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Środa minie tydzień zginie 😎 Są już jakieś plany na weekend czy spontan? 😄

greedyyy’s Profile PhotoKamil = ̄ω ̄=
Środa minęła, tydzień trwa nadal. Ale ciekawostki na moim profilu jak na razie się nie kończą, to pora na ciekawostkę z numerem 45.
A poświęcę ją opuszczonemu szpitalowi psychiatrycznemu w Owińskach (woj. wielkopolskie). Powstał on w 1838 roku w Owińskach i był pierwszą na terenach ziem polskich zaboru pruskiego placówką, leczącą osoby chore psychicznie. Do roku 1920 szpital ten był najlepiej wyposażoną placówką w całych Niemczech. Po odzyskaniu przez Polskę niepodległości szpital planowano przekształcić w placówkę naukową o charakterze medycznym i miał się stać siedzibą Polskiego Instytutu Badań Dziedziczności.
Plany te przerwała na dobre II wojna światowa, kiedy to placówka "wróciła" w ręce niemieckie. W ramach akcji T4 (usunięcia ze społeczeństwa osób niepełnosprawnych i chorych) Niemcy wymordowali 1100 pensjonariuszy szpitala. Od 1943 do stycznia 1945 roku w szpitalu znajdowała się filia niemieckiego obozu koncentracyjnego Arbeitslager Treskau. Podczas walk z wkraczającymi do Owińsk Sowietami zniszczeniu uległa część zabudowania placówki.Od 1952 do 1993 w ocalałych zabudowaniach mieścił się Młodzieżowy Zakład Wychowawczy, obecnie teren znajduje się w rękach prywatnych. Obiekt ma być podobno nawiedzony przez dusze wymordowanych pacjentów. Osoby mieszkające w pobliżu opuszczonego szpitala miały donosić o niezliczonych zjawiskach o podłożu paranormalnym - o tajemniczych źródłach światła w budynku (a pilnuje go przecież ochrona) po słyszane późną nocą jęki mordowanych pacjentów, proszących o litość.

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Środa minie tydzień zginie  Są już jakieś plany na weekend czy spontan

Tell me a few things about where you reside, your top 5 dislikes/likes, please and thank you 😊

Freffster’s Profile PhotoFreffster
▪️I'm going to talk about the city I live in:
▫️It's pretty but small in terms of the city centre.
▫️There are few things to do and when there are young people they don't like it very much.
▫️We have one of the best mountain water parks on the Iberian Peninsula(Spain,Portugal)
▫️There is little crime almost non-existent..(Yes, you can walk down the street at night alone.)
▫️We love tourists(all over the country like)
▪️Ask me more if you want, I don’t remember everything 😂

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Unfortunately, people have a right to decline your love no matter how pure your intentions are. You are not what they want, and that is okay. 🙃🥀

Nisaal_Fatima’s Profile PhotoNisaal
This is so true. Don't get bitter just because you don't satisfy their fantasies. Don't get bitter when people walk away, especially those who did not promise you a life together. Everyone has a right to choose whatever they want in their life and you are no one take that away from them.
Let people be.
Teenagers today don't know how to love, respect, honour, care, nurture someone. People also don't understand that they shouldn't be a burden on the other person and so much more.

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لماذا من الصعب على النفس تقبل الرفض .. و هل اذا سهل تقبله يعني بأنك مقتنع بكونك شخص غير مرغوب فيك ؟!

xTheMaestrox’s Profile PhotoThe Twins Mask !!
Because you are afraid. But you can change it.
By being rejected and not giving up, your mind is trying to keep your self-esteem healthy.
This desperate need will create false stories to keep u going.
A truly confident person would walk away knowing he will find better.

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How do you keep from feeling like life is beating you down?

