#spain

Sinceramente ya no veo sentido para seguir acá, últimamente evitó mucho entrar a Ask, entro respondo muy pocas cosas y me voy, ya no es lo mismo antes me encantaba pasar tiempo acá, interactuar y responder, pero ya no... 😓 Es más odio esta app cada día más, es muy tóxica incluso más que Twitter, la gente de acá siento que no están muy bien y que solo les gusta y están acá para tener atención, salsa y atacar por atacar y porque probablemente no sean felices y quieren hacer infelices a los demás, y esto ya llega en un punto que cansa toda la toxicidad y malas vibraciones que da, y aunque te gustará esto antes ya no lo soportas y te duele ver como esta ahora...
Antes seguía por 2 usuarios que me interesaban y ahora no están tampoco me perdería nada...
Ahora evitó hacer shoutouts porque les llegan mis preguntas y responden groseramente porque no quieren bloquearme y en Ask que tu bloquees no sirve de nada...
Y siguen con lo de "Sebastián" no existe, no soy hombre todo era broma de Dani, pero hay españoles que se lo creen todo y como la tomaron conmigo quieren creer que eso es verdad...
Y lo peor es que creen que hago esos shouts que ganaría? Nada, no piensan con la cabeza, no es por hacerme la víctima pero me encantaría saber que harían ustedes en mi posición actual...
Cansa que inventen tu vida, edad, género, lo que sientes, por que los españoles inventais la vida de los demás? Es triste, inventaros vuestra vida y dejar la de los demás en paz, no me conocen
La cosa es que pienso en dejar la app hasta acá mi salud mental vale más que esto que no obtendré nada, me encantaría que fuera distinto y que dejarán de hacer esto que cada uno esté con su vida y no se metan con nadie pero this is Spain... Ya pensaré en si irme pero que horror que decidan quien se van quien se quedan como si fuera de ellos esta red social...
Parece que cuando te cogen no te sueltan hasta que te largas o te traumatices y pierdas la fe...

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I spent my 3rd year of uni in Spain. I was sent to a little Andalusian village where nobody spoke English, and I very quickly realised I wasn't as proficient as I had thought I was. The first couple of months were really hard but by the end of the year I was thinking and dreaming in Spanish, and when I would call my parents (once a week from a pay phone at the time - I'm old!), I would sometimes struggle to find the English words.
It could depend on which language you're using more at that time. For example, I am trilingual. Back in my home country, I would think more in my native language. When I moved (to the US), I used the two other languages more so I would think in them more than my native language. I think the past few years though I think more in English. I'll think in my native language still from time to time, but I codeswitch a lot more often.
A lot of active listening really helped. Even tho at some point I understood like 60% of what was said it eventually let to me understanding most of the language and being able to use it with no problem. Took me about 4 years to get from a2/b1 to c2. I didn't deliberately try and listen to as much as possible but rather there was a lot on English speaking YouTube that I was into. I hope some of that comes in handy
I started thinking in Spanish as soon as I finished the beginning level (AKA year 1 of college). This didn't happen after I took a year of Mandarin, although I sometimes think of Chinese numbers first because somehow they became very solidified in my brain. Being fluent in 3 languages means I think in that language when I am surrounded by it or I think about things linked to that language (for example I think in my ML when thinking about my family, mostly french when thinking about work and almost completely in English when I'm on ASK). Personally with my Spanish, while nowhere near fluent, have been able to produce and carry very short conversations by linking my Spanish words to English words. I can connect a Spanish word to an object just as quickly as I can connect the Spanish word to the english word to the object, and i've not been able to just connect a Spanish word directly to an object. Not sure how that works but if it works it works.

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I was once vacationing in Spain and there were some very steep winding stairs down to the beachfront my mother and I were visiting. I spend most of my time in public in a wheelchair, but I am capable of transferring and walking short distances with assistance. So we were trying to get down the stairs oh, and it was a long arduous process. A complete stranger who didn't even speak English walked up and started supporting my other arm. We had to reconfigure a bit, but he meant well. In another case, we were in the London Underground with a similar situation, and a British family carried my chair and escorted us to our train to make sure we got there on time.
In my elementary school, there was an annual book fair. I had forgotten what day it was, and didn’t bring any money to buy anything. Now that i’m older, i’ve realized how overpriced all of the low quality posters and pencils were, but at 8 years old you don’t think about stuff like that.
Anyway, I didn’t bring any money. So, as everyone was buying their huge erasers and sparkly pens, I just watched. After about an hour, we returned to the classroom. In my cubby, I saw a Ziploc bag filled with pens, erasers, books and a pencil case. Turns out, the librarian who was part of the book fair had noticed I didn’t buy anything. She took the time to pick stuff out for me, find out what class I was in and where my cubby was. I still remember how happy I was when I saw it.
My kid cried for two hours straight and a had a newborn and another child . My neighbour heard and came over, stepped in and took the children for a walk and dinner at her house with her kids while I had a rest. If I ever win the lottery I’ll find her and treat her big time. It was thirty years ago and I’ve never forgotten her support.

