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Why are so many people depressed nowadays?

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I have a bit of depression and I feel the wave of things happening in America. I know it's a global issue too, but why are folks more depressed nowdays? I can name off the main reasons why like, poverty, economical, social, circumstances, and also the culture. I want to get down to the main reason why. In music, depression is greatly expressed. To the point where some artists are claiming it like it's a badge of honor or something. It's absurd. The median person in the US is roughly where they were in 1962. I mean, everything about their life is 100x better than it was in 1962, but their income is roughly the same. Boo hoo. More of the same envy bullshit where we don't care that people are living a MUCH better life because we are too petty. We'd much rather focus on someone doing better than you. I'd much rather have a median income now than a median income before cell phones and Netflix and Amazon. We have such abundance that the glutinous and lazy get to eat themselves into heart problems and diabetes while pretending its the healthcare system that fucked them. I'd say that life is harder, or more complicated, than ever now. There is so much influence on a person, that it's almost unbelievable. From media telling you essentially how you "should" live your life; to social media and internet not bringing us together, but tearing us apart; prices of everything going up, while you're stuck with the same income your father had, making you feel like actually owning something is not possible anymore; and I could go on. Add to that the fact that our planet is basically dying, while many choose to ignore that fact. Of course, the fact that mental illnesses are being more accepted now than ever, makes it look like the problem with depression is much more severe than it used to be. But I still believe that the amount of depressed people has gone up, even if not as severely as it looks to be, and that we are living in very unhappy times right now. My opinion - the effects of comparing oneself to others is devastating, and underrated as a huge factor in mental health. Social media, plus 24/7 news, has put this terrible condition at the forefront of everyone's mind, and the effects are real. Suicides among young people are up 56%.
It’s possible more people aren’t depressed than before, but our acceptance of it as a mental illness has increased. There is less stigma around mental illness now than 30 years ago, leading to more diagnoses and in some cases, romanticisation. Of course, I imagine that social media, reduced spending power leading to people working more hours, etc. may also have an impact on mental health.

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What is you're weakness?

One thing that makes you unhappy is listening to those people who do not like you. You do not have to convince them to be on your side. You’ll end up losing yourself, but they will never be your people. Stop explaining yourself because that will never be enough for them. What is important is how you see yourself and the things that make you happy. It is not your problem anymore if they can’t take your existence. Be unapologetic for who you are, but stay kind always.

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There's a woman on here, not saying who, who I remember tried to brag about her engagement ring😴 and it couldn't even fit on her stubby finger. The ring was cheap too, not something precious, something valuable, just cheap. Do nobody tell these people to stop acting clownish? I get 2nd hand embarass

imagine being so unhappy with your own life that you feel the need to put other people's happiness down.

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If you could swap bodies with someone, would you want to? If so, who would that person be and why? 👍 🙃

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I would! I don't have anyone specific in mind though. But I'm quite unhappy with my body and would love to trade with some other women so I don't have to get through surgery.
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If you could swap bodies with someone would you want to If so who would that

Do you consider yourself tolerant of others?

If you are not tolerant to others, you will be more likely unhappy at what you see about others.We should live our own life's and allow others live their own..I can tolerate things to a certain extent where it does not become ridiculous or when anger should really take a place in the situation.

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Do you consider yourself tolerant of others

So by time i feel like if i be myself they will feel like i talk too much/fake/too noisy u feel me? So i started to avoid every person in the university and not getting in convo with them and be quiet so they won't say anything about me

No no no, please don’t actively avoid people in the hopes they’ll approve of you. The right people will see and like you for who you are, when you’re being authentically yourself, not acting in a way you “hope” people will approve of. It’ll probably only make you unhappy in the long run, and it’s not worth making your uni years something to look back on and regret, later on.
You’re absolutely fine the way you are truly, and I’m not just saying that to you. I completely get where you’re coming from; I felt the exact same way but reversed, as I was too introverted. You just gotta be true to yourself at the end of the day, as wearing a mask can be so exhausting. The folks who made those comments probably envied your energy and effervescence, in truth! :)