Life isn't fair, but that is a comfort if you think about it. If life were fair. If there were some grand design behind everything, that means that you deserve the bad that happens to you. That kid with cancer at age 2 who died knowinf nothing but agony was deserving of that punishment. Life isn't fair. Sometimes good goes unrewarded. Evil goes unpunished. But somehow, humanity made it to the moon. Sent a machine past the farthest planet in our solar system. We love, we live. We lose. That's all okay. All of it. Because it means we get to choose what we value. And there is a lot to value in life. Life isn't beating you down. That's you. Trying to ignore endless wonders. Take your eyes. Remove them from the ground, and look instead past the horizon. You can't actually see it. But you can move. So, my internet stranger, walk past the horizon, see beauty. See wonder. And life will suddenly seem so much more awesome inspiring. Whenever I'm feeling like I just want to bury my head in the pillows and sleep all day, whenever I'm feeling like the hugest loser for sleeping all day, whenever I just say "Fuck it" and eat a slice of Swiss cheese for lunch, I take a nice long hot shower. Think about how lucky I am to have cheese AND hot water! Then, I make an appointment with my psychiatrist for my lexapro refills.
The moment you accept that life IS beating you down is the moment you'll be able to overcome it. Life has a way of making everything a challenge. But it's up to us to play this game and win. Sometimes we see people and say "life seems to easy for them." And it might look like that on the outside but even those people go through times when they feel trapped, out of control, or uncertain. Walk tall. Force yourself to look in the mirror and analyze yourself. KNOW that b/c it's YOU you're seeing that it's in YOUR hands to be able to fix anything you wish. You have all the power. You absolutely have the skills, the knowledge, and the resolve to come out on top. You have complete control and no fate or other indeterminate factor can alter that. Granted, sometimes people have misfortunes. Illness, sudden expenses, etc. But that doesn't mean you have to stop fighting. Nothing is set in stone. You never accept what's handed to you if you still have the energy to at least attempt change.
I'm 55 years old. I've been through the worst tines of my life in the past 7 years. I won't go into detail, but it's been bad. What I do is always think others have it worse than me. I read stories or watch the news and actually feel better about myself. So just think, it could be worse!
My job makes me severely depressed. I deal with this by devoting my time away from work to my hobbies. Sure, it makes an annoying cycle of growing depression and sudden relief, but I'm surviving at least.

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What’s the most down bad you’ve ever been?

I was in law enforcement and one night on a weekend I was cruising my patrol area. I see a car in a large parking lot, lights off, except it had a turn signal blinking. I thought, that's strange. So, I pull into the parking lot up behind the car, stop, and turn off my car. I sit for a second, looking at the car, and notice that every window is fogged up. I get the idea. I get out of my car, stop, and stand another minute. Nope. STILL nothing. I'm thinking, they STILL don't know I'm here. I walk up to the car, JUST to make sure I was right, look in through the rear driver window, and sure enough, the girl is in the passenger seat, her feet up onto the roof lining, and the guy is going to town. And they STILL had no idea that a cop had pulled up, OR, that the turn signal was going. And yes... I had that evil thought enter my mind... So... I took a few steps back so I wasn't watching, but, could listen. The moaning gets louder... louder... LOUDER... and I walk up and BANG on the window. "Police! Get your clothes on and get out of the car" I walk back to my patrol car and wait. A few minutes later, they both get out, now clothed. I take the girl back to my patrol car and make sure it was consensual. I could see just how frustrated she was and it was all I could do to keep from laughing. I give them both a talk on "doing it" in public, told them to go get a hotel room, and let them go.

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İ really want to talk to someone about the devastation occuring in my life , I've no one to talk to , I'm a girl and i really want to talk about my issue just only to the girl, if someone willing to listen and solve my problem plz give my any of your social account,SC , insta fb etc

Walk again, wander again, begin again because darling, it's never too late to believe in what you can do more, what you can be more. It's never too late to believe in yourself once more. Go, live the life you ever wanted, go keep it lowkey, preserve your privacy, make friends, offer your smile, appreciate what's around, laugh hard, cry hard, venture, run, and unfold what's there that scare you and overcome it. It is never too late to have a change of heart, to love something new, to be the opposite person you were, to become someone better. You are always capable of making your journey worthwhile.
Choose to live, choose what makes you feel alive.
You are more, always move forward.

