smart, very beautiful, very athletic, can be a little socially isolating, but you come out ahead with how much value others place in you. Being BELOW the accepted normal range of an ability is both alienating (the world feels like it isn't made 'for you') AND you are denied domains of social value others take for granted. This is why we take the concept of "being disabled" so seriously. It isn't just a set of inconveniences you must endure because our shared spaces can't accommodate your needs, but there are whole constellations of life-meaning that you are automatically excluded from, for no fault of your own.
This is the appropriate lens to adopt when considering the impact of infertility (regardless of its aetiology). Having children, and seeing your bloodline continued, is a HUGE domain of social meaning, factoring heavily into the life-narratives many people pursue. Like any domain of meaning, it doesn't appeal to everyone, but is the whole world to others, and given that most forms of infertility are only discovered when one tries and fails to conceive, crushing revelations are the norm.
Hence Robert's emphasis on what mechanisms we have to manage people's behaviour in a liberal society. The central conceit of our society is that individuals are entrusted & empowered to pursue happiness on their own terms, with whatever means they can generate, with top-down assistance for those whose circumstances would lead them to suffer undeservedly. Unless you hope to implement some top-down unraveling of the social value & relative 'normality' people have placed on having children (for all of human history), your alternative solution of "just want something else that's a bit similar, like adoption" is likely to be as effective as it is considerate. That is: not at all.
When we're in a position to simultaneously redress unfairness & give people the things that make them happy, we should do it. Morally, you need a REAL good reason not to, which you don't.

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you and your m8's are probably going to gang up on me too but i found your comparisons re infertility a bit uncomfortable too. cancer? really?

The point of that comparison is we don't get to decide how painful a condition is for other people, and dismiss or rank their suffering on our perception of its severity. We do it anyway for ourselves, but our appraisal is worthless outside of that.
If someone is infertile and they reach an emotional point (or already felt) that they don't want kids, it's not necessarily a point of suffering, they're fine, there's no problem. Depending on the cause, they might not feel like there's anything wrong at all about it. But if you ache for children of your own loins, if you really want them, but can't have them, it can be a source of primal grief more severe than wanting a car you can't afford, or whatever the heck.
If you want something and you are prevented from having it, that will produce negative feelings, whether you can't have kids because of your body or because the government will punish you. It's a disadvantage, because you will perceive yourself in the contrast space of others who can have it - a longer life, a sharper mind, more possessions, a stable society, civil rights.
These negative feelings en masse can topple governments and plunge societies into chaos, so respecting, recognising and managing them is a matter of serious importance for any social arrangement you want to implement. It's a matter of engineering desires and expectations - how do you make biological parenthood less appealing? Or home ownership? Or gun ownership? How do you get a societies birth rate to plateau or fall? This is what success looks like for safe population decline.

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lmao at 'infertility isn't a disease and you'd better not compare it to anything at all.' Infertility can be a symptom of lots of diseases, and we treat symptoms all the time. Like, are they talking IVF or all fertility treatments or I don't even want to know?

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Thank you! That would be the safe out for them, they could go "It's not comparable because it's never just one thing", except we've both been referring to it abstractly throughout (not to mention in a sloppy way that betrays ignorance of the details of the subject on both our parts). If I had the familiarity I think a lot of that dancing around would have crumbled to being more rigorous about what treatments exactly we're talking about, or exactly what physical circumstances preventing birth we are including.

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My God, you and ur cheer squad are fucked. Fucked I tells ya! Now ur comparing infertility to BAD EYESIGHT? Are there too many sighted people in the world? No. Are there too many people in the world? Yes, according to you, but hey, can't do anything to address it because THATS DISCRIMINATION. lmao.