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In what way were they annoying?
Were they hateful and mean?
Were they speaking an inconvenient truth that upset you?

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It is impossible to advise you because your original statement is conflicting. You claim they annoy you while also claiming they were really nice to you.
Which is it?
- Annoying or Really nice?
Also, why are you confused about your feelings toward them? Are you afraid of falling in love?

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I had a similar experience, except I was the one who got blocked. It happened a few months ago when I was writing and posting original poems and one of my followers said she really enjoyed my poetry. So we began texting and eventually became friends. Then one day, one of her friend from Spain, who is a drama queen and who gossips 24x7, told her that I was this evil, hateful and untrustworthy SOB who must be blocked. So my virtual friend who enjoyed my writing blocked me without offering any explanation other than she disliked me.

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I guess what I am trying to say is that yes, sometimes blocking is the proper thing to do, but just understand that it is not always easy to analyze and understand the motives of other people or whether or not they are a good person or a bad person.

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I prefer to give people the benefit of the doubt and when I have concerns, I will attempt to ask questions and try my best to be patient and understanding before I block someone and destroy the relationship.

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Do you have evidence?
Can you prove what you are saying is the truth?
Do you have:
- accurate account information and reliable user account identification?
- digital foot print i.e. source ip address or source mac address?
- photographs and text messages that can be used in a court of law?
- what international law has been violated?

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Remember, various countries have implemented legal measures to address these types of issues within the confines of their sovereign nations, but the international community has not codified into law impersonation involving fake askfm accounts unless a serious crime that involves death or extortion has been committed. Also consider that the burden of proof is the responsibility of the plaintiff and their lawyers and all associated legal fees are the responsibility of the plaintiff. These fee's can easily reach in excess of $100k.

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I recall reading a similar story a few years ago that took place in Madrid, Spain. The plaintiff went to the police in Madrid and attempted to file a criminal complaint against an askfm user located in Canada. The case was dismissed because the source ip address of the accused was located in Germany and did not match the digital footprint that the alleged victim had provided to the police.

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Keep in mind that proving cases like this is extremely difficult because local police lack the resources required to conduct a proper forensic investigation and international laws are either vague or do not currently exist to cover cases involving fraudulent accounts, name calling, insults, racism, etc. on social networks such as askfm, tumblr, twitter, etc.

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But hey, if you have $20,000+ dollars to waste on legal fees, why not proceed so you can learn how the legal system operates and perhaps you can become an advocate to champion the necessary changes to affect international law to prosecute askfm users who roleplay, create fake accounts and utilize your photographs without explicit permission.

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Conclusion:

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Perhaps you might avoid these situations if you stop posting personal information on social networks or maybe even consider disabling your askfm, instagram, twitter and facebook accounts and do something more productive with your life like: graduating from college, obtain a job, volunteer are a homeless kitchen, adopt a child or (heaven forbid) help a neighbor or friend or family member who is suffering and needs help.
Good Luck!

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I will give you a more interesting answer. My many times great Grandmother was a Natchez Indian. When she was 6 years old, her tribe went to war with the white man. Reason being, the The cattle men's association offered a $20 bounty on every Indian scalp brought in. Man woman or child....The tribes met, and had a war council....They hit Natchez Mississippi and brought a buckboard. ...there was a large museum there that had many priceless treasures. Some of the Crown Jewels of Spain was on loan...as was a solid gold sculpture of a buckboard. The tribe had to abandon the village before hand.. for it was common practice of the U.S. Calvary, to hit a village after a raid, and kill every man , woman and child in it, and burn it to the ground......A fact that they didn't put in the history books. The tribe went before the town was raided...and soon the raiders caught up with the tribe, and buried the loot and burned the buck board on top of it, to cover the fresh sigh of digging. My Grandmother told the tale on her death bed.... and my great Grandmother told the tale where the treasure was that was handed down through the years to me, when I was but 7 years old. I know were it is at. Many have looked for it....and never found it...but they were looking at the wrong area....Sorry for the long answer. But our history books depict the US Calvary as heroes....but they were cold blooded murderers. Of innocent babies and mothers.

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