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To the women - how do you respond when creepy men catcall you or make a sexual comment etc out in public?

tripplels’s Profile PhotoLeanna
It depends who it is, where I am, and the situation. Usually I just ignore and walk away. If it's a friend or acquaintance or a friendly flirt then I sometimes play it off in joking way with a wink and smile or blow them a kiss. If I'm feeling it and in a flirty mood or fun environment then maybe it goes further... 😘

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What is the lowest you’ve ever felt? How did you get out (if you have)?

In May I felt really depressed because I thought that I was never going to succeed in life and that I would probably live the rest of my life, alone and unsuccessful. There were days where I just felt like crying and running away because I thought there was no point in my life. I’ve mentioned before that I like Coldplay and as I was listening to some of their songs, I just got that powerful message that I am loved and there is always a way out of those bad times. I made a commitment to get in better shape and exercise more often and just spend less time on my computer and to just make small talk with people. I am a VERY shy person and I hate how that’s how I am. I’ve been reliant on junk food, the internet and video games to make me happy and in fact they all did the exact opposite, while my friends were out doing things to make more friends, I was stuck behind a computer screen isolated in my own depressed world. Needless to say, I have become much happier than I was a couple months ago but I still have a long ways to go and I am still stressed about what I want to do with my life as I graduate next June. Time flies.
I’ve had quite a few dips, but the most severe was when I was driving home from volunteering at the zoo. I took a wrong turn, and then another, and then another. All of the stress of the last month hit me like a train, and I had my first panic attack on the highway. Almost ran another car off the road while I screamed and cried, and when I got home I just laid on the couch and breathed for about ten minutes. Must’ve scared the shit out of my little brother, but he handled it well. Just gave me a hug and told me that he loved me. Been seeing a therapist and going to DBT for years now and it’s given me the tools to improve my life.
Last year I quit drinking, and then six weeks later a close friend died suddenly. I had already been struggling (drinking was my only coping mechanism) but his death put me over the edge. I went on medical leave from work, enrolled in a day program, and then more bad stuff kept happening (relationship ended, financial problems, cat got sick and almost died, another close friend died). One day I went to bed and stayed there for three weeks. I got up occasionally to use the bathroom but that was basically it. I gave up on myself. Time helped. I also abandoned my apartment, moved to a different city, changed my full name, and impulsively got married. I basically walked away from the sad person in that bed and created a new life. I am still sober and this new life usually isn’t all that awful.
Suffered with agoraphobia for 6 years, it was so bad that I wouldn’t walk past my front door if it was open the slightest bit. Basically one day something clicked and I just snapped out of it. Looking back it seems silly, but it was an absolute nightmare to live through at the time.

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https://ask.fm/youngmermaidd/answers/169512266877

youngmermaidd’s Profile Photoryท ƒisнєr
❖There were a few minutes for the clown to return to her residence, she was carrying a black garbage bag with a body of a man inside that she had just killed a few moments ago, but there was a real reason coming from the blonde for that big crime committed. She had been sexually abused by this eliminated monster, and instead of spawning, burying the body in some closed and silent place, she preferred to take it to feed her pet hyena Bruce who seemed to protest an insatiable hunger inside from home while waiting for the return of his crazy owner. During her walk while dragging that heavy bag, she came across a "human" figure right in front of her, and as the clown approached, the figure became more and more clear until it showed a woman with long hair, presenting a face of fear mixed with curiosity and she was completely naked. Harley raised her eyebrows surprised by the presence of that naked young woman who seemed to be lost to wander around there too, more than one question passed through Harley's mind why that naive young woman was like that, what the hell happened? It was then that the blonde dropped the bag on the asphalt and approached the girl to help her in some way.❖
— "Oh, my... god! Girl...? Hey what happened to you? Why are you... like this? Who did this to you...?"
❖Asked the worried clown looking at her.❖

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Who are you most inspired by? Why?

