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Why are u giving up alcohol?

Because it is holding me back from living my best life. Or to be a little more specific, alcohol is de-railing both my mental and my physical health. I am not an alcoholic - in the sense that I'm not dependant on alcohol- but I'm what could be called a "problem drinker". I don't drink too often but when I do, I drink a lot.
Faaaar more than I should.
Over time my bad drinking habits have taken a toll on my body. I have gained a LOT of weight over the past year and my mental health has also suffered. Alcohol used to make me feel relaxed and confident but these days, it sends my anxiety skyrocketing.
All in all, I've come to the realization that I am better without it.

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How to stay focused for a long time?

I have the same issue as you. I head to the library after the morning lecture and after a while I lose focus. Apart from the pomodoro technique, one thing that helps me is taking a break to exercise. I head to the uni gym but you could just as easily take a fifteen minute break to go for a run around campus or do some body weight exercises such as push-ups or squats. I find that coming back to study after exercise is much easier and I am more focused.
Sometimes I find it kind of easy to do 25 mins, when it's something I'm really good at for example, but that's usually early on in the day. By the afternoon I am pretty relieved when the breaks come. I guess you could experiment a little bit, but if I were you I wouldn't stray too far. I think half an hour of solid focus is close to my limit. Maybe 40 mins if you want to push it, but I think that if I did that, then I would need a 10 min break instead of 5 mins, so I'd end up spending a higher percentage of time on breaks than I would if you did a regular 25 mins on, 5 mins off.
I sometimes have the same feeling as I was supposed to take Step 1 in a couple of days and am now taking it a month + later. I've essentially stretched out what I was going to cover so instead of doing the intense 9-10 hours a day, I'm doing 6-7. Can't keep the intense pace forever. The other thing I do is make notes, plan out what I need to do, and use checklists. If my task for the day (or week, or month) is long and complex, I make a checklist for the steps in the order I think I'm going to do them in. Then, if I get distracted or interrupted (which is pretty much guaranteed), I can quickly re-orient myself without having to rely on my own memory. This means, in many cases, that I have to go back and revise my checklists, but that's okay.
I take a walk around the block about once every hour. Takes about five minutes to do but I come back feeling ready to work again. Being in the same place too long gets me bored/unable to focus and temporary new scenery refreshes my mind.
I often don't. There's a "zone" that I have to get into. You don't usually choose to get into it. It just happens as you start getting interested in what you're doing. Once in that zone, it's possible to code for an extended period of time, depending on what you're doing.

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Do you spend a lot of time indoors?

You should get out for a quick 10-20 mins in the daylight once a day for vitamin D plus just the bonus of fresh air and a bit of exercise but other than that, staying in is fine. I'm a homebody and stay in a lot. But I do work 2 days a week and have a dog so that gets me out. I doubt it would do you serious harm staying in. Just try and get out a couple times a week and you'll be just fine.
We evolved outside, in a way it is where we are supposed to be. Artificial light, vidya, junk food, sitting down all day, and isolation have been shown to cause depression anxiety. When I was in school for engineering, I gained weight, developed terrible digestion problems, depression, anxiety. Forcing myself to be out on the trails for just a few hours a day, listening to a podcast made me feel like a different person! There are studies about sunlight doing way more for our health than just activate vitamin D production, although the vitamin D increase can help reduce inflammation which has been linked to impulsive, poor decision making. Exposure to sunlight has a huge impact on depression, seasonal affective disorder, and sleep quality.
Physically, it's bad because you need vitamin D to avoid rickets, which we mostly get from sunlight. People are studying the psychological effects still, but a lot of evidence suggests that people are happier if they spend time outside. Symptoms of ADD, anxiety, and autism spectrum disorders all seem to decrease in kids when they are outdoors more often. If you're indoors by yourself a lot, this can obviously lead to feelings of isolation, which can contribute towards depression.
To be fair, try to make sure you get some form of face to face socialization even if it's family. I had a rather bad experience years ago where I basically went into isolation with only some light over the phone conversation and never left that apartment at all for weeks at a time. It was not good for the mental health.
A lack of phisical exercise can make you obese and with that give you plenty more health concerns. The sun also provides essential vitamins wich are good for you. If you don't move at all blod clots can form and block your blood flow potentially causing death. There might be more but that's everything I can recite off the top of my head. When I dropped out of my old college to transfer to a new one but still had a month left on my apartment that I was the sole occupant of, I stayed inside for 4 days with the blinds drawn and played little big planet. I would've stayed in even longer but I had to go to work.
I've spent 11 straight days in a hospital. Also, since I work odd hours from home, I'll regularly go several days without going outside. I don't really plan to stay inside, I just tend to get caught up in my work.
I spent a lot of time in my room as well. I loved gaming, doing crafts, and making videos and such. I had no problem being by myself. It made socializing difficult, but once I got a job, it made it easier.