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Hi tita, my bf and I had a big fight. Super busy nya kasi and I needed him one time cause im having a breakdown and after all the discussion sabi ko I dont need much from him just atleast 1 minute of checking in on me if im okay during my breakdowns pero di nya daw kaya ibigay yung 1 minute na yon

I don't believe anyone in the world, even presidents and doctors, don't have time for people they love. They simply refuse to make time. They have an extra hour to be on their phone. They spend an extra five minutes on the toilet or at meals three times a day. You didn't have a big fight. Hoi asserted your needs. Now he can decide if you are worth his precious time knowing it makes you very unhappy to be neglected. If he doesn't improve, then maybe he's simply not into you. If he does then good, but read between the lines. If you're not more interesting to him than his hobbies, then you should see this relationship for what it is and stop forcing him to feel for you what he doesn't. I'm sorry.

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Is there something that you've dreamt of doing for a long time? Why haven't you done it?

AdrianaRafaela98’s Profile PhotoAdriianna Rafaella
Yes definitely.
I want to start business of my desire and leave the job. But mostly because of surviving issues and some of conservative mindset of parents can’t let me do what I want. And finance is also an issue.
I’m one of the best procrastinator when it comes to doing things, the only things I did on time when I wanted were my bad habits and I never took care of my body my health my mind and it affected my thoughts the way I think the way I destroyed myself and now after I lost almost everything it made me change something.
So I’ve dreamed of waking up early doing some meditation doing some workout reading some books and I’ve started to do workouts and reading some books but haven’t started meditating yet, so It’s been great since I’ve started and it’s been a while now and if I don’t do these things I don’t feel good both my mind and body.
So now I dream of exploring my spiritual side now lets see how this goes.
Everyone in this universe aspire to do something. Something that makes you outshine others.
But there is a saying “Man proposes GOD disposes”.
Life is a roller coaster. Sometimes life throw you in a path which you did not want to take. Life is a Mystery. You cannot predict the future,so why to be unhappy about present.Whatever happens, happens for good.
Your priorities changes with time,situation and circumstances.But I am very happy and contented with whatever GOD has given to me.
No regrets No Complains.
Peace ☮️✌🏻

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Is there something that youve dreamt of doing for a long time Why havent you

What should you do when you feel trapped in a place or with people that makes you unhappy but you can't just walk away?

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Main Chor Deti Hu Wo Jagha Wo log Jin ki wajah Say Dukh Ho Mujhe
Mujhe Khud Say Bohat Mohbaat Hai
Toh Koi Kitna B Aziz Ho Main Apni Khushi Khatam Nai Honay Deh Sakti Kisi ki B Wajah Say Quite selfish but Yes I Am
Mujhe Apnay Ap Say Bohat Mohbaat hai Alhamdulillah ♥️

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Would you be happy without money?

