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I feel hurt, distracted, and confused. I'm going to get married in a few months. I love my single life but I chose to yes to a particular person for marriage. I know I have to get married but I'm traumatized by marriage. I always think of bad scenarios. I'm tired. It feels like I'm in a loop.

bro I was thinking the same today and I didn't get any answer from my inner self.
Istakhara kar lou, may be it'll help.

1.Name 2.Alter 3.Augenfarbe 4.Haarfarbe 5.Schuhgröße 6.Beziehungsstatus 7.Handymarke 8.Sternzeichen 9.Lieblingsfarbe 10.Lieblingsmensch

1. Marie
2. 20, werde am Sonntag aber 21
3. Braun
4. Derzeit rot, Naturhaarfarbe: Braun
5. 39/40
6. Single
7. Samsung
8. Zwilling
9. Rot
10. Bleibt Geheim
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Mi sento un cesso. Provo in tutti i modi a farmi carina, mi curo, etc. Single da 8 anni. In più stamattina ho scoperto che il ragazzo carino della macelleria (in cui io e mia mamma andiamo spesso) fa battute simpatiche e piccoli favori non per simpatia.. bensì perché ha una cotta per mia mamma

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Penso che il tuo disagio derivi dal fatto che pensi di trovare la validazione esternamente a te: prima di tutto, se tu ti sentirai sicura, ti assicuro che molto fa la sicurezza. Ci sono milioni di persone esteticamente non granché, ma la sicurezza e soprattutto lo charme le rende tremendamente affascinanti, soprattutto agli occhi delle altre persone. Poi questo non vale per tutti i casi, ma fa tanto.
Però penso che questo si colleghi molto al tuo disagio, ma correggimi se sbaglio, mi sembra che tu voglia per forza piacere a quella singola persona di cui stai parlando.
Io ho un po' lo stesso problema a volte, nel senso che tante volte mi sono sentita non considerata perché non ero secondo gli standard (secondo la mentalità), e in questo periodo sto lavorando sul fregarmene. Io voglio piacere a me stessa e basta, voglio fregarmene, perché avere feedback esterni ti porta ad un'autostima e una conferma solo illusoria e falsa.
Però capisco anche il disagio: io non sarò quella che ti dice frasi come "Sei bellissima comunque sia" perché le trovo di un'ipocrisia allucinante, però sento molto questo disagio e mi dispiace 🌺

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Alle Frauen hier haben einen Freund, um dieses soziale Netzwerk nutzen zu können, als Mindestvoraussetzung sollte sie Single sein 😡

Und warum? Ich bin nicht hier um jemanden kennenzulernen also ist es doch egal ob ich vergeben bin oder nicht😂🤷🏼‍♀️ask ist KEINE dating App und wer hier einen Partner sucht, ist hier einfach falsch.

I feel hurt, distracted, and confused. I'm going to get married in a few months. I love my single life but I chose to yes to a particular person for marriage. I know I have to get married but I'm traumatized by marriage. I always think of bad scenarios. I'm tired. It feels like I'm in a loop.

It's normal. Trust the process. Make some understanding before marriage and communicate your doubts with him.

Kannst du meinen Freund testen?

Sorry aber das ist der größte bullsh*t. Du sagst hier indirekt das du deinem Freund NICHT vertraust und ihn testen lassen musst ob er treu ist oder nicht. Wenn du ein Sch:iss Gefühl hast dann rede mit ihm! Wenn du ihm nicht vertraust dann beende es. Würde mein Freund mich testen wollen wäre das für mich ein trennungsgrund da es zeigt das dieser kein Vertrauen hat und eine Beziehung ohne vertrauen ist so oder so zum scheitern verurteilt. Wenn er in der Vergangenheit sch:isse gebaut hast dann sorry aber du hast es dir selbst ausgesucht weiter mit ihm zsm zu bleiben (oder wenn’s vor deiner Zeit war) mit ihm zusammenzukommen🙈ich versteh Leute nicht die mit jemanden zusammen kommen nur obwohl sie ihm/ihr nicht vertrauen. Schade das heutzutage viele eine Beziehung eingehen weil sie als Single nicht glücklich sein können aber vergessen das wenn man als Single nicht glücklich ist, ist man es auch nie zu 100% in einer Beziehung🤷🏼‍♀️heute Nacht auf Tik tok auch ein Video gesehen mit „er hat sein Handy bei dir vergessen“ und das Mädchen hat geheult. Ich hab kommentiert „bin ich die einzige die ihrem Freund vertraut und das Handy nicht kontrollieren muss“ und ich bekam so viele negative Kommentare wie „wo ist das kontrollieren das ist nachschauen“ oder „wie du siehst war es in diesem Fall berechtigt“ oder sonst ieinen Müll. Nein es war weder nur „nachschauen“ noch war es dennoch „berechtigt“… in diesem Fall hat der Freund wohl seiner Freundin vertraut denn wäre ihm das so wichtig gewesen das sie ja nichts findet oder so dann hätte er niemals das Handy „vergessen“ und so hat sie das Vertrauen zerstört zumal leider viele übertreiben wenn der Partner/die Partnerin mit dem anderen Geschlecht befreundet ist was ich auch 0 verstehe warum. Naja… vertraust du deinem Freund nicht dann sorry aber dann solltest du Schluss machen.

