#psychological

I believe it has nothing to do with age as long as your heart is at peace.

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Marriage is a reality. You have to go through that at some point in life. That's what our elders expect from us, and so do we. We know that someday we will get married.

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But let's be clear that marriage is a part of life, not the motive of life. Our lives aren't revolving around marriages. Rather, it's just one aspect of our lives that needs to be gone through.

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Now, about having it late or early. I don't think that late or early matters more than having someone who is a source of peace.

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See how life is going. We are physically and mentally exhausted after our long struggle for education and finding jobs.

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At this point, we don't have a long list of demands for who we want.

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The only demand would be that the person is not a source of distress, that the person doesn't give physical or psychological trauma.

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There are a lot of things going on in life, and at the end of the day, we need someone at home who is a source of peace, not a cauldron of tension.

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Feeling uncomfortable or uneasy when you have a starkly different personality from someone else in the room is a common experience. Several factors could contribute to this feeling:

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1. Lack of familiarity: When you encounter someone with a significantly different personality, it can be challenging to relate or find common ground. This lack of familiarity can create a sense of discomfort as you may not know how to navigate the interaction or connect with the person.

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2. Differences in communication styles: Variances in communication styles can lead to misunderstandings or difficulties in effective communication. If you and the other person have contrasting ways of expressing yourselves or communicating, it can create tension and discomfort in the room.

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3. Fear of judgment or rejection: Depending on the situation, being around people with a different personality may trigger feelings of inadequacy or a fear of being judged for being different. This fear of rejection or not fitting in can contribute to discomfort and a sense of unease.

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4. Cognitive dissonance: When confronted with someone who holds contrasting views or values, it can create cognitive dissonance, which is the psychological discomfort that arises from holding conflicting beliefs or attitudes. This dissonance can be uncomfortable and may lead to tension in social interactions.

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It's important to remember that everyone has their own unique personality, and differences can be an opportunity for growth and learning. It can be helpful to maintain an open mind, practice empathy, and focus on finding common ground or understanding each other's perspectives to alleviate some of the discomfort.

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My life has been that way lately in regards to my grades, psychological health, my ability to make friends and finding it hard to have any motivation to try new things. My life was alright at one point but the older I got, the more I drifted apart from my old friends and the less opportunities I had to socialize with others since I’m hardly ever invited anywhere anymore and feel as if I don’t have much of an option but to keep to myself these days. It’s just harder to convince myself that everything will be ok when it feels like life isn’t getting any better. The only people I can rely on at the end of the day are my parents, yet they aren’t very social and only advise me to go out and meet people but don’t do anything to actually help make that happen for me and I’m not going to chase after people or expect them to care about me anymore.

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People should always have boundaries, not to keep people away, but to have a healthy friendship/relationship with them that doesn’t become toxic and/or abusive over time. For me, I see boundaries as something that helps people develop better communication skills, prevents emotional and psychological damage in the long run, and it helps keep you safe from bad individuals who are out to use the information you give them against you. But, you shouldn’t have too many boundaries to the point where you’re afraid of opening up to others in the slightest bit, are paranoid, and are always skeptical about others intentions if they try to get to know you more even when they haven’t done anything to make you question their intentions in the first place. Have boundaries but also be open to taking chances and getting out of your comfort zone at the same time. I’m sorry that you aren’t together with them anymore and that they’ve made it harder for you to reach out to them :/

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Coping mechanisms and strategies differ from person to person, depending on what's the source of your frustration. These sources can be both external and internal.

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Sometimes it's because of build up emotions inside you, your capacity to hold on to those emotions, wo khatam ho jati he because it's just emotions generating and living inside you, there's no outlet for them to be channelized.

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Sometimes it's because your psychological and biological needs are not met.

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And sometimes it's simply because of something that goes out of your control or something that's not happening acc to your will, i.e., cognitive dissonance.
In any case, know your triggers, accept the situation, try to analyze the external/environmental causes, then look at what you're feeling as a result of those triggers (your internal state), introspect, try to have a solution focused approach.

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Try to respond than to react. Mindfulness and exercise can also be very helpful in most of the cases.
I personally try to do something where I can experience control and that can act as catharsis. As in cooking or writing.