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Don't base your happiness on accumulation of stuff ... Even though stuff is pretty awesome. Pursue goals that are motivational. I worked a low paid job for years in my twenties, no fancy holidays, no car, lived with my parents but for the most part I was happy. Now I've a well paying job, nice apartment and a car but I still remind myself of how bad things were so as to be humble. Im probably just as happy as i was with little money.
I was working a job that brought home near 6 figures, but it was often 9pm before I got home. Took a 20% paycut to move to a job where I'm home by 6pm and can work from home a few times a week if needed. The missus is 30plus weeks pregnant (we've had two losses before, the past one was at 24 weeks). We're excited and on a tight budget, but we're as happy as we could be. There's a minimum amount of cash you need and I recommend finding that first in the best possible work life balance. Money doesn't make me happy but it allows me to experience things that make me happy. Lack of money stresses the fuck out of me.
I’ve had money and I’ve had no money. Money definitely makes life easier and gives you more time and opportunity to be happy.
Never really had much money and while happy enough, stress in the long term wears me down. You can be happy, it's just easier when you have money - I'm fairly happy for getting a job that pays me money.
Money doesn't buy happiness was a phrase designed to discourage accumulations of large wealth. It's been turned and used against the poor; "you should be happy not being able to afford anything". Studies have shown wealth does increase happiness up to $75,000/year. After that point, the extra wealth doesn't make an extra impact on happiness. But up until then, the benefits of the wealth would be stuff like access to proper healthcare, constant fresh food in your home, replacing/removing health hazards in your environment, etc etc etc... There's no doubt that money gives you the ability to live a better quality life and also creates a mental value you place on yourself.
I've been paycheck to paycheck. I don't consider myself rich but my net worth is in the 7 figures now though most of it is tied in my business. Some point I should be able to sell it and ride off into the sunset. At the moment, I would say that I am somewhat above comfortable. I own my own house, have a daily driving vehicle and a fun vehicle, and take nice vacations.
Those things do not provide me the same level of happiness that I get from relationships with my family and friends, my absolutely worthless dogs, and the sense of satisfaction I get from doing what I love in life. What "money doesn't buy happiness" means is not that rich or poor people are unhappy but rather its what you drive from your life that makes you happy. The only difference between my life being broke and my life being financially successful is that I do have fewer worries, which is nice.

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If you were unhappy in your marriage or relationship, would you admit it here if someone asked?

Not unless there's a final decision to end it.
There are happy and unhappy times in every relationship and if I would talk about problems anons will take that opportunity to tell me how bad I am or whatever.
That doesn't mean I'd lie, ask.fm is just not the first place I'd go to talk about my marriage.

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How can I break up with someone who loves me so much that they have nightmares about me leaving them? I know I will be happier if I leave, but they are so depressed, and they treat me like the only good thing in their life, so I have no idea how they will react. They've never done anything wrong, bu

You can’t sacrifice your happiness for someone else’s. No matter what. Hurting someone you care about is never easy. But they will will be okay eventually, where if you stay you’ll just continue to be unhappy. If he really loves you, he won’t try to make you feel worse about it, he’ll be upset but not angry. I’ve known people to say they’d kill themselves and that’s manipulative and a horrible thing to say to someone you supposedly love so much that you can’t live without them. And guess what? That’s not real love. That’s possession. So keep that in mind. I would also make sure you tell them that just because you don’t want a romantic future, it doesn’t mean you don’t want them in your life at all. Because it sounds like you’re someone they lean on. This won’t be easy but it sounds like you have to do it, and I would do it alone.

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A guy promised he’d talk to me again but has ghosted and disappeared for months. How do I stop feeling defeated and move on after someone leaves me clinging onto their words like that?