AdrianaRafaela98’s Profile PhotoAdriianna Rafaella
From Dad I received 👉 love for nature, love for Slovakia, love for history
From Mom I received 👉 love for our folklore, love for handmaking things like sewing, knitting, painting, decorating
and all these gifts I gradually transmitted to my children and as they are quite self-determining personalities, they inspire me a lot too 😃 - daughter by her sport activities, she is pulling me with her to bike, quick walk and to swim and my son loves theater and music so with him I am forced to visit concerst and theatre performances, but I gave him one condition, that I want to see comedies only 😅

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Why does life hurts too much?

Couldn't have said it better, life is just too painful to bear. It's been 5 years since I last went out with someone and of course I hear the usual platitudes of "It's your personality that matters" and that kind of stuff, which has proven to be ineffectual even in the college years. Most people cannot comprehend what being FA entails, so they cannot understand the deep-seeded issues that effect our personalities, health, and other factors. It just hurts too much that the platitudes you hear being contradicted throughout moments of your life and knowing that lowlifes who never put any effort to life get to reap the benefits of life's joys & wonders.
I fell asleep staring at the DNP pills I was going to take. I'll be 48 in a few months, and there are sixth graders with more relationship experience than I have. All I ever wanted was one chance. One fucking chance. Oh, sure, I'd botch it up and I'd be alone after that, but I could cling to the fact that I was given one chance and that someone actually claimed to love me. It probably wouldn't be enough, but I'm desperate enough to dream that it would be enough acceptance to start being able to lie to myself about being a good person and worthy and deserving of love. But I'm not human enough to even qualify for that kind of success before rejection.
All I have is music, and I'm evidently not good enough at it to pay the bills. Online, people will say to "get up and do this, go here, play here, write this, get his famous musician to record your work, perform there, just go and do it" like it's some magical thing that you can just walk up while in a funk and play in some famous hall perfectly or have some famous person give you clout with your music. I don't have the desire to practice or write anymore. Life is too much work, and when you're alone and have no one to share the joys and troubles with, it's just not worth it. I am weary and ready for it to be over. I think I'm going to sell or dispose of everything I own so that I'll die in an empty room. It's not much: a barely-running minivan, two electronic pianos, music textbooks, cables and microphones, printers and cheap computers. A few pots and pans from years when I was able to afford a place with a kitchen. A microwave. Clothes and bedsheets and towels. I don't think there is any happiness or success that would be able to negate all the bad that has happened. No one is guaranteed happiness; we are all guaranteed pain and suffering. It's like telling someone who has gambled away $20,000,000 to keep pulling the slot machine handle because there's a chance they might get a $300,000 jackpot a few years away.
I deserve all the bad things that have happened to me. They are all my responsibility. And because of that, no one is going to volunteer to help me undo them or make things right. That's too much energy for someone else, and I'm not valuable enough for someone to spend that time, money, and energy. Besides, some things can't be made right.

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Which one do you prefer: being controlled or be in control?

To be in control - easily. I love control. It feels powerful to know that you are in the drivers seat, and you can do anything you want. If you're on a walk, and you feel energetic, and you know you can go for a long walk - then you go for it. What can be a 30 minute walk becomes 2 hours. All because of control. If you had no control, you would've done a 30 minute walk. Or perhaps there would be no walk at all.
Having control also comes with knowing that you have to make the right decisions. Not for others, but for you. That can be hard for some people to do. Especially those who are people pleasers. You think of control as a megalomaniac kind of thing, but it isn't. Megalomaniacs are insecure in who they are. Someone doesn't need to show off with power to display power; they simply need to BE the power.
When you walk into a room, what are you feeling? What are you projecting? If you're in control, you know what to feel and project. If you feel confident, and you're in control of your inner feeling, then people will pick up on your energy. They will know you're confident, and that it is genuine. If this were a megalomaniac, they would feel insecure, and try too hard.