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why does he look like he dont shower regularly 😭😭😭

It must suck being this pathetic. Like what, you decide you don't like a random stranger on the internet so you stalk them just to say shitty things about their husband every single time they post a picture of him? Like is your life really that sad? That's embarrassing. You should really work on that.
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Let's see.. pros and cons of dating you?

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Pros:
1) I'm someone who enjoys/appreciates communications, in good and bad times.
2) I love giving. Not just buying things for her, but simpler things like letters etc.
3) I'm brand new. Virgin. Lmao.
4) I only date to marry.
5) I live by a code, STRONGLY. This includes being faithful, as far as not going out to meet with other females friends. And if there's a group outing with females in it, honesty is my policy.
6) Very respectful.
7) There's no needa fear I'm fooling around. I'm as good as having her name tatted on my forehead.
8) I can do without being all touchy, good for those who prefers to keep it that way, until marriage. After all, that's also my reason for staying a virgin.
Cons:
1) I'm not good looking.
2) There are certain things which I can't do due to anxiety.
3) I'm shy, so it may be a challenge to have me (or to have me act a certain way she would want me to) around her family, relatives and friends. So I can be socially awkward.
4) I'm not sure about the future me in a life with a partner, but the current single me occasionally goes through episodes of depression. If and when this happens.. I'm sorry. All I need is assurance, encouragement, or sometimes validation.
5) I'm not for those who wants/needs sex (before marriage) for us to work. Try your best u may, u still won't break me. Most I can do is hold hands and hi-bye hugs.
6) I'm also not into drinking (and drug abuse) and clubbing/partying, and also do not wish to date someone with such lifestyle.
Things to take note:
1) I am actually different from what my appearance may suggest. I swear people who know me can vouch for this.
2) I intend to retire this image before marriage. So don't let this image push u away, and for some, don't fall in love with this image of mine.
3) Love language that I give: Acts of services and Words of affirmation.
4) Love language that I appreciate: Words of affirmation. Simple man.

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Have you ever lost a family member to drug addiction?

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My single uncle (btw very cheerful man 👍) was living with my granny. 💟 When she died, he was so sad and depressed that one year after her death in his age 60 he committed suicide by taking more pills for sleeping and nobody knows till today whether it was accident or his decission 🙄😪

Încep sa înțeleg dc nu vreau relații pentru de fiecare data tot mie îmi fac rău prin ceartă si gelozii de nota doi si degeaba ca eu sant fidela ca persoana si in schimb primesc asta mai bine single decât sa primesc reclamații pe gelozii inutile ați avut foste proaste care v-au înșelat și de aia

In primul rand, ai grija ce atragi ca si partener! Inca nu ai dat tu de un baiat ok ca sa iti dovedeasca ca nu sunt toti la fel! Ai tot timpul din lume, e nevoie doar sa crezi in tine si in lucruri frumoase! 🤗

I feel hurt, distracted, and confused. I'm going to get married in a few months. I love my single life but I chose to yes to a particular person for marriage. I know I have to get married but I'm traumatized by marriage. I always think of bad scenarios. I'm tired. It feels like I'm in a loop.

I can totally relate. The same thing is happening to me. I loved someone else and my parents are forcing me to marry someone else. It hurts. My heart aches so bad 💔

Everyone's favorite color is black until it comes to skin !

