#them

-If this a woman writing this and not just to trigger reactions…-

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I hear you, it’s better to be with someone who can take care of you and is stable especially financially. Just hope that man sees that you’re worth being his woman and what comes with that. Wanting a “ready made product” can come with rules that you might not like. And if she finds a man like that, then it’s up to her to prove she’s worth all of that.

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As long as a good man has ambition and has a plan and puts it into motion, he won’t always be broke and struggling. It might be a while, but if they work at it and let YAH help guide them it’ll happen. A woman who sticks thru it with him on his grind will be rewarded tremendously once he gets there. I’ve seen in my family and my peers, they stuck it through with their men and don’t have to worry about anything because they’re were in the mud with them. It’s a beautiful thing!

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And to the men who see this post(rather 18+ or younger), rather this is a troll post or not, there are women who think like this and they’re right in a sense. More reason for you to get your weight up and do what you gotta to make your goals and dreams happen. It can be rough and feel pointless and might even feel lonely, but you can do it! And if you have a woman (or women, whoever holds you down) who helped you and stuck by your side through it, treat her well. It seems to be rare today to find that. They’re a needle in a haystack but they’re out here

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And should you be look down or passed over due to where you are now, know that it’s not temporary but it’s all up to you. And if/when you make to the top or elevate (whatever that looks like to you), and I say this with love.. you don’t have to fully dedicated to ANY woman once you get there and enjoy the fruits of your labor. Think about it, if women who think like this won’t be there at lowest, and only when you’re glowing, she’ll more than likely dip out once she gets a feeling that you might have a downfall. I’d say don’t deal with chicks like that but that’s one of the reasons chicks that operate like this get used for “recreation” and not seen as serious(with exceptions of course). Sad truths, but don’t let this fuck with you. You’re a human with a soul and essential to the society and life. You’re not a utility. Good luck out there and God bless!

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TLDR: Women are right to think like this and not wanting a dude whose not up now, especially if she gives them a chance and it doesn’t work. But don’t let that get you down, there’s women who will work with you and see past that if they believe in you. Treat her like a queen so long as she holds you down and if she leaves and/women look over you or don’t acknowledge you… when you’re up move how you think/want to out here. Some of these chicks are finish line straggs/slores and they still out there doing them til you make it happen, go about that how you will. All this means is you really are the prize (in this way of thinking).
Have a good day everyone!

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It seems like it’s been this way for quite some time, since I myself am dealing with this at the moment and have been dealing with this for a few years now. I always get mixed signals from guys rather than having them directly tell me whether or not they want to pursue me romantically, be friends or want nothing to do with me whatsoever. I’ve had a guy compliment me a lot and even asked if I’d ever date him but when he found out that I liked him as more than a friend, he immediately rejected me. I’ve also been interested in someone else after him but he was only trying to initiate eye contact with me when he’d see me around but would never actually talk to me yet wouldn’t have an issue with talking to other girls so I never knew what he wanted. I guess it might be because they’re either players, they genuinely don’t know what they want or they’re not interested but are afraid of admitting that to the person for their own reasons.

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The trees are in their autumn beauty,
The woodland paths are dry,
Under the October twilight the water
Mirrors a still sky;
Upon the brimming water among the stones
Are nine-and-fifty swans.

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The nineteenth autumn has come upon me
Since I first made my count;
I saw, before I had well finished,
All suddenly mount
And scatter wheeling in great broken rings
Upon their clamorous wings.

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I have looked upon those brilliant creatures,
And now my heart is sore.
All's changed since I, hearing at twilight,
The first time on this shore,
The bell-beat of their wings above my head,
Trod with a lighter tread.

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Unwearied still, lover by lover,
They paddle in the cold
Companionable streams or climb the air;
Their hearts have not grown old;
Passion or conquest, wander where they will,
Attend upon them still.

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But now they drift on the still water,
Mysterious, beautiful;
Among what rushes will they build,
By what lake's edge or pool
Delight men's eyes when I awake some day
To find they have flown away?

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Source: The Collected Poems of W. B. Yeats (1989).

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