#overthinker

I am a overthinker.
An overthinker feels like,“My brain has too many tabs open”.

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It is both a blessing and a curse. Being an over thinker has been a blessing, in the sense that it has stops you from making many stupid decisions, but a curse, in the sense that sometimes you cannot shut your brain off no matter how badly you want to.

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If you are an over thinker like myself, you know the feeling of making a risky decision and spending hours worrying whether or not you did the right thing. You know the feeling of getting a bad test grade and thinking of everything you could have done differently to prevent it. “If I started studying earlier I would have done better…If I was on my phone less I would have done better…If I worked less I would have done better…If I didn’t hang out with my friends I would have done better…” The list of excuses and reasons goes on and on until you finally accept the fact that you got a bad grade and you will have to do better next time.

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Over thinking can also be the result of a busy schedule. When you are as busy as I am, your mind is always going a mile a minute. You are constantly thinking about what you have to do today, tomorrow, next week, and next month. You are just thinking and over thinking nonstop. Even when you do finally have some down time, meaning when it is finally time to go to sleep, sometimes your brain still won’t shut off. You begin planning out your day for tomorrow or start worrying about things you shouldn’t. You might start thinking about an argument you got into with a friend or boyfriend and wondering if you had just done this or that differently, maybe the result would have been different.

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When you are an over thinker, the slightest things can cause you to freak out and make up random scenarios in your head that you know are highly unlikely. When your friend doesn’t answer your text message, you will sit there wondering if she is mad at you and then think back to every conversation you’ve had with her wondering what might have upset her. In all reality, her phone is probably dead or she is at work.

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When you start getting sick, you are immediately googling your symptoms trying to figure out what’s wrong. By the end of it, you have convinced yourself you are dying or need surgery. As a child, when I would complain about a pain in my side, my mother would always tell me my appendix was on the other side because she knew I had convinced myself I had appendicitis. To this day, I do not know which side of my body the appendix is on.

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Long story short, overthinking is something many people experience. In some ways it is helpful and other ways it is not. Over time, you learn to cope with it and learn that you cannot do everything just right all the time. People make mistakes. Nobody is perfect. Learn to close some of those tabs and enjoy life. It's a beautiful thing

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Quirky, nice, happy, friendly, lovely and cute are probably the ones I hear most often from my friends, co workers and girlfriend.
I guess I'd agree with all of those. My husband adds in funny - I generally don't think of myself as a funny person but I can be around people I am really super comfortable with.
Intense - Easily the top one I get. It sounds negative, but the second I want to get into details on the meaning I'm just proving I'm intense apparently. Smart - Sure, I agree. Strong - They mean mentally and I don't know if I agree or not. Mostly I disagree, but I'm not dead so maybe they have a point. Hard headed/Stubborn - ...yeah. Crazy - Well documented so yeah.
Weird/eccentric - Seems to be used when people don't want to say "crazy," so sure. Meticulous - I got this a lot at work. I would agree that I am on some things. Funny - I don't really agree on that, but people laugh so I dunno. Sarcastic - Much easier for me to agree with than a general "funny." High maintenance - I don't think I'm that bad honestly. Lazy - Used often when I'm depressed. Disagree. I'm depressed. Big difference.
I think quirky is the most common. I'm called mothering, eloquent, concise, forward, loud, smart, annoying.
Funny, cute, beautiful, kind hearted, sympathetic, easy going, relaxed, patient, talkative, empathetic, genuine.
Intimidating, quiet, patronizing, really fucking smart, overthinker, neurotic, 'magnanimous with the cloves,' ambitious, kind, a comrade, a team player, overcommitter, procrastinator, hipster.
I agree with the negatives mostly. I'm struggling to correct them. Magnanimous with the cloves is probably my favorite description ever (I used to smoke cloves, and give them away to whoever asked, no questions back).
Cute, Sweet, Warm, Girl Next Door, Worrisome, Intelligent, INNOCENT. I don't get it, no matter my personality I get innocent. I guess I could agree with some of them, maybe not the innocent one (and I have no idea what people mean when they tell me I'm the girl next door. They barely know me).