I'm having trouble closing in on what you *would* be comfortable comparing infertility to, but I won't hold my breath for an answer, so save your posture of sensitivity.
Blocking artificial births will not prevent overpopulation - it won't "address it", so save your posture of common concern.
For the third time I'll say this on this website, probably answering you, you cannot enact a program of population control that is painlessly compatible with our present moral values, political values, and capitalism. I have clearly and repeatedly said here I want to see all of those values altered or dismantled to privilege the survival of the species OVER the fancies of any individual, and for you to keep willfully dodging that explicit knowledge of who you're talking to while stringing this along is damning. It's honestly like you only read the first half of all my sentences.
I've already said whatever happens when we hit our breaking point will be ugly and unfair and painful, before you tried teaching me hard truths like "life is unfair". I thought about your idea and I explained, seven answers ago, that I'm opposed to it because it's too small to prevent that outcome on its own. Don't worry, you'll get your wish of infertile couples being unhappy, eventually, and I hope it's a consolation when it comes.

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What are some things that other people can learn from your life experiences? (In case you have answered a similar question before, could you please link me to it?)

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–Never calorie restrict.
(You'll fuck up your metabolism and soon enough, if you're a female, your body will compensate for the severe caloric restriction and shut down systems it believes you can survive in the absence of. If prolonged, you may have menstrual irregularities and it can lead to infertility in extreme cases. Also, your voluptuous and sexy hair (sigh) will fall out in chunks and you'll begin to conclude that you're suffering from alopecia.)
–Don't be afraid of vulnerability.
–Be a mess.
–Take risks.
–Question everything.

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Why our society in-laws* blame woman for not giving birth to a boy but to a girl? When science says that it is male parent who is responsible. Because his sperms X & Y decide whether the baby will be boy or girl. Other than this, it is Allah's will.

the answer to why is ignorance and lack of education....
other than that, they always blame the female for infertility issues, even if the female is infertile it's completely Allah's will, not her own fault.....
as far as males are concerned they wont consent to even get themselves a check-up considering it an attack on their pride....
only educating people can make things better....

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مرحبا دكتورة 😊 ما تعرفين شنوه المهم ويلي ممكن يتكرر بأسئلة الفسلجة بأجر ؟ شكراً جزيلاً وموفقة يا رب

اهلا
مااعرف بالظبط بس شوفوا limbic system -autonomic
هن كلش مهمات الدكتوره ركزت عليهن
وبمحاضرات د نصير function الخاصة بالكلاندات ركز عليها واضافه الى male infertility factor
ذني مهمات وركزوا عليهن
ان شاء الله تجي سهلة باجر وموفقين

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It really bothers me that you got pregnant at 17, unplanned, with someone that you cannot keep a stable relationship with. Yet I spent five years with someone, two of which were trying to get pregnant only to find out I'm infertile. Be grateful, kid, be really grateful for your blessing.

my relationship has nothing to do with your infertility and my parenting ethics. I'm sorry you're infertile. But if it wasn't for this beautiful life growing inside of me I would have never grown up and I would probably be dead bc I didn't know how to make a good choice. Thanks though.

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what would you do, if you know your fiancé/fiancée is having infertility problem or sexual dysfunction problem, which you realise after he/she told you before the wedding day? :)

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berat sekaliiii pertanyaannya 😂 bikin kepikiran. sebelumnya sorry ya nokh kalo jawaban gue panjang (bener kan henokh panggilan lo? hehe)
1. kalau memang si calon suami niat untuk berumah tangga (harus niatlah gilak berumah tangga ngga buat main-main), pasti dia akan memberi tahu ini dari jauh-jauuuuuh hari. lalu dari sepengetahuan gue, pasti ada cek and re-check (?) kesehatan di rumah sakit untuk ngecheck semuanya, termasuk masalah subur atau tidak suburnya saya dan pasangan, lengkap dengan surat-surat resmi dari RS. kalo tau dari jauh-jauh hari, bisa dicari solusinya bareng-bareng. bisa dengan cara terapi kesuburan (emang ada?!! hahaha), ada deh istilahnya apa sih gue lupa pokoknya semacam terapi gitu-gitu. kalo emang fix banget masalahnya ngga bisa diselesaikan dengan cara kedokteran, yasyyyudah adopsi anak juga ngga apa-apa kok 😊
2. kalo yang baru ngasih taunya h-1 sebelum nikah itu menurut gue jarang terjadi di masa modern kayak gini. anjay. kalo gue pasti maunya cek kesehatan duluuuu sebelum nikah, biar balik lagi ke nomer 1. tapi kalo emang sampe kejadian kayak gitu, pasti gue shock setengah mati dulu, pasti bingung. duh jadi sedih. tapi tetep nikah kooook tenang aja haha. trus sehabis nikah, solusinya juga kayak yang di nomer 1. cek dan konsul ke dokter dulu, kalo emg udah hopeless, adopsi bayi lucuuu 😆
makasih loh sudah membuatku kepikiran hahaha.

