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I had to think about this question for some time and, in doing so, I realized just how little I remember from my school days... Because there aren't really any field trips that stand out in my mind. I remember some of the locations I went to, but very little of what I did or learnt there...

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... I do, however, remember getting an earful off my primary school history teacher after a trip to the Jorvik Viking museum in York. I don't remember how old I was exactly, but I know it was very early in my school career, maybe year two?

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Anyway, I had been asked to write a report of my visit and also draw a picture of something from the trip. I completely misunderstood what was being asked of me and drew myself sat in McDonalds, which was were we went for lunch after the museum. My teacher wasn't best pleased and insisted I draw something from the museum, so I drew a Viking.

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Because I didn't have much room left on the page though, I had to put the Viking drawing right next to my McDonalds illustration, which made it look like the Viking was in the restaurant with us. 🤣 🤦‍♀️

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Thank you! 💚
Well, I have 5 tattoos. Most of my tattoos have meaning, although I have one (a large one from my hip to halfway down my thigh) that is purely aesthetic. I got my first tattoo in 2019, the second one in the first half of 2020, the third one in the second half of 2020, the fourth one at the end of 2021, and the fifth one at the end of 2022. In this year, I’m planning to get another tattoo because I’ve had a break from tattooing my body. I’m definitely not stopping here and will get more. I was certain of that when I walked out of the tattoo studio with my first tattoo at age 19.
I want to have "sleeves" from separate tattoos. I’m also planning a tattoo for example on my back. I used to want tattoos on my fingers but the tattoo artist advised against it because these tattoos often spread or lose color quickly. It’s such a specific area on the body. I think tattoos will cover about 50% of my body. I think that's the maximum for me.
I dreamed of having tattoos in middle school but only few people knew about it. I was such a "gray mouse". I was quiet, very shy and I had no self-confidence so I was afraid of how others would react. Everyone was shocked when I got an upper lobe (this is a kind of piercing) in primary school so I was a little bit afraid of how others would react. I didn't want other people's gaze on myself. 😂
When I graduated high school, I understood that it was ridiculous. I have changed inside and out of myself. 💚

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P.S. On this picture you can see little part of my other tattoo which you couldn't see before: https://ask.fm/MargaretWINTEaR/answers/175040607697?utm_source=copy_link&utm_medium=android
On this picture you can see my piercing: https://ask.fm/MargaretWINTEaR/answers/175141876689?utm_source=copy_link&utm_medium=android

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I think it’s largely a societal thing that people feel almost pressured to say that. Like, society places so much value on having children, and people can really feel a lot of pressure to start a family, even when it’s not what they truly want. It’s always “WHEN will you have kids?” 🙄 Not “Hey, what do you think about having children? Is that something you picture for yourself? How do you feel about becoming a parent?”

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I feel like it’s just an automatic thing that people expect… “You grow up, you get married, you have kids.” End of story. And it just doesn’t work like that for many people. 🤷🏼‍♀️ I think that expectation can be quite… harmful and very presumptive. Also, it’s just rude to ask people that. Consider this: Can the person you asked have biological kids? What would be the risks/complicating factors if they were to get pregnant? How would having children impact the life they currently lead or would like to live down the road? Is it safe for them to be pregnant? Like, there are so many questions to consider before jumping to that conclusion. So to me, I think people use that phrase as a way to get people to stop asking, or assuming they even want children right off the bat. Even though, they shouldn’t even have to do that, or explain themselves to others. If they don’t want kids, respect that, don’t pressure them to the point they feel they have say stuff like “I h*te kids.” 🥴

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I’ll say for myself, I don’t h*te kids by any means… But, I absolutely despise being asked “when” I’ll have children or that I “should” have them by now. 😑 I don’t particularly want to think about that at this point in my life, to be fair. I have lots of other things I want to do before I think about being a mother, and more than that, if I truly WANT to be a mother. To be frank, I don’t even know if I can get pregnant (due to medical reasons), nor do I know if it would be even be safe for me or the baby. So… yeah, it’s something I personally have to grapple with. I just think it can be/is a sore spot for a lot of people, and not everyone wants to address that topic. And at least if they say something like that openly, people tend to back off. That’s my logic anyway. 🤔

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I think it’s inexcusable. It’s one of the most selfish, disrespectful, harmful things you can do to someone you claim to love. 😒 I will never understand people who cheat, nor the multitude of excuses they make up for why they do it. None of them are believable, and all of them just further show how much you don’t care about the person you cheated on.

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I’ve said this before but I’d rather someone straight up tell me that they don’t love me, and break up with me on the spot, instead of cheating on me. At least, then I’d know they were a decent enough person to tell me how they truly felt. I could heal from that. Finding out there’s already someone else in the picture and they didn’t think I was deserving of so much as an explanation is traumatic and scarring. Once someone cheats on me, they don’t get to tell me they love me, or that they ever loved/respected me that much even before cheating, because their choices tell a different story. 🙄

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I’ve always had a very, very strong reaction to that stuff because I just cannot fathom hurting someone like that. And while I’ve never been cheated on personally, I know of many that have, and every time it happens, it’s just as infuriating as the last time. 😡

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