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Everyone prefers good looks and not the good nature. If this wasn't the case i wouldn't have been single by now😂😂 Just kidding lol but this is a fact. Everyone prefers good skin and not the good nature! I wish People can understand that the face of a person can ever be changed with time, What won't change is their nature. :))

🍃❤ تحدث يا جميل الروح ❤🍃

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Funny story from today 😁 .... some young men were washing windows of our firm building from outside sitting on hanging ropes. Suddenly we ( 6 women in office) found one of them very handsome 😍😛. Later I had to go to other floor by a lift and guess who was inside .... yes, this man 😂 .... and here is our talk 👇
Me (spontaneously) 👉 Jeee, you are that handsome one! 😃
He 👉 hahahaha really ? 😅
Me 👉 haha .... yes ... I have a daughter 😅, do you have girlfriend?
He 👉 Yes 😊 ..... and how old is daughter?
Me 👉 25
He 👉 I am 28. 😃 If I was single would you arrange a date? 😉
Me 👉 Sure ! 😂😂😂

So I don’t understand why my mother feels anxious, depressed or a bit hopeless sometimes.

I think that your mother is grieving many losses at once. The loss of her family members and the loss of the physical strength she had a few years ago. Grief in itself is a very heavy feeling, it emotionally exhausts us. Along with this grief, she also fears for the future. She sees that your eldest sister hasn’t settled down yet and she has grown so weak already, would she even be there for all the rest of your siblings? Would she be physically and mentally able to get all of you settled down? This also is a cause of a lot of stress for a parent who feels like they’re physically declining because for most people, physical decline is a sign that they are losing control over their lives. If they are depending on others now, how are their kids gonna depend on them for their future? This thought scares them.
All this stress and anxiety, along with grief exhausts a person so they don’t feel doing anything that they once used to enjoy. You wouldn’t want to go and enjoy yourself if your mind is so burdened right?
One way to deal with this situation is help her open up about her concerns. But you can’t do that by asking her directly because she wouldn’t want to stress you guys out with her problems. So you could do that by creating a fake situation. Like say that you met a friend online jiski ammi is soo sick and she s so worried for her daughter’s future. She has x number of daughters and none of them are married. She has asked me for advice because she is my friend, what should I tell her mama? See what she says in response to that. Does she reveal her concerns too? Even if she doesn’t you can answer your own question by citing different ahadith. By saying ke you have read that Allah has promised that if something is written for something, even if the entire world is to gather against it, that person would get what’s destined for him. And tell her ke you know a woman on youtube who got married early in her life and thought she was so lucky but later own got divorced and now she recalls that her married life was a nightmare and she’d rather stay single. I know of a yutuber like that, that’s why I am mentioning this. So tell her that delay in marriage is because Allah prepares us for the life He has chosen for us. He has to equip us with all the skills we need to raise our children and live with the spouse that he has chosen for us.
Baaqi grief of losses, tell her to read a few verses of qur’an everyday for all the people she has lost. Qur’an reaches the departed souls and Allah eases their hereafter as a result of this. Talk to her about your khalas more often. Don’t let her suppress these feelings of grief. Sometimes crying it all out is the solution. My mother saw my nani breath her last, right infront of her. I thought there’s no way my mom would be able to recover from this trauma. At first it was very hard, she wouldn’t fall asleep no matter how hard she tried. But then I started talking more and more to her about our nani.

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Why is it bad to insinuate that someone is living in their mom's basement?

I suppose it's associated with someone having not done enough in their life to support themselves. Or that they can't take personal responsibility if their life, and thus rely on others to live.
However most the time it's a wrong assumption. Most people these days, especially recent generations can barely afford to move out, even more so if you're a single person. That's even if you're working too. Also some people stay with parents longer so they can save up a bit longer too.

‏"ایک سانولی لڑکی اور خالی جیب وال مرد بہتر جانتے ہیں کہ اس معاشرے میں رہنا کتنا مشکل ہے"۔ بانو قدسیہ

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it hurts when you see you’re losing a bond with every single person you used to be close with and it hurts even more when you realise they don’t need you in their life anymore, when y’all don’t even communicate properly and they move on with their lives, leaving you behind without giving you any kind of explanation. And you know you can’t move on from them, you hold onto them for a level they don’t belong to you, you think they’ll return when they’re actually never going to, and after all the hurt they’ve caused you, when you finally realise that they were never meant to stay, you start to heal with all the memories you’ve of them cause that’s all you got</3
تیرے پاس یادوں کا میلا رہے گا
تو لوگوں میں رہ کر بھی اکیلا رہے گا

I feel hurt, distracted, and confused. I'm going to get married in a few months. I love my single life but I chose to yes to a particular person for marriage. I know I have to get married but I'm traumatized by marriage. I always think of bad scenarios. I'm tired. It feels like I'm in a loop.