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I hope she tries lmao.
She's mad because someone else is pulling a her and she can't handle it. And that's alright. Also, the only health reasoning for me being medically disabled, is the fact that I have a positive spike, and I suffer from a really bad, uncontrollable migraine disorder. Other that that's it's due to the fact that I messed up my ankles playing too many sports at once when I was a teenager and then a surgeon messed them up more. 🤷🏼‍♀️ Nothing about any of that is shameful and no one will ever make me feel that way lmao.
Also, this is my sister, Kristen. I weigh less than her. Wanna know why she looks smaller than me? Because Kristen is 5'11, I'm 5'4. So, no, nothing anyone says about my weight will hurt my feelings when in reality I walk my whole town everyday and I'm actively changing my weight. The difference here....I won't cry about wanting to hurt myself because some nobody called me a fat slob (btw, ho I have OCD and can't be in a dirty area without getting sick, the more ya know)

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What's your favorite feature about yourself?

My personality. Always has been, always will be. There are things about my physical body that I like - such as my legs, my collarbones, my a$$, and so on. However, none of them compare to the inner traits that I possess. All of us have inner beauty, and they automatically have more weight and emphasis than our outer beauty. At some point, the outer beauty will change. We get older, hair changes colors, skin becomes more wrinkly, etc. Not saying we'll all look old and frail, but the physical body changes. The inner body, however, doesn't.
So I love my personality more than anything else I have, and that will never change for as long as I live. I know my personality can attract good people, and I know it can protect me from the negativity that can plague this world. I may attract different people of all walks of life, but that's exactly what I want. I like being able to meet new people, talk to new people, see what kind of things are in their brains, how they think, and so on. It's like you know you have so much to give, and you wanna start giving instead of sitting on the sidelines doing nothing about it.

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Hobbits from Lord Of The Rings usually eat around seven meals a day with second breakfast and supper after they've had dinner as notable examples. Do you think you'd be able to eat like a hobbit? What if for a day? 🍗🥔🍻

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No, I tried a diet once that I was on for 7 days and off one.. I have to eat 6 times a day... At the end of the 1st wk, I was like no way have I lost any weight because I was having to force myself to eat.. but it really works because I lost 8 lbs that week.

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who or what do you find inspirational? why? 🤩💫✨

nurbzee’s Profile Photonurulhuda
I find weight loss stories very inspiring! There's a lot of willpower that goes into something like that, completely changing your habits and pushing your limits when you workout. Sure, nobody should be shamed for being overweight but it's a fact that it's not healthy to stay that way. Whatever you do to improve your health, I'll stand beside and cheer you on! It really makes me happy to see someone on the heavier side really giving it their all in the gym 😄💪

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who or what do you find inspirational why

why are you working out? losing weight?

I am trying to lose weight, yes, but I'm also trying to improve my overall health and fitness too since right now, I am heavier than I have been in a long time - and while I don't believe my size has any baring on my value or my happiness - I do not like the way that my body feels at the moment. Like, how it's functioning.
I get tired incredibly easy and even walking leaves me feeling a bit out of breath. I have never, ever been this out of shape and I worry about the impact that it will have on my health in the long run. Hence why I have started to work out again.