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Can you guys help me??? Bs Aik no pr call KR k Bolna h don't leave her she's a gem 🥺 ya msg kr dena anything that's feasible😭bs saari raat unko calls kr k disturb krte raho ta k unki aqal main Kch baat aye...I really can't live without him🥺🥺🥺😭😭😭💔

The moment you feel like you've to prove your worth to someone is the moment to absolutely walk away.🤷

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What kind of person are you?

I am a discreet and respectful person of your privacy so I expect the same in return. I'm the kind of person who gets to the cinema more than an hour before showtime. I get to the airport 5 hours before a flight. I keep extra socks, underwear, first aid supplies, chargers, and rain gear in my backpack at all times. I plan everything obsessively because I'm always convinced everything will go wrong and I must be prepared for everything. It sucks.
I'm the type of person that everyone assumes is an extrovert - I'm totally an introvert. I won't say anything behind your back that i won't say to your face- and at times that has been harsh for people - though they seem to like my honesty. I'm that guy who, when in my own little world, looks like he wants to kill everything. But as soon as you engage me in conversation, I am nice and chipper almost to the point of being creepy. I've been told I am too smiley too quick.
I come off as a go lucky type of guy , my life motto is " just smile and wave " . I'm a restless person , I'm studious ( mechanical engineer here ) , hardworking and concerned about my future . But I know where I'm heading towards , what my goals are, and more importantly that I'm content with my life . I'm 23 years old , and I just want to help others .That strange weird girl with a guy mentality and full of perverted humor. I've been called a guy before for my interest in video games, majoring in computer engineering, comics/manga, and my preference for dark beer. But I still fucking love dresses.
The kind of person that everyone thinks is happy and has a great life, makes jokes, looks good, while on the inside I want to run away from home and feel depressed for no reason i can find. I'm rather introvert, I like video games, mangas and animes. I love my cats. I'm usually rather quiet but can become giggly when in the right company.
I act cold and mean but in reality I'm just insecure and cannot interact with people properly.
I am weird as fuck. Often say things that lead to awkwardness on both sides. Then try to backtrack on what I already said, leading to more awkwardness. Then there is an awkwardness eruption when both sides are stumped as to what to say to end the interaction. And so I often avoid talking altogether, or I stick to very general subjects. Once things start getting personal, the awkwardness kicks in for me, and once it kicks in for me, the other person picks up on it and likely feels awkward. Then a vicious cycle entrenches itself with tension building on both sides.
I'm a huge pushover. I let people walk all over me and then I act like nothing is wrong. I bottle up anger and never tell them how I feel. Fucking hate it. I'm also a people pleaser, and am extroverted around my friends, but very shy when it comes to meeting new people.

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Hi Tita! I’m lesbian and almost all of my closest friends are straight. We’ve been friends for years. As they talk about straight relationships, getting married, having kids, sex (hetero sex), I’m feeling left out and could not relate to them. Sometimes uncomfortable. What's the best thing to do?

Find some gay friends! Whether or not you realize it, you need your queer space. We almost don't have straight friends for this reason. Once they start talking about the straight life, we want to either go to bed or walk out. Find some of your kind. If you don't believe that you need gay friends, try talking about gay life and gay sex and you'll see in their faces exactly what you're feeling about their lives. Promise.

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Do you have a favourite shoe brand? If so, what is it? 👟 👍 🙃

redoasis2017’s Profile Photo★ ☮ ♫ Շєภคςเ๏ยร Շ๏๓๓คץ™ ✌ ♚ ☻
I think if I should name one, it'd be "bama" - they have supersoft and wonderful insoles that makes walking really like it'd be barefooted; the shoes are usually designed modern, pretty and overall doesn't look like some slippers made for health; plus the shoes are in a high quality for the comparatively cheap prize.
I still hold on to a pair of sneakers I bought by this brand, I used to wear them daily and walk so much with them, back when I was still able to. Once they were blue, by now it has become grey. Some parts broke, but the shoe itself is still functioning absolutely fine, it's still super comfy and I don't ever feel too warm or cold whenever I wear them. Nowadays I only wear them for practical purposes in the backyard or woods since they look worn out, but besides that they're still fine after so many years and kilometers of service, haha.