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How do you feel about people that complain about the gender of their child? For example "Ugh, I really wanted a girl but I got a boy!" Do you think it's wrong for someone to hope for one gender over the other? Did you personally have a preference?

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I wanted a boy and got a girl but I was still just as excited. I was just shocked. I had a teacher who battled with infertility for like 10+ years. Finally got pregnant at age 40. So basically this was gonna be her only child. She wanted a girl SO badly and then when she found out she was having a boy she bawled and was upset about it up until after the baby was born. Which disgusts me. She wanted a baby for so long then when she got it she wanted something else. But I don't think it's "wrong" to want one gender over the other. I'm sure we all do. What's wrong is not accepting you're not having your preferred gender after you find out. If that makes sense.

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Hi elisa! Can you please give me your ideas re avengers age of ultron if you've watched it like can you review it ? I really want to hear/read your opinion about the film :) thanks a lot!

i haven't watched it, but i can relay tumblr/twitter/tara's thoughts for you, basically verbatim:
• FUCK YOU JOSS WHEDON
• WHAT THE FUCK
• PIETRO???? ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME?????
• ALSO WHAT THE FUCK WHERE DID THAT BRUCENAT ROMANCE SUBPLOT COME FROM
• ABSOLUTELY FUCKING NOWHERE
• THANKS FOR REDUCING NATASHA TO A LOVE INTEREST
• AND GIVING HER NO FREEDOM AS A SUPERHERO
• AND THAT TONY RAPE LINE!!! WTF THE FUCK
• DID YOU HONESTLY JUST EQUATE INFERTILITY TO BEING A MONSTER?????
• i can't believe your ass
• how the fuck are you hailed as a feminist
• PIETRO IS ALIVE!!!! THERE IS HARD EVIDENCE TO PROVE HE IS ALIVE!!!
• he deserved better
• i fucking hate you
• what the fuck???? bruce just fell into nat's boobs??? i hate your ass so much
• this was a mess
• the avengers did not feel like friends once during this movie
• i'm so glad you're not directing anymore marvel films
• BRUCENAT??!?!?!?
• H O N E S T L Y

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So my boyfriend and i are going to prom together and i think this is the man i want to marry is it too early tooo think like this??

hahaha no its perfectly normal to invision your future together as long as you dont act upon it too early. My neighbors dated all throughout high school and now they're 50 something and despite their infertility they have pets and are one of the happiest couples ik and still refer to each other as " mahal " or love in tagalog lol. So yeah just enjoy high school, wait it out and have fun. (-;

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the human population exploded after the industrial revolution modern medicine has drastically reduced mortality rates genetically modified foods feed save millions of lives overpopulation and climate change are bringing us to the brink of disaster but at least astrology will save us

i never once said astrology will save us it is just something that i love and connect with and will always love and i don't understand why that's such a huge problem to you. i know all these things and am aware of all of those issues (btw gmo food is terrible for you and causes cancer and infertility and isn't real food) like damn dude it's super nice outside today and i'm just tryna chill and you're throwin off my groove with your negativity. go learn to love yourself and go put something positive into the world so you don't have to be an anonymous parasite on the internet

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