Look, no one can leave you clinging onto their words, never ever give someone else that power over you. Never give someone that responsibility of giving you closure. Closure is overrated. You’re sitting there months later waiting for closure, don’t ever wait for closure from anyone else, ‘cause you may never get it. You may waste years or your entire life waiting for closure from someone. “Why did they do that?” “Why did they do what they did even though they said that they said they had completely different intentions?” What you have to do is give yourself closure. The only closure I need is that in this particular case a guy promised that he’ll see me again, and then didn’t. You may sit there..”how is that closure?” The closure is you had it confirmed that that this person is not a person of their word, you had it confirmed that this persons actions don’t meet their words. And try being in a relationship with someone who’s actions don’t meet their words…it’s gonna make you deeply, deeply, deeply unhappy. So you should be glad you’re not in a relationship with that person ‘cause you know what’s worse than being in a relationship with someone not keeping to their word and you lost them? Someone not keeping to their word and you still have them. Someone you’re still in a relationship with who continuously breaks their promises, who continuously doesn’t show up, that’s worse. This person gave you a gift. This person showed you they weren’t who they said they were, or that their intentions weren’t what they stated and had now given you the gift of moving on and meeting somebody else. But you can only give yourself that gift at the end of the day, because if you’re siting there waiting for closure or clinging on to something someone said and going “but what happened? The reality didn’t match what they said or did” then, that’s the reality. That this person doesn’t mean what they say, and that you’re lucky to have them out of your life. Don’t ignore the things people tell you and don’t ignore what you see. When someone is telling you lots of lovely things, but their actions don’t match that, it’s their actions you should pay attention to, right? But if someone is doing all the right things where they almost playing as if they’re your boyfriend, but they tell you they don’t want a relationship with you, you listen to their words. That’s like the disclaimer at the end of a pharmaceutical ad. It’s like “don’t look at this thing I’m saying. Enjoy us skipping in a meadow together having the best time. Focus on that. Focus on that. Focus on what this pill is gonna do for your happiness in the short term. Focus on that. Focus on that. By the way I don’t want a relationship and probably never will.” That’s the part you gotta listen to because that part wasn’t helping them in that moment. Orrrr if they’re saying all different things and doing all different things…then just run 😅😂

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What do you do when you’re sad?

I remind myself that others are starving. Deformed. Homeless. Abused. Suffering. Unhealthy. Challenged. Poverty-stricken. Sad? What the f*ck do I have to be sad about? With all of my problems and difficulties, challenges and hardships, I have nothing to be unhappy about - and this holds true for every other a55hole who thinks he has it rough. There is nothing sadder than an ungrateful creature.

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I never said that I was unhappy because I am introverted/awkward/unattractive. In fact I don't think there's anything wrong with being introverted/awkward/unattractive. I fully accept who I am and I am actually a very happy and positive person. Life rocks. I think this is pretty close to what a lot of people would say about me. Some people would add something about my level of attractiveness to them. Some would likely change "intelligent" to something else, though I don't think anyone would describe me as dumb. I think the majority of people would describe me as a writer or poet.
I'm not sure what others would say about me. Depends on the person. I'm really quiet unless you get to know me. I think some people might perceive me as unfriendly, but I am friendly once I know I can let my guard down and relax around people.
Most people would agree with all but brave. People often than I'm shy or not willing to try things. They don't realize that in the last two years, I've overcome serious anxiety to even know said people. I even bought a bracelet that said "fearless" to wear until I believed it. I may have a lot of fear compared to many people, but compared to me two years ago, I'm brave.
I think my friends would probably replace "charismatic" with "flirtatious" because I apparently flirt with everyone. I don't do it on purpose, honestly. I get called goofy a lot, so there's that. And I just texted my friends and I got "jellyfish", "asshole", "idiot", and "green bean". I love my friends.
I think people who like me would agree, people who didn't like me would probably describe me similarly but with more negative versions of those traits like, condescending, judgmental, irresponsible.
"Passionate, creative, and driven." Always seems to go over well. Especially considering I landed my current job because my (now) boss and I just ended up talking about how important passion is in life for about an hour. Eventually, someone will resonate with your traits and it'll springboard.
Innovative, persistent, patient, motivated, dedicated, creative, responsive, insightful, intuitive, outgoing.

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bonne journée ❓❗️ Qu'est-ce qui vous rend généralement heureux ?

