#lesbian

My first was in high school so pretty early for a lesbian, but I haven't really had another real relationship since it ended so I feel pretty inexperienced now on my late 20s. I've gone on many dates but usually the ones I like don't want to go on second dates, and I haven't had any luck with hookups either... I'm so jealous of gay men because it seems like they are getting laid all the time and they have Grindr for that very purpose even. before corona I went to lesbian/queer women evenings at gay clubs every time they were arranged but I've never had any luck there even if I always try flirting with several women. The only ones who seem interested in me are straight men, women with penises, and other women and nb people that I'm just not into.
I must have been about 19 when I had my first girlfriend. Met her online after several months of no matches. Sometimes OLD can feel like a lot of effort especially for lgbt people as our dating pool is a lot smaller that straight peoples. Just try not to give up, you are still very young and like a lot have said its takes us a little longer to get into relationships compared to straights. Our dating experience is just a little different and requires more patience in my opinion. Dont give up, you will meet a wonderful woman one day.
I had a crush on the same (straight) girl for years in middle and high school. By the time I got around to admitting I had a crush on her, admitting she was straight, and getting over her it was my senior year of high school. I had my first “real” relationship around 18. At the time I felt like I was “running late” too, but in retrospect I was totally fine. Straight people get a head start on learning how to date and stuff because they don’t have to spend all that time figuring out their sexuality— they can just jump right in as teenagers. It’s normal for us to take a little longer. Figuring out that you’re gay is a whole extra step in the process! You’re totally fine. Good luck with everything!
I was 17. It was pretty bad, lasted about a month and a half. She was 16. Unknown to me at the time, she was using me to cheat on her 22-year-old boyfriend, and she told me after he dumped her for his 14-year-old ex. We didn't really like each other, as much as we liked making out. Found out that in the end, she was cheating on me with a guy in my homeroom.
I think it was a good relationship. Looking back at it, I just had a lot of issues that came up towards the end that I wasn't handling like I thought I was at the time. Issues caused stress, stress caused fights, which led to a breakup. I would still date her again if it happens at some point, given that I'm older (and so is she) and have more clarity, and the limited amount of times I talked to her since then we seem to still get along.

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I thiiiink the first exposure I had to polyamory (and not random stereotypes) was close to a decade ago, via an article of a lesbian throuple. I was amazed by their relationship, how they navigated marriage, and how much they all loved each other.

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Beyond that, I only had passing knowledge of it for a while, and didn't stop to consider if I was polyamorous; after all, I was convinced I was too needy, too jealous, too [insert other insult here]. However, I did have fleeting thoughts about having a polycule, and at times, even yearned for one. Furthermore, knowing I was committed to a single person for life - and would have to pass up relationships with people I have chemistry with - felt like a massive loss, though I pushed that feeling deep down as it brought guilt and shame. I loved my husband, and while these wants didn't change my love for him, I thought having them made me a bad person - despite not acting upon them.

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It wasn't until I became close with someone who identified as non-monogamous that I could finally start properly exploring those ideas with someone who understood. I also put in a lot of research, and concluded that I *am* polyamorous. I came out about 18 months ago and it's felt right since, even if coming out did contribute to the end of my (already unhealthy) marriage.

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