Don't worry girl. I know how you feel, because that's what I often think but If we marry the right person, then marriage is a blessing because the feeling of someone being for us is very beautiful 😍 Now that you have said yes, free yourself from these fears. Prepare yourself mentally and embrace your future life. May Allah make things easy for you ❤

I feel hurt, distracted, and confused. I'm going to get married in a few months. I love my single life but I chose to yes to a particular person for marriage. I know I have to get married but I'm traumatized by marriage. I always think of bad scenarios. I'm tired. It feels like I'm in a loop.

We all have different worries, some people are running from Marriages & some are dying to get married, But believe & trust Allah's plan.
He never burdens a soul beyond that it can bear.
Also It is mentioned in Quran.
وَعَسَى أَنْ تَكْرَهُوا شَيْئًا وَهُوَ خَيْرٌ لَكُمْ وَعَسَى أَنْ تُحِبُّوا شَيْئًا وَهُوَ شَرٌّ لَكُمْ وَاللَّهُ يَعْلَمُ وَأَنْتُمْ لَا تَعْلَمُونَ.
ممکن ہے کہ تم ایک چیز کو برا سمجھو حالانکہ وہ تمہارے حق میں بہتر ہواور یہ بھی ممکن ہے کہ تم ایک چیز کو پسند کرو حالانکہ وہ تمہارے حق میں بری ہو۔ اور (اصل حقیقت تو) اﷲ جانتا ہے اور تم نہیں جانتے...
May Allah grant me first good understanding than as i tell others.
Good luck girl 💜✨

I feel hurt, distracted, and confused. I'm going to get married in a few months. I love my single life but I chose to yes to a particular person for marriage. I know I have to get married but I'm traumatized by marriage. I always think of bad scenarios. I'm tired. It feels like I'm in a loop.

Its not your fault you feel this way. People always bring up their daughters this way, telling them that the reason they are here is just to get married. But well if you've considered a certain person for it, talk to them about all your confusions or emotions and discuss solutions and discuss about future that how would you wanna work things up. Conversation is the best rn for your issues. I hope you feel better soon. 🌸

I feel hurt, distracted, and confused. I'm going to get married in a few months. I love my single life but I chose to yes to a particular person for marriage. I know I have to get married but I'm traumatized by marriage. I always think of bad scenarios. I'm tired. It feels like I'm in a loop.

So Sorry to hear about your condition.. if u dnt want to then don't... Bcx you will destroy the life of tht person as well.. and if ur going to do it anyway then have you considered applying for any counselling or therapy session?it will be helpful to for you to gather your thoughts! 🌸

I feel hurt, distracted, and confused. I'm going to get married in a few months. I love my single life but I chose to yes to a particular person for marriage. I know I have to get married but I'm traumatized by marriage. I always think of bad scenarios. I'm tired. It feels like I'm in a loop.

You don't have to get marry if you don't have any sexual desires and you don't want a family. It is your choice and it is not compulsory.

‏اكتر كوبليه معلق معاكم اليومين دول .. ؟!

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I'm Unstoppable ..
I'm a Porsche with no brakes..
I'm invincible..Yeah, I win every single game..I'm so powerful..
Yeah, I'm unstoppable today!
ترا مدشدشة داخليا بس احب اسوى نفسي فايتر.

What makes us continue hoping for a change?

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Seeking for improve, this sick community
having a feel that u're not good enough, being terrible to yourself.
looking forward to be special.
There is generally a lot of pressure to “stack up” in our culture. We feel as if there is something wrong with us if, for example, we’re still single by a certain age, don’t make a certain amount of money, don’t have a large social circle, or don’t look and act a certain way in the presence of others. The list could truly go on forever.
On an almost daily basis, I meticulously look for evidence that I am a nobody, that I don’t deserve to be loved, or that I’m not living up to my full potential.
One thing I’ve learned about making changes and reaching for the next rung on the ladder is that you cannot feel fully satisfied with where you’re going until you can accept, acknowledge, and appreciate where you are.
Embrace and make peace with where you are, and your journey toward something new will feel much more peaceful, rewarding, and satisfying.