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I like having deep conversations with other people. Forget the small talk, I want to know what makes you tick, what makes you human. It's rare when this happens, but when it does, it's the best thing. I also just like being with a friend where we can share the silence. Like on a walk, we don't need to talk. I much more enjoy it when we can appreciate our surroundings and the silence together. What makes me least happy is when people feel the need to talk for no reason at all because they can't stand the silence. When you don't have something worth saying to positively contribute to the conversation. Don't say it. It's only awkward if you make it. I think this is why I keep getting pulled back to the summer camp I grew up going to and then started working at. You get really close with all the staff there, and for whatever reason, I guess due the culture there of trust and love, basically every conversation we have with each other is a deep one (other than day-to-day camp operating talk). We may not have spoken all summer but if we are paired together to teach an activity class on the last week of the summer we will still have a deep talk about life and our insecurities and struggles. I love that not only is it acceptable to bring up those things with each other, but it's expected. When someone asks you "how are you?" you know they genuinely want to know your raw feelings and struggles at that moment in time. It creates a bond like nothing else. What infuriates me are inconsiderate, rude people, which I seem to be running into more and more lately. My neighbors that blast shitty music from Friday afternoon until Sunday night, the stupid fucking mail lady that sits on her ass in her car my driveway and honks her horn until I come out instead of just putting the packages on my porch.
I am happiest when I am asking people questions. I don't much like answering them, but I like thinking of complex things to ask people and seeing what their answers say about them as a person. That's my go-to way to get to know someone. I just really love getting to know people on the deepest level possible. Obviously, it makes me pretty unhappy when I don't have an outlet in my life for those deep, meaningful conversations. I feel empty and lost when all of my relationships with people are superficial. I've been feeling like that lately and I've picked up some pretty reckless habits to try to cope with it. I feel like I'm screaming for someone to connect with me and getting nothing in return.
Making other people happy. I really like doing something selfless if I know it's going to make someone I care about ridiculously happy. Sometimes the littlest thing can be HUGE to another person. Knowing you made this kind of difference to someone can mean the world to them, and it makes me feel like I've made a place for myself in the world.

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Your Random thought RN?

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' to love is to suffer. to avoid suffering, one must not love. but then one suffers from not loving. therefore, to love is to suffer. not to love is to suffer. to suffer is to suffer. to be happy is to love. to be happy then is to suffer but suffering makes one unhappy. therefore, to be unhappy one must love or love to suffer, or suffer from too much happiness '

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Why do some people turn nasty about other's success and happiness? Even though those people genuinely got it without hurting or stepping on them or others.

I think they don’t hate to see others happy. I think what they hate is them being unhappy. Maybe they do not understand that being happy is their responsibility and they think it’s some kind of a random won lottery so they blame their bad luck
No person who realizes that happiness is their own personal responsibility hates anyone who is happy even if they are unhappy .

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Would a pay raise make your job more enjoyable for you?

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Job/business/career is not about only about money. If you come back home unhappy and upset, you’re doing something wrong. Your goals should be in line with what you’re doing. Your half life is spent at work and if it’s not a healthy place in terms of people, learning and growth, you better start acting upon it.

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Why do we stick to sad moments than happy moments?

It depand on people? That whether they remain unhappy in happy moments or they remain unhappy in moments of happiness!!
Because I am different from such people, so then I am happy even on sad moments.
And I will also tell you that yes the sorrow of the mind is a hurting experience, but do not forget your happiness after being sad. please be happy always ☺️

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Aaj kucch nahin haay kehnaay kou Aisa kijiyee, kucch kehh dijiye.. 🥀

There is a secret law; when the pendulum is going to the left, it appears to be going to the left, but it is gathering momentum to go to right. So when it is going to the left, it is gathering energy, momentum to go right. When it is going right, it gathering momentum to go left. So what appears is not the whole. When you are becoming happy, you are gathering momentum to be unhappy. So whenever you are weeping, the momentum is not far away when you will be laughing. 🌟🦋

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Is there something you think is highly underrated? Why do you think it deserves a better reputation? 🤔📣

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Cheers to everyone who’s unhappy with a part of their life and is actually making an effort to change it. This is underrated and huge and so important. Keep going because no one sees progress in a day, or even a week, and quite honestly, sometimes it takes years. Just remember that wanting to change is the first and most important step and you’re already there.

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What’s so bad about basing your self worth on grades?