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Your favorite food? 🥘

Sandwiches... Absolutely love them. There are infinite combinations that can be combined. Even when someone else and I make the same sandwich with the same ingredients, they will taste different. Breakfast sandwiches, soup and sandwich, Sloppy Joes... you can make sandwiches for any meal. I truly believe its the perfect food. Tacos. Well, the ones I make aren't anywhere close to authentic tacos, so calling them tacos might be a stretch, I just put my favorite meats, vegetables and condiments in a tortilla. Can't go wring with a good wrap!
Hands down crawfish. I just wish I wasn't getting old and swelling up/getting mild gout when I feast on them. There's a place close to where I live that sells the best bought crawfish (I'm an ok cook, but I've got really good ones in the family) and I typically get 6-8 pounds after work. Being that they run about $6.50 a pound, I lose weight during crawfish season because I skip eating out/going to lunch in order to keep within my budget.
I had a milk man that came around the block, dropping off milk every couple days. One day I am playing outside and this guy walks by and says "Howdy partner, just here with your daily dose of milk." When I saw him drive away, I looked through the back of the van and saw some off colored milk. I asked him the next day what it was and he explained it to me that it was an odd request for a neighbor down the street. Now I have never seen this neighbor but he lived in a large house. The lights were always off and the windows were always closed. It seemed vacant. Too this day I do not know why this bothered me so much, Just a guy ordering strange milk, whats wrong with that. But curiosity got the best of me and I rang his doorbell the next day. The door creaked open but no-one was insight. I make my way to the kitchen and open the fridge. Bottles and bottles of milk. I opened one up and took a drink, this wasn't regular milk. It was cold, but fizzy, almost....carbonated. Before I had time to collect my thoughts i heard the door slam behind me. I dropped the empty bottle and ran outta there as fast as I could. I returned back to my house and waited. I asked some neighbors if they new about the guy the next day, however no one knew what I was talking about. I hopped on my bike and rode back to the guy's house but all I saw was an open field. It started to rain at this point but I pushed on to find something. It started raining hard and in the middle of the field I found an empty bottle. I tried finding the milk deliverer but the company did not seem to exist. Its been years, decades maybe, since the incident but I have always been fascinated by the carbonated milk. I've been living wealthy and have a large house but have spent many days alone with only the company of the neighborhood milkman to bring me my special order of Carbonated milk.

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mirratchaudary7’s Profile PhotoM Î R R A T
22-26 is not a nice age for males. Your age fellow girls are getting married & your career has just started, elders treat you as unproven theorems, teenagers feel that you are too old to have in their group.
You seem to enjoy both cartoons and news. You can no longer eat whatever you wish without putting on weight. You look like an ape if you don’t shave daily.. You are not invited for weekend cricket matches.
Every Aunt you meet asks 'When are you getting married' while uncle asks 'What have you thought of your career' or you are still wasting your time "Mufat kee Rootiyan"? While the reality is that you are just riding the wave and going with the flow.
You have all the confidence in the world but little achievements to show, you already have the first hand experience of the life, you know that whatever you have been taught about the world in schools has been sheer waste of time.
You can be denied a job even after passing the test and you could be given a job if you know someone placed high enough.
Politics till now was a dirty word but now you feel it everywhere.
You even know love is not that blinds and that friendship has its "terms and conditions" in fact then you actually came to know the difference among friendships and acquaintances when you smell jealousy & envy in the "greetings" of the people you call friend.
You know there is nothing for granted and free lunches are not free. Your overconfidence is now making way for a humble conscience.
You now know it is not exactly what we thought it would be.

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Depression is an emotion or a disease?

deeda_dahi’s Profile PhotoZalaam
idk what exactly it is but
that’s the thing about depression. When I feel it deeply, I don’t want to let it go.
It becomes a comfort.
I want to cloak myself under its heavy weight and breathe it into my lungs. I want to nurture it, grow it, cultivate it.
It’s mine.
I want to check out with it, drift asleep wrapped in its arms and not wake up for a long, long time.

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What's your self-care routine like?