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And, why do I always get such subjective questions. 🤧

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Relationships are complex. However — as different people have different personalities and relationships, they can have complicated dynamics, and one of the toxicity is that abuse, it can seem normal to some people, while you may realize that your partner is a narcissist and is abusive, you may keep tolerating their abuse and choose to stay in the relationship and it sucks. Although such toxic behaviours may be a deal-breaker for you, you may willingly become a victim of psychological, emotional, physical, or sexual abuse. You may choose to neglect certain abusive and toxic behaviours, like unhealthy possessiveness, manipulation of control, lack of trust between partners, disrespect, dishonesty. However, your partner’s toxic behaviours may not be limited to a negative relationship dynamic. Narcissists employ a range of abusive strategies and tactics to control their victims, some of which may be hard to identify. There are certain abusive behaviors that no one should accept from their partners, no matter what. The more you accept these toxic behaviors, the more they will eat away your self-esteem, self-confidence, and self-respect. You will constantly feel devalued, drained, and suffocated in the relationship unless you choose to speak for yourself so please remind yourself that you are not at fault and you don’t deserve to be treated in such a way. Take a stand for yourself and refuse to tolerate abuse. 🌻

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"Not able to adjust in the society - being a stranger"

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I have recently conducted a survey about whether it's easy to adjust in the society or not. The answer to it is that it is not. There are many reasons. First, if you are finding it hard to adjust then it's because you are different than the rest of the people. It can be because of your philosophical or psychological difference. It includes your level of confidence too. Secondly, as a Muslim, we have to maintain a firm and pure character, but in order to blend in well, we are required to lower down or disengage our moral compass which is unacceptable for any pure soul. Thus, those who forsake and compromise on their character, they often tend to mix up easily. There can be many other reasons as well, but those two are the biggest ones being a great challenge for the Muslims of today who are trying to keep their faith and modesty intact. There was a time when the world was full of practical Muslims, it was so easy then to practice what your heart would say and not feel any guilt or strange feeling while being yourself. But today, it's quite the opposite. The Muslims who practice Deen are rare. They feel like strangers in the society. The society has compromised on its moral compass and is interested in materialistic affairs only. This article is just a summary of the study, there can be a complete and thorough discussion on each and every one of its aspects.

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حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنُ إِبْرَاهِيمَ، وَيَعْقُوبُ بْنُ حُمَيْدِ بْنِ كَاسِبٍ، وَسُوَيْدُ بْنُ سَعِيدٍ، قَالُوا حَدَّثَنَا مَرْوَانُ بْنُ مُعَاوِيَةَ الْفَزَارِيُّ، حَدَّثَنَا يَزِيدُ بْنُ كَيْسَانَ، عَنْ أَبِي حَازِمٍ، عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ، قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ـ صلى الله عليه وسلم ـ ‏ "‏بَدَأَ الإِسْلاَمُ غَرِيبًا وَسَيَعُودُ غَرِيبًا فَطُوبَى لِلْغُرَبَاءِ"‏‏.‏

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It was narrated from Abu Hurairah that.. https://www.shorturl.at/qtV47 (Read the complete article through the link)

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This is such an old and stupid question but a lot of things are psychological. They happen at an unconscious level.
For as long as you DO NOT KNOW a person, what they look like, is what your brain first picks up about them. Do you know by default, you are even prone to consider “good looking” people as nicer and kinder even if they’re not. That’s just how our brain works because like it or not, looks do matter. Never paid attention to the fact that you first reach for the food that looks good? 🙂 The very same thing implies on height. It’s so very psychological. There’s nothing extraordinary about tall guys it’s just that men are viewed as the protectors not just in Islam but also in certain (sexist theories) the taller the guy is the more (by default) a female brain assumes that “he” can protect me (if needed.) This implies in the animal kingdom as well. The stronger the male is, the more he is preferred and height is (by default) associated with strength and power.

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Oh really? this genre helps you fall asleep? that's something. Don't know if it's strange haha but it's really something new to me, since I am all ears, eyes, heart and everything when it comes to thriller/ crime/ psychological/ etc. Do you have any recommendations by the way? They are my favourite genres.
Talking about it, that reminds me of a funny story 😂 years ago I was at my (maternal) grandparents' house, and I was watching (at night) the film of 'Bride of Chucky' whilst my grandmother was sleeping. Suddenly she opened her eyes, and saw a damn scene 😂 aaaaaa ****** (some bad words), what the hell are you watching?
😂😂😂 I don't blame her, it wasn't a pleasant scene to see when you suddenly wake up (in case you watched it, it was when chucky's bride was giving birth).
To answer your question, maybe something calm like romance or comedy haha. I guess this kind of genre would help me fall asleep.

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