#travels

I don't own my own place but in comparison to my previous place, I at least own my furniture and it didn't come with the room. And I'm quite happy with what I have now!

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I have a homebuilt walnut desk which I think looks very nice! At my previous place, a lot of the furniture was in birch which made me realize how much I like the way that wood looks! (While in my childhood room I wanted most things to be in black and white) But I was yearning for a darker shade, which I now have!

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I used some of that wood for the top of my bedside drawer too! The rest of my place has shades of black, gray and white! Then I have pictures from my various travels on my walls.

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I'll also get a few new things later this week: A new office chair, a new ceiling light and a drawer which I intend to attach to the underside of my desk, which I'm very excited about! 🥳

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For one thing, I get my best sleep when I don’t have alarms set… Like, knowing I have an alarm on makes my sleep very choppy as I’ll keep worrying about missing it, or just anticipating it going off, etc. 🥴

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Next would be noise. I have SUCH a hard time sleeping in silence. I sleep with two fans running, one is a normal fan, and the other is more of a white noise fan. I sleep best when I have them both on at like full blast, because one, it keeps me comfy (not to hot) and two, the combination of two fans running blocks out most outside sounds which is ideal. White noise is the only noise I can truly fall asleep to. 😴

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And then the last thing is a weighted blanket. The one I use is 15lbs (6.8kg). I have become so accustomed to using it, since I got it like 2 years ago, that any other blankets/quilts feel like nothing. 😂😅

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Great example of not getting a good nights sleep was in my recent travels, and staying in hotel rooms. Sure, I slept better than I normally would in those circumstances cause I was so busy, but it wasn’t the best sleep I could’ve gotten, if that makes sense. 🤔

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🌷 Last October, I felt that I really have to share about one of my secrets with friends and family on my social media, though they may find it weird or think of me as crazy. I didn't care anymore if people will judge me for it.

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I'm glad I shared it, because from my recent travels, I found out that the media has been really biased. I don't see any local news about the truth that has been happening in Palestine. And when I met my long time bestfriend, she told me that she had no idea about the atrocities and history of the situation in Palestine till I've been sharing some posts about it.

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Anyhow what I shared was, I have this habit of writing my dreams on my phone calendar. Only if it's something very vivid and I can recall of. And I'm glad I shared this dream I had about a blood-curdling scream of a little girl, which woke me up from my sleep at around past 3:00 AM on 6 Oct. She was trapped in an empty dark factory / warehouse. Somehow I just know that it has something to do with being sold. She was terrified and helpless, shouting "WAAAAAH!" to get my attention.

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It was the day before the recent situation between Palestine and Israel escalated (7 Oct). Since then 21,731 Palestinians including 8,697 children and 4,410 women as well as those missing and trapped. And 46,000 have been wounded since the war began.

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What I thought of my dream is that.... the little girl wanted to get my attention because she was trapped and helpless in the situation. Majority of the Palestinian people who should be speaking up for their rights were forever silenced now. Hence I've decided to become one of the people who can be their voice.

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I'm not always active in all of my social medias but I have changed most of my profile pictures related to Palestine and share about them whenever I have the opportunity. I may not be able to do anything more significant to stop the injustice, but someone who is able to may see what I share on my posts.

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0909*2023*08*12

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I have some free time and I would like to delve a bit deeper into that subject, there’s a quote that I’ve always loved about soulmates, it literally describes how I feel about the whole concept.
“To say that one waits a lifetime for his soulmate to come around is a paradox. People eventually get sick of waiting, take a chance on someone, and by the art of commitment become soulmates, which takes a lifetime to perfect.”
I don’t think that everyone would easily find the perfect one for themselves early in their lives and live happily ever after, some lucky ones would do but many others won’t and that’s totally okay btw at least with me, the rest of us who weren’t fortunate enough to find that special & perfect one as early as we hoped for, we could settle for the suitable one, this one doesn’t have to be the guy or the girl of our dreams, they don’t have to be perfect in every aspect and every way there is, this doesn’t mean that you should accept someone you can’t stand and someone that you don’t share anything in common with just for the sake of having anyone in your life, it should be someone that you at least take a liking to, it could be either you like their company, you like their looks, you like the way they talk or how they make you feel, whatever, and from this point and with some effort from both of you, you could perfect this relationship together, that could take some time & effort yeah but it’s totally doable and it’s totally worth it, I don’t think that soulmates can only be found but yeah they can be made too, and that’s the way you can create your perfect relationship and your soulmate through some effort & commitment.
Anyway that’s only my opinion and my way of seeing the whole matter, maybe I’m not young enough anymore to have this optimistic way of seeing things and believing that the perfect one is waiting for me to bump into at some coffee shop or at a random store I go into in one of my travels, many would disagree for sure but it’s the way I see it and it’s the only way I’m gonna be seeing it ✌🏻
Sorry for that long answer 😄 If you have read all that though, then you must reallyyyy like me then and you wouldn’t mind my long answers hehe 😁

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oh….😞
if my beautiful mom was with now…. i quickly would ‘run’ and ask her….
now because this question more for mom and interesting question….

