Who?! Just kidding, sorta. We had several level of thoughts about this topic around the 28min mark this week http://www.twoguysoneshow.com/2015/05/21/bonus-lily-listener-questions-chivalry-and-more/ The main issue: your ex-man doesn't owe you a 'heads up.' We believe in the 'Golden Rule' - do onto others as you would others do onto you - but your Ex no longer falls into this group. One of the benefits of being the Ex is you are freed from the obligations of being the Main or the Current.