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tita I have an ex that has been on and off with me. I love them, pero I'm tired na rin. The thing is, parang laro lang yung ginagawa sakin. Yung tipo "gusto kita" pero yung galawan hindi seryoso. Yan kinaiinisan ko. Lugi ako lagi. Siguro there's someone better pa naman no? or maybe in the futureuli

The person meant to love you and treat you well cannot do so until you keep letting the person you're with continue to neglect you. When you're ready to be loved, you will walk away from any person who can't provide it. As long as you keep settling for poor treatment, it's all you'll ever get.

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Do you like to get wet in the rain?

I enjoy the rain but I'm not a fan of showers, the water coming out of the showerhead feels too forceful and the diagonal angle is a poor substitute for rain. I DO take showers when I need to really scrub and get clean, but I prefer hot baths for bathing because I don't like the sensation of hot water bearing down on me.
Less apt to run into people and be forced into inane conversation. Alone, safe, unbothered, clean, wonderful sound. We even put a metal roof on our house-shop to amplify the sound. Like riding long distance on a train - the rhythm - auditory meditation. I'm one of those people that finds silence deafening. Getting caught in the rain is great, when its windy and you get a gust of wind that carries the rain and sprays it in your face, walking in the woods and hearing it clatter the tree tops, walking alongside the river seeing the little circles the rain drops make even the smell , its great. When i walk in the wood Sometimes I imagine i can hear the trees and bushes stretching out to catch more rain in their leaves and thirstly drinking it up as it runs down thier trunks and into the soil to their roots. The greenery always looks happy after some rainfall.
I love water and swimming, just not in the ocean (I have a thing about not being able to see what's swimming at me out of the dark/deep). I'll sometimes take a long hot shower when I'm feeling anxious. I love the rain. How it feels, how it smells. Actually I just love water. Rain, showers, washing my hands, lakes, ponds, rivers, creeks, oceans. I absolutely love it all.
I absolutely love rainy weather. I used to not be bothered by getting wet in it, but it’s a definite annoyance now.
Of course I tend to wear jeans and a t-shirt/turtleneck and those dry out pretty quickly once you're out of the rain and unless you're totally soaked through.
I live in a very rainy city and ride my bike to uni every day. Although I love the aesthetic, sound, and smell of rain, there are few things I hate more than riding my bike to lecture in the cold and rain, only to spend the next three hours in soaking wet clothing.
When I was small I was terrified of thunder, but my grandma took me outside and let me see thunder wasn't anything to be afraid of. We sat on the porch and counted the cars going by in the rain. Still makes me smile to remember.
I love walking in the rain. At home I'll go out and play in the thunderstorms. I love the water running all over me. I'll even out my hair down because I like the way it looks when it's wet from the rain. I like to imagine I'm some fierce warrior goddess about to smite my enemies in battle, and the atmoshohere of the rain/being drenched makes it that much better. Then I go inside and get dry and curl up in my blankets. There's nothing as comforting as being warm and around people you love after being in the rain/wet.
I use the sound of rain storms to get to sleep most nights, and I listen to it at work when I am doing things that need focus.

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Anybody else love rainy days?