My personal thoughts are that grades don't define who you are as a person, they simply restrain your intelligence to a certain letter or number average. A real person is so much more intriguing than the thing you see on that piece of paper/report card. A person has dreams, desires, opportunities, and basing your self worth on grades is stooping yourself down to a low level of what the honestly messed up school system says you can be, rather than trying to achieve the things you want and love. It is a toxic mindset to put yourself down like that and it is much healthier to give yourself a chance rather than confine yourself to the laws of society.
But things won’t always be great on that front. Especially in the workplace. The economy might suck. You will work for and with difficult people. Performance and progression is not as clear cut as it is in school. You will inevitably feel stagnant or stunted or disrespected or devalued, no matter how much success you have. That’s not me being cynical. It’s a part of life. You may have a 4.0, but one day, your career will look less than perfect.
When that day comes it is incredibly healthy to have a sense of meaning that goes beyond work. Family. Friends. Hobbies. Spirituality, if that’s your thing. Civic involvement. A healthy balance is necessary for happiness. It’s like diversifying your portfolio, and if you don’t hedge your well-being against career uncertainty, you will find yourself unhappy one day.
Generally, some people may have an easier path in life up to some point and think themselves to be much better than they actually are. And when they need to show how good they are in front of an average challenge, some fail spectacularly. For example, I don't think I've ever had below 9/10 on any programming related subject since secondary school up to Uni. I'm a shitty programmer. If I would advertise myself that as a good one because of those grades, I would be embarassed when meeting industry standards.
Circumstances outside of your control can cause you to lose whatever it is that’s making you get good grades (natural ability, motivation, resources, etc), so if your self worth is based on your grades you’ll suffer. That’s what I was like, then I moved from northern Virginia to Idaho halfway through high school and had to change my entire educational course and ended up super behind because of how different the school systems were. Tried to kill myself not long after my grades started to suffer as a result of the move. Not saying that’ll happen to you, just saying that sometimes life is fucked so you should just find things to love about yourself that don’t require external validation.

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What are the things you want to avoid in a relationship?

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Being controlled and manipulated. Commitment, feelings of ownership, feeling like I'm doing something wrong by harmlessly flirting with others, feeling like someone is telling others I am their boyfriend, feeling obligated. Practically everything. 😆 After 25 years of a marriage that was not good to begin with, I need a break from it all.
I’m usually better off avoiding the whole relationship part 😅
Toxic and unhappy feelings. Oh I was thinking about this today. I avoid relationships. I think, maybe deep down, I want to be single, and that this daily suffering I feel is just a mundane facet of my preferred mode of existence right now. I can't imagine putting any effort into a relationship, and I can only see myself hurting people due to my lack of care or belief. Also, I'm just, I dunno. My standards are high enough that anyone who might interest would definitely require effort on my end. So, it's not gonna happen.
I just get so emotional and deeply attatched, they become my everything. It takes a lot of trust for me to allow someone to hold that position. I'm also afraid of myself and how I tend to get bored in relationships so I leave, thus hurting that person. Shitty for both ends. I need to see that a relationship will be beneficial for both of us. This is something I've really thought about since I've hit my 30's. I feel anymore like I'm being bothered when it comes to having to maintain a bf/gf relationship. I get real tired of tedium real fast. I don't enjoy having nightly phone conversations asking about my day "I worked, it didn't suck. 'Nuff said." or falling into a one-sided vent session listening to her complain about her "career", her boss or her mom. I don't answer questions about my job or family anymore with women I am just starting to date, I immediately try to steer the conversation into interests and life experience, something that actually give me an understanding of her personality.
Because I think ultimately I am aromantic. I experience very little romantic attraction to others -- it has happened a few times for me but overall it has not stuck (and I'm almost 50). The last time was like 2007. I am not even sure why I keep my OkC profile to be honest, though I guess it is probably because I still continue to have fun conversations with foreign people since most of the people in my area (Texas) do not share my interests. My latest fun buddy is from Buenos Aires and I've thoroughly enjoyed discussing horror movies and art with him.

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