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but i will never have a such an opportunity again….and i won’t to be able…. to ask my beautiful mom about ….
part of my childhood gone with my mom….😞

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i can’t remember my very first toy….
i can tell you about the first toy i remember….
it was a light brown bunny 🌹🐇🤎

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who was with me …. for very long time until i became teenager…. and somewhere in the moves he got lost
i remember how i cry …..
i had so many toys…. so many ….
a lot of them i still have 😊
lying in the trunk for long time i haven’t looked at….haven’t done my travels in childhood….and memories
without my beautiful mom i don’t even want… maybe someday when i will be old i will be able to show at least one toy to my granddaughter….and tell her my stories oh….😞
me with my loved 🕸❤️
we
when we will grandma and grandpa 🙏🏻❤️
😌

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and many favorites but bunny was my first( i remember)….and favorite

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I sort of achieved my biggest dream. I just wanted my parents to be happy and proud of me. I grew up feeling bad that I wasn’t pretty, smart, well mannered, or talented enough. But since I moved out and stopped forcing myself to exist for them, I realized that they’re content with me anyway. My dream right now is to get my parents to stop working and retire so they can work on their garden and go on vacation.
Make my parents proud. They've given up a lot over the course of their lives for me and my little brother - they're first gen immigrants, and the first couple of years here were really tough, but they tried to make sacrifices in a way that I never felt the pinch. I just want to give that back to them in tenfold.
Honestly, I've got a car, a house, a wife and a child, so 90% of my dreams have already come true. However, I want to get a book published, write and direct a film, star in a film (not written by me, I'm not that self indulgent) and watch my baby girl grow up into a successful woman.
In my writing classes at college (creative writing major), some authors gave advice saying that you know your piece is done when you're no longer editing and just making changes. Changes that mean absolutely nothing in the grand scheme of the story. Every artist in the world looks at their own pieces (art, writing, animation, etc.) and only sees its flaws. It's just how our brains work. I look at my piece and then I look at professional books and see the mistakes in their pieces. I read a book that skipped a whole half of a sentence. Your readers will never imagine exactly what you pictured while writing it because everyone is different. It will take a lot of practice to silence that self doubt, and I'm still not completely over it, but I am happy with my book, so yeah. As long as you're happy with it, that's all that matters in the end.
Definitely. I had several beta testers for my book. My very first one was not a good reviewer, though. She was extremely critical, but her criticism wasn't constructive in any way. When picking a friend, family member, or someone else to review your piece, you have to trust this person to be brutally honest but still be constructive. If you want a professional to look it over, I would look on Reedsy. It's a free service that helps self-publishing authors to get into contact with professional editors and reviewers, and even cover artists, though you have to afford those professionals.
To make a difference. This "dream" is actually fueled by my fear of dying and not being remembered. So I want to make an impact on the world so I will never be forgotten, but in a good way not the Hitler kind of way. Selfish I know.
And if ever age caught up to me, or I got bored of travel, then I would buy a simple farm and spend the rest of my days telling my grand kids and anyone else that would listen about my world travels and the things in my Tuff Box and my new second Tuff Box from my travels.

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Wa alaikum assalam,

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All praise belongs to Allāh alone,

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After much thinking – and using a couple of references – I am comfortably certain with the following answer:
If a woman is living alone, then her place could be called a desert, tundra, valley, etc. but it cannot qualifiy to be a country, legally speaking. You'd need at least 40 people to form a congregation, and I think a few more to be able to call it a country.
Okay jokes aside,
If it's a country that has no safety concerns on Muslim women, nor their right to practice their religion safely;
AND,
There's a Muslim community in her town;
AND,
She is able to form a good companionship with a group of righteous Muslim sisters,
AND,
She travels with the permission and companionship of her Muslim male guardian (if applicable),
Then there should not be a harm in that. Nevertheless, the majority of scholars of Islam, when discussing the ideal circumstances, after reviewing all the hadīths pertaining to a woman's accommodations, they point out that a Muslim woman should not stay one night in an accommodation without her Mahram.
Authentically reported by Tirmithi and others: Aisha - may Allāh be pleased with her - received a group of women who came from the Levant. She asked them: are you from the lands where women go to public baths (i.e. a Spa)? They said yes. She said: I heard the Prophet ﷺ say: "Should a woman take off her clothes in a place other than her spouse's home (i.e. Mahram's), she would have torn down all veils of bashfulness between her and her Lord."

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The scholars interpret it to include women who travel or leave their Mahram's home without a need.

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