We have a great thunderstorm going on here, it's been rolling on for hours. Me and the wife are cooking, reading, and vibing out. It feels so great! Waiting on a little storm here myself. It's been a pretty boring day so I'm looking forward to it. Working from home has its perks, but slower days plus the wife being out of town makes for a very uneventful day! I was at the Lowe's garden center yesterday when a downpour struck all of a sudden. It was raining like crazy but it sounded so wonderful on the greenhouse roof. I just sat down on some of their comfy patio furniture and looked at plants and listened to the rain. It was just a beautiful little moment. I love rainy days better than sunny days and I work outside. Not too bad working in the rain, but working in the sun sucks. I also love sitting on my back porch during the rain and reading. I love rainy days! Unfortunately I live in Arizona, so I don't get to see them often. We're supposed to get some rain in the middle of next week, but I won't get my hopes up too high. I work outside and it's hot and humid most days sometimes around high 80s and muggy. Rain is a delightful experience on days like those. It honestly depends, living in a home and not having a super crazy storm for sure, but currently living in a single small room and the only storms that hit are typhoons, which in turn means we cannot leave our building, can make it miserable. Here in the desert, rainy days are an unusual escape from the norm. Usually it makes it more muggy, which feels a bit uncomfortable being acclimated to dry heat. But I do appreciate them.
Rainstorms are wonderful. Heavy sheets of rain hammering against the window and the roof fire up so many rewards in my brain. It's calm, soothing, a tiny bit exciting, and best of all, nobody has to be HAPPY all the sodding time when it's raining. For extra credit, sitting in a parked car and listening to the rain, or even better, lying in bed in a boat and hearing the rain, is amazing.
I like it and I think it's because I can stay inside without feeling bad for not going out. When it's nice and sunny I feel like garbage for not going out.
I can't wait until Fall. That's like my ultimate cozy kinda day. A steady downfall around mid-October when leaves have started collecting on the ground, cozying up with some tea or cider or going on a walk down a trail. Used to do it all the time to clear my mind. The smell of the leaves and the rain and just listening to the rain drown out the rest of the chaos in the world. The cool, brisk air coming as a welcome respite from the sweltering heat of Summer. Sometimes I'll throw on some headphones and some really chill music. Something about rain and dark gloomy clouds, it's been my favorite since I was really really young.

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is it bad I leave my 3 year old in the room and walk out to take a breather where he can't see me? i do this for like 2 min when I know i cant deal with his bad behavior and need a break. he cries a lot but I know he's safe

No. That’s a healthy way to deal with it as long as the room has been child proofed and it’s just a few minutes!

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What have you learnt from your time on Ask?

AisyahIsHere2’s Profile PhotoAisyahpotated
From my time on Ask, I've learnt the hard way that some people will stop at nothing to get you down and want to see you fail. They can't stand seeing you being successful, it makes them feel bitter. They hate to see you succeed at what you do. Some people will use whatever they can or have available to discredit you and who may be willing to call character witnesses to discredit your reputation. Some people are out to make you fail or to make you look bad, or to make you out to be the victim. What they cannot stand and what they resent is seeing someone else being better or doing something better than they are. Their main character trait is gratuitous malice towards their family or neighbors, often to kill time while they feel bored at home since they retired.
The whole world lies in wickedness; the wickedness knows no shame. Some people on Ask act pretty heartless and cold towards others. Perhaps you've noticed you're surrounded by people who would love to see you fail. A lot of people want to see me fail. I'm betting that I'll win this case, not lose it. I'm involved with people who want the death of me. Some people on here won't think twice about tarnishing your reputation. They don't care about hurting your feelings, they don't care if you feel hurt, and won't hesitate even for a second to walk all over you. Yeah, that's the extent of how some people can be so vain, cruel and downright pathetic. You just have to play along with them sometimes if you don’t want them to turn into your enemy. Maybe I play smarter than they do now. You've got to play smarter with me, you must play them at their own game, only more skillful, as with a fox, try to catch them off their game.

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Is it ok to break down and cry whenever someone insults you?