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I feel hurt, distracted, and confused. I'm going to get married in a few months. I love my single life but I chose to yes to a particular person for marriage. I know I have to get married but I'm traumatized by marriage. I always think of bad scenarios. I'm tired. It feels like I'm in a loop.

I understand, sis. I am stuck in a similar position. Marriage is so traumatizing for a lot of us. All I can say is you could do istikhara prayer yoirself, and let God help you out. Trust that His plan is the best, and ask to make it easy and tension free for yourself. I'll keep you in my prayers :)

you seem happy bubbly type

that's because maybe i am happy as fck like i am frecking HIGH on happiness like there aint no mtherfckr alive to mek me feel any other thing. or. just hear me out. OR. maybe, maybe. i am just a spectre, a speck from another dimension, a giant orb of dark depressing thoughts, negative energy, a black hole ready to eat all your happy thoughts & leave you empty of every single drop of happy juice. guess we'll never know.

What is something a teacher or mentor said to you that you will never forget?

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Not really something they said but one of my English teachers had a class party and we listened to Eminem and ate snacks and it was like the single most normal high school experience I ever had. Wasn't worrying about my kids or spending the hour irritated bc I could've been with them or working, I was just having a (relatively) normal high school experience & it was so fun. She was an amazing teacher.
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نفسك تقول لمين شكرا 🤍

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‎‏I used to dislike being sensitive. I thought it made me weak. But take away that single trait, and you take away the very essence of who I am. You take away my conscience, my ability to empathize, my intuition, my creativity, my deep appreciation of the little things, my vivid inner life, my keen awareness of others pain and my passion for it all.
May Allah guide me to always embrace it in the right direction 🙏🤍

whatsapp e de do sohneyo

It was an established fact in the household that gramps and I, acted as a single functional unit. There was a period when I abhorred all human contact and had no sim to my name. He was forever complaining that I should get a number and download whatsapp so he could call me on my phone instead of ringing Amma all the time. I never gave his request any significance. He died. My uncle asked me if I wanted something from his collection. I asked for his sim. That's the number I use today. My whatsapp is his shrine. Our sanctuary- and the people I let in are the ones we would have loved as a unit. Some might say that Rikzah is delusional. They are probably right lol.

Wieso sind die Typen hier so hässl1ch ? Bestimmt alle noch Single

😂😂 Verurteile Menschen nicht nach dem Aussehen, aber hier sind einige die es echt nötig haben mit ihrem ständigen „Kontakt???“ und dass man direkt bei vielen Antwort angemacht wird als Frau oder total aufdringliche persönliche Fragen bekommt.
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هي الناس اللى عايزة تفضل Single بس في نفس الوقت عايزة تتجوز عن حب دول برج اية.؟

عايزة ارتبط من غير جواز 😂
يعنى نفضل صحاب انا وهو دايما وهو ميعرفش بنت غيري وانا معرفش ولاد غيره بس كل اللى بينا مجرد صداقه وحب من بعيد لبعيد😂

Wieso sind die Typen hier so hässl1ch ? Bestimmt alle noch Single

1.sind wir hier nicht auf ner dating website schatz
2. Sowas ist sowieso Geschmackssache, für dich ist der eine hässlich, für andere der attraktivste Mann
3. Lieber Single als sowas oberflächliches wie dich an seiner Seite zu haben

With summer (or winter) not too far away now, do you have any plans for the upcoming months? ☀️🏖

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Not really. We have to make passport for my son so that we can visit my family in slovenia after the summer but no specific plans until then.
I am just trying to handle single parenting and housekeeping best i can, trying to keep daily contact with both families and to support my husband as he has goes through a big project in his career. Any time left i plan on spending learning chinese and french + i am deeply invested into psychology atm and i am learning a lot about specificaly personality disorders. Mainly BPD to be precise.
I am also eventually gonna continue my weightloss during summer but for the time being i am so preocupied with everything that i am just working on maintaining until i have time for exercise again. We used to go on walks a lot during winter but summer here is sooo hot that leaving the house is something we try to avoid :'D

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