Ask @took_boy:

What do you look for in an apology? Do you believe in the notion of forgive and forget?

I just hope that any apology given to me is genuine, which isn't always easy to tell so I take a lot of people at their word. And while I definitely *believe* in "forgive and forget", in practice it is very much on a case-by-case basis for me, most times not really fulfilling the "forget" part.

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What's the longest amount of time you've spent answering a question on ask.fm? How long do you particularly spend thinking about an intelligent topic raised on here? I sometimes find myself surprised how revealing some of my answers are, for better or worse.

T. A. Gruver
It almost always takes way longer than I'd like. It doesn't even need to be a thoughtful answer to a thought-provoking question! Even my few one-sentence-long replies took forever to write because I start second-guessing my words and worrying about if I'm using effective language and getting my point across.

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Would you liek to live in a bigger city?

Absolutely. I miss the convenience and liveliness of a city like Halifax, the fact that I could get lost in a crowd in a city and not wonder if anyone gives a fuck what I look like. I miss not having to worry about hearing small-town squabbles and gossip. I miss not having to worry about everyone knowing everything about me and my history, and my family's history, and my partner's and her family's history, etc. But most of all I miss the nighttime sounds of a smaller city like Halifax, where I could leave my window open on an autumn night and fall asleep to the bustle, and muffled music, and car horns, like it was all white noise.

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From your past, do you have more regrets and sad moments, or happy events?

At this point in my life, it's close to about half & half. The first half of my life is chock-full of regrets and bad experiences, the second half is where things slowly started getting better and I began feeling like I could be happy in life.

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If you've seen it, what did you think of Star Wars: The Force Awakens?

T. A. Gruver
I thought it was awesome. It was full of entertaining action, great character interplay, some genuinely funny moments. It was fun! I also loved that there were so many kids in the theater. I never had that magical "seeing my first Star Wars flick in the theater as a child" moment you hear all the OG trilogy fans go on about, and I can only imagine seeing The Force Awakens like that was magical for the li'l ones.

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Are there any films you love only half or a portion of, while finding the rest of it meh or even bad?

The Big Boss, starring Bruce Lee. The movie is an alright martial arts flick from the 70's, whatever, but I always laugh at the group fight near the middle. About a dozen people are already fighting, when a rinky-dink bus shows up and everyone in it jumps out the windows to join in, and it just becomes a mess.

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How much did you former laptop or PC last before it broke down?

My main PC's been kicking for around 9 years or so, I think. The only thing that stopped working and had to be replaced was the power supply, but I've also upgraded the RAM, the hard drive, and I added a graphics card. It's not a gaming rig so it doesn't need to do much, and runs ridiculously well for its age.

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Are you satisfied with the decisions you took this year so far?

This question was from 2015 so I'll answer in reference to last year. Last year was one of the hardest of my life, and it was full of big changes and hard choices. That said, life is still good and getting better a little bit each day, so I have to trust that I made the right decisions and will continue to do so.

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Do you go to parties? If yes, how often?

There was a time during and shortly after highschool where I went to parties held by friends and acquaintances, but I always had trouble within a large group of people. I started drinking at around 18 or 19, and I began relying a bit too heavily on drinking to get through those nights. I tapered off on going to parties after my first pass-out, and eventually most of the people at those parties moved away from our small island.
Since those times I've been invited to parties, but I haven't gone to any, not even work parties (which I always catch grief for). But I do love small get-togethers with my really close friends, maybe only 5 or 6 people at most.

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