Cooking for me, mostly. I'm happiest when I'm eating well, and food is not something I budget strictly on - I don't spend much money in other areas (clothes, going out, etc), so I'd rather eat exactly what I want than try to save an extra £20 a week. I'm not a fussy eater in general, but my appetite nosedives and I lose weight if I'm on a really shitty, stodgy diet for a prolonged time. I'm currently doing week-long shifts at a place that has terrible food- fried breakfasts, pasta bakes, burgers, salads made with iceberg lettuce and watery tomatoes, endless potatoes, a choice of one or two vegetables that have been boiled to death- and I've been happily spending three times as much money going to a nearby Waitrose so that at least I can cheer myself up knowing there's a nice meal waiting for me at the end of the day and not a plate full of assorted beige shapes. It's completely worth it. And yes, the cliched Lush bath bombs for me too - I love anything that smells great and I can spend hours wallowing around like the happiest, most fragrant hippo in the world. I take a glass of wine or a cold beer, my Kindle, and go soak for an hour 2-3 times a week. I have a truly ridiculous collection of shower gels, soaps, lotions, perfumes, bath bombs/oils/bubbles, etc, but to me it's worth being able to select the exact scents that match my mood for the day. Hair: I try to use sulfate free shampoos and conditioners, and I also try to do deep conditioning masks at least once a week. Right now I'm using Wen as my shampoo, Organix Argan Oil of Morocco as my conditioner, and Aussie 3 Minute Miracle as my mask. I usually blow dry my hair after. I use a heat protectant spray and normally straighten my hair after that, finishing it off with a smoothing balm last. Skin: I use a mix of Western/Korean products. I usually double cleanse, apply toner, apply an essence, apply an ampoule, apply moisturizer, and then finish with a sleeping mask. Once or twice a week I try to do a sheet or clay mask. I don't drink any soda. I drink alcohol and eat fast food very rarely. I eat vegetables/fruits at least two meals a day and try to keep a generally healthy diet. I make sure to drink enough water every day. Although I still couldn't make it a routine, I try to exercise. I don't take a shower every day and use Johnson's Lightoil Baby Spray after shower - it doesn't contain harsh chemicals so on the safer side but still makes my skin very soft. I use sunscreen every day on my face with SPF 30 during winter and SPF 50 during summer. I always look up ingredients and make a research about them when I plan on anything for my skin. I rarely wear skin make-up. I have Sundays as my news-free day when I stay away from all world/depressing news. I watch comedy-anything every week, more if I'm feeling stressed. I do things that I love, reading books, playing with my dog and cat, baking and more.

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What's the most embarrassing thing that's happened to you?

r1yaa’s Profile Photoriyax
I have intentionally lost a lot of weight recently. I was carrying some groceries in to a neighbour’s home for them. My hands were full and my pants decided to do a little slide. Luckily they did not end up around my ankles. But my 82 year old neighbour was standing at her door and kind of picked up on what could have happened. She had a little laugh and asked me if she could cook something for me. What a sweetheart she is. 😊

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-Do you see yourself as a charismatic person , and what's your definition of it based to ur thoughts .!?

Based on the most part of our society's way of thinking i dnt think i am charismatic though i was told by some that my character can have some weight to it ..
For me it many things like the contradictions for ex and it's measure in a character that can make it charming in a way .. on the other hand I must say that there r some turn offs too like any character that lacks compassion, empathy or any feelings of this sort is a complete turn off for me ..

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Post something positive 👀

ManasviKoshiy’s Profile PhotoManasvi koshiy
Right now, you might be in a situation that you think you won't survive. But six months ago, you were in a situation that you didn't think you'd survive and two years before that you were in a situation, you didn't think you'd survive either. The point is you will always surprise yourself and you will always make it through. I know it isn't as easy as it seems in the words here when your mind is playing hard on you by overthinking. But you matter, you're important and you're loved. Your presence in this world makes a difference whether you see it or not. You're going to be okay. In these difficult times, when it feels like a mountain of stress, tension and worries is on your shoulders, remember that diamonds are made under the weight of mountains.
You're a diamond. No one can break you😍❤️✨💎

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Post something positive

Share a short positive quote you often use to console yourself~🌚

aleena_kamran1’s Profile PhotoA L E E N A
Imagine you're holding a glass of water.
If you hold it for a minute, that's not a problem.
If you hold it for an hour, you'll start having an ache in your arm.
If you hold it for a day, your arm will feel numb and paralyzed.
The weight of the glass doesn't change, but the longer you hold it, the heavier it becomes. The stresses, tensions and worries in our lives are like that glass of water.
➡️Think about them for a while and nothing happens (Holding the glass of water for a minute)
➡️Think about them a bit longer and they begin to hurt you (Holding the glass of water for an hour)
➡️Think about them all day long, you'll feel paralyzed, incapable of doing anything (Holding the glass of water for a day)
So, it's better to put down the glass of water as early as you can. In real life, don't take stress too much, don't be tensed and don't worry too much for too long.

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Share a short positive quote you often use to console yourself