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aku juga seorang overthinker, tapi akhir-akhir ini udh jarang overthinking. mungkin cara ini terdengar klise karena pasti udh banyak orang yg sering bilang. caranya, apapun masalah yg lg kita dapet jgn terlalu dipikirin, i mean setiap pikiran itu muncul kita "swipe" si pikiran itu, dan jangan terlalu nethink. inget kalau apapun masalah yg dtg itu pasti ada penyelesaiannya, pasti. karena masalah tuh gaakan terus-terusan stay, walaupun nanti akan ada masalah baru yg bikin kita overthinking lg, selalu inget kalau apapun yg terjadi akan ada penyelesaiannya dan ambil hikmah dari apa masalah-masalah itu. coba juga deh untuk lebih sering ngelakuin hal yg kamu seneng, main sama temen-temen, atau apapun itu. karena percuma juga loh kita terlalu nethink mikirin sesuatu yg belum tentu hal itu akan terjadi. jadi lebih baik kita fokus ke depan, upgrade diri kita supaya terus lebih maju dan lebih baik okayy? semoga membantu yaa<3

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"Always remembering the past situation that hurts to you. Overthinker. Close your eyes but your mind is awake. Feels like its your fault. Mood swings again and again. Feels like no one understand you because they think your only dramacting. You want to stay only in your room. Can"t enjoy the talk from others. Feels like no one care for your feelings. Many thoughts in your mind that can't explain, express enough the way you want you want to express. I hate that feelings because I felt that again and again...😔" F.L

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"Depression feels like a combination of an overwhelming numbness and a heightened emotional sensitivity simultaneously. This completely depletes your energy for life." B.B

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"Depression feels like exhaustion. It feels like I've worked 18 hours without a break constantly. It feels like you have an uneasy feeling within your stomach that you just cannot shake and no matter how positive you try to be you end up back in the same hole you started in." J.M

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"For me, it feels like giving up because everything else is too hard. A life of normal feels like it will never happen to you - it could if you put in the work but you can’t be bothered to feel better… because it’s all too hard and it’s easier to sit in the darkness and stay there no matter how hard you hate yourself for not trying more
Knowing you could do so much with you’re life but feeling like you never ever will. Feeling like a failure before you’ve even started
That’s me anyway ❤️" T.R

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Alhamdulillaah, semoga bisa baik² saja :')
Tapi Allaah itu baik banget selalu dikala sedang tidak baik² saja, Allaah kirimkan support lwt hamba²nya kadang walau hanya sekedar tulisan tapi sangat² membantu dan bikin yakin bahwa pertolongan Allaah itu bakal datang. Salah satu contohnya adalah ini :')

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Ini juga relate bagi para overthinker :) yang namanya husnudzon sama Allah itu kek punya kekuatan tersendiri. Karena Allah memang sesuai prasangka hamba Nya.

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وَعَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ – رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهُ – : أَنَّ رَسُوْلَ اللهِ – صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ – ، قَالَ : (( يَقُوْلُ اللهُ تَعَالَى : أَنَا عِنْدَ ظَنِّ عَبْدِي بِي ، وَأَنَا مَعَهُ إِذَا ذَكَرَنِي ، فَإِنْ ذَكَرَنِي فِي نَفْسِهِ ، ذَكَرْتُهُ فِي نَفْسِي ، وَإِنْ ذَكَرنِي فِي مَلَأٍ ذَكَرْتُهُ فِي مَلأٍ خَيْرٍ مِنْهُمْ )) مُتَّفَقٌ عَلَيْهِ

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Dari Abu Hurairah radhiyallahu ‘anhu, ia berkata bahwa Nabi shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam bersabda, “Allah Ta’ala berfirman: Aku sesuai persangkaan hamba-Ku. Aku bersamanya ketika ia mengingat-Ku. Jika ia mengingat-Ku saat bersendirian, Aku akan mengingatnya dalam diri-Ku. Jika ia mengingat-Ku di suatu kumpulan, Aku akan mengingatnya di kumpulan yang lebih baik daripada pada itu (kumpulan malaikat).” (Muttafaqun ‘alaih) [HR. Bukhari, no. 6970 dan Muslim, no. 2675]

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Sumber https://rumaysho.com/17041-aku-sesuai-persangkaan-hamba-ku-hingga-balasan-mengingat-allah.html

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