ChrisSmolik4100’s Profile PhotoChris Smolik
No it is not.
Ask yourself this simple question: When someone insults you, whose problem is that...yours or theirs? I believe it to be their problem. Therefore, when you cry, you are making their problem your problem. A more effective strategy would be to tell them that they have a right to their opinion and then to walk away from them without showing any emotion.
When someone insults me I assume several things about that person i.e. (1) they are insecure, (2) they are projecting their anger, anxiety and depression onto me, (3) they are attempting to manipulate and control me, (4) and finally, they are seeking attention and they believe that abusing me will provide the attention they crave.
I refuse to tolerate such dysfunctional and hateful behavior and so I WILL NOT feed into it. Crying is not only feeding into their insecurity and abusive behavior, but it is giving them the weapon and ammunition required to destroy you! If you care about your own health and well being, you will walk away and end your relationship with that person. People who love you and care about you, would never intentionally insult you or do anything to cause you physical or emotional harm.
How can you prevent situations like this or at least minimize them? Establish personal boundaries. In other words, you must decide what types of behaviors you are willing to accept and those behaviors you refuse to accept. Once you have defined your upper and lower thresholds, then you must effectively implement them into your daily life. I am not saying it is easy, but it is essential if you want to manage the dysfunctional people in your life. Sometimes these boundaries involve time limits or distance or stating your rules either verbally or in writing.
Here are a few examples:
1. Smoking - I do not allow smoking in my house. If someone lights up, I kindly ask them to please smoke outside.
2. Vacations - before I allow anyone to vacation with me I must know and agree to their arrival date and their departure date.
3. Alcohol and drugs - my mother was an alcoholic. Whenever I took my mother out to a restaurant, I would remind her that she is allowed only one alcoholic beverage. Now some people reading this are probably thinking that I am nuts, right? Have you ever had to pick your mother off the floor because she passed out from being drunk? Or had to restrain your mother for sexually assaulting a married man because she was drunk? Or help your father wipe the vomit from her face before putting her safely into bed? So before you criticize me...try walking in my shoes.
4. Distance - I admit this is drastic but sometimes the only solution is to move away from all of the family dysfunction. I did, and the truth is that moving saved my life.
Summary: Learning to establish effective boundaries that define and differentiate acceptable behaviors from unacceptable behaviors is essential to your own personal health and well being. Good Luck

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When do you realize it’s time to let go

Have you ever lost someone you love? Someone whom you would do anything for, even if it meant sacrificing your own life to save their life? And yet, when they leave us, we feel empty... a void... and a deep sense of loss, as if our own internal flame has been extinguished. We may even sense that we have lost our way, and our will to live.
And as time passes, we wonder where they are, and if they are ok. We spend countless hours reminiscing, reflecting and recalling all the good times that we shared together. And we wonder what our loved one is thinking. We pray that they are ok and free from pain. We ask: "are they resting in peace?" Mostly, we just want to reach out and hug them and tell them how much we love them and what they mean to us. Then we make them a solemn promise, that we will never forget them for as long as we live.
And each day, as the sun rises and the sun sets, we try to walk in their shoes as we imagine what their final thoughts might have been. And that is when this haunting refrain echoes within our mind, as we hear their voice cry out: "Do you still love me? If you say yes, then I have a favor to ask of you: please move on and live your life as you would have wanted me to do if our realities were reversed. Yes you can still think about me and remember all of our special memories, but memories fade away and you have but one life to live. So my love, promise me that you will live every moment as though it was your last. Live, love and let me go for I do not want the cold running through my veins to steal your warmth or take your breath way. For you still have a life to live and a loving heart to share. I bid you farewell my love, until we meet again in the bye and bye. It's time to let go."

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When do you realize its time to let go

Chalo koi bat bhe kar lo ab

rdawan1’s Profile PhotoRida Numan Asyf
MISTAKES
Drown into someone's life
so precisely full of colours
the frame is so bright
mistakes are so unkind
either it is the care
or intentionally lying.
We hurt the person
and regret in our mind
all the time write these words
wish if the person is fine
The feel of it, is kind of dying
until the person understands our rhyme
Wipe away the tears
fades away the thought
that something was not fine
and was only the care
for the person called mine.
Sometimes in a cold breeze
we don't walk properly
shiver because of the heaves
the warmth of that hand
we don't feel
Standing alone in that mansion
there is a voice in the corridor
Its the love that always shines
with those stars so bright
keep us alive make us more comfortable
and precise In that frame which is called life
but mistakes are so unkind
either it is the care
or intentionally lying.
-Araf

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