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Why is confirmation bias still prevalent even though technology is so advanced and can easily refute a fallacious world-view?

Cognitive dissonance. Technology isn't powerful enough to overcome human nature. People prefer to embrace ideas that re-confirm their preconceived beliefs and notions and reject ideas that are contrary to the beliefs/opinions they already have. Put another way: people aren't going to Google their way out of ignorance when ignorance is bliss.

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In a relationship, should a woman ever say no to sex? Is her body at the mercy of his sex drive. Does what she want count when he wants sex? Is he doing anything to make her feel special and loved so she will give up sex?

Yes. No. Yes. We don't know.
This sounds like more of a communication issue to us than a yes/no question. It sounds like one or both partners aren't communicating their needs. We discuss some options on how to do this from both the woman and the man's perspective on TGOS 064 http://www.twoguysoneshow.com/2015/04/07/064-bryan/ (around 1:26:00)

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This is for WIM, regarding the bonus podcast on investments. So yea I hear you loud and clear when you mentioned not touching that 401k for never ever..But what if it was cashed out for a first home purchase? and another 401k was started, and say this person is in his/her 30's..smart move? - Mr.SD

Never divest your 401k, unless you hit the lottery or that chain letter about your millions in estate inheritance turns out to be true. In my opinion, barring a windfall, there's never a good reason to use your 401k for anything but retirement.
I say this because 401k is (ideally) designed to help sustain and support your current standard of living into and through retirement - and not to be morbid here - until death. Unfortunately, for many of us, it will be the best, imperfect retirement fund made available to us. At minimum, ALWAYS maximize your employer's match if you can afford to do so.
Removing your funds before retirement will only reduce opportunities to maximize your investments as well as capitalize on the compounded interest from your growing nest egg. Only in cases of extended unemployment or other life-altering emergencies, of which I would not consider home ownership to fall, would I even consider withdrawing from a 401k. I've heard some sites recommended doing so for lower interest to consolidate credit cards and loans. However, I also disagree with that theory since the longterm costs versus benefit often doesn't materialize.
A better bet may be to save and raise the money yourself, if you have the time. If you're looking to buy on a quicker timeline, and you have good credit, you may want to look at peer funded sources (i.e. Prosper; Zopa; etc) that are becoming increasingly popular, especially among millennials, for rates that are traditionally lower than those provided by banks. Credit Unions are also another good source and tend to offer cheaper rates than most banks.
For more info, we discuss you question in more detail at 1:26:00min of TGOS 64 https://twitter.com/TGOSPodcast/status/588383959156920320 We're also reaching out to real estate agents in the future to provide more input on the pros/cons of homeownership. Good luck and keep us posted.

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Re: http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/fact-checker/wp/2015/03/19/hands-up-dont-shoot-did-not-happen-in-ferguson/?tid=pm_pop What are your thoughts on how this may affect the Blacklivesmatter movement.

We discuss this at 1:26:00 of TGOS 064 http://www.twoguysoneshow.com/2015/04/07/064-bryan/ but it appears the concept is more relevant than the facts. Therefore, if this mantra "hands up dont shoot" and/or #BlackLivesMatter has inspired people to unite across platforms, social media and externally, then we doubt these new facts will have much impact on a movement that now seems to be self-sustaining and is no longer specifically tied or limited to Ferguson.

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I am READY 2 leave my job but I think they expect me to stay until at least July. A job i really want start date is July 1. Do I dip if i get new job or negotiate start date? I am ready to go.

Both. You can work out a transition plan with current gig if you land something new. And usually you can negotiate on start date with new gig. Even if they only push out the start date a week, that's better than nothing. -R

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Why is it suggested by hr, when applying internally for a position, that you let your manager know you are being interviewed. It's awkward from a candidate stand point, especially if you don't get the job. Additionally if you were interviewing to another company your employer would be unwarned.

Imagine you have a team and you find out randomly that one of your team members is sneaking over to another department to interview. Not the best feeling. You might also question why the person didn't tell you. Even more awkward if you get a message from HR asking for feedback on a team member you didn't know was interviewing with that other department.
Honestly, it's about communication and a good working relationship. For internal stuff, your manager should find out from you first. Not "surprise! i'm going to another team!" You also wanna have the current manager in your corner. Not an unintentional adversary. That person may also be a reference down the road.
External interviews are a different story. Wouldn't encourage telling your manager that unless y'all have that type of relationship. -R

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I have a Windows phone and I can't figure out how to be able to listen to the show (w/out using the browser) The only option in the Windows app store is the thing called "Podcasts" but your show wasn't in there. Any other sugs?

Get a new phone.
Nah, for real though. We're working on getting the show to display in that app. Unfortunately, not sure of other apps that have a Windows version. If we come across something, we'll share. -R

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Response to Rich for salary question: Monday, applied. Wednesday, brief questionnaire with salary question, felony question, and availability. Thursday phone interview. Saturday 3-hr in person interview (salary not discussed at all). Sunday afternoon offer letter e-mail, deadline to reply Friday.

Dope! I think it's fair to say your situation has changed since completing the initial questionnaire and ask for a base increase. I've never heard of a company rescinding an offer because someone negotiated. I suggest you ask for a 5K bump. If they ask what changed specifically, you can say your living situation and you want to avoid putting yourself in a tough spot so thought it was better to bring up now. I'd actually try to get someone on the phone to add some authenticity to it. Also will reflect positively on you. Lastly, it's better to ask for an increase than not simply for peace of mind. You don't wanna start the gig and be wondering if you could've gotten more. Good luck!

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I applied for a job and they asked for the salary I wanted. Mistakenly I wrote one number (not a range). I thought it was a fair number for the position, but later realized (my mistake again) that I couldn't live without a roommate on that salary. It's $2000 difference. Do I just accept the first #?

More info needed. Where are you in the interview process? (My answer depends on that) -R

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Why do men dislike women who ask questions, especially when it is clear the dude is hiding something or someone? Dating is a process of elimination and questions are an important part of the elimination process.

Why bother questioning someone you think is clearly "hiding something or someone?" If dating is a process of elimination, this person might need to be eliminated if you can't even trust them in the dating phase. Plus men don't like answering questions when they're not in a relationship or see themselves moving towards a serious commitment. Your question might be your answer. We go over some other reasons why a man might not want to answer certain question on TGOS 063 http://www.twoguysoneshow.com/2015/03/31/063-these-ethnics/

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I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half and still haven't met his parents, I have asked him several times but he always comes up with an excuse. His parents divorced when we met so they live separately. He hasn't met my family either, I feel like this is coming between us, need advice

Not all people find the "meeting the parents" step to be crucial to the relationship. You may want to have a discussion with him about how important he thinks this step is or is not versus how important it is or is not to you. Seems to be a lack of communication here, since he also hasn't met your parents. If you feel like you need to meet his parents to validate the relationship, you need to communicate that as well. We wonder, have you met other people in his life? Friends? Family? Etc? For some, these relationships are equal to or more important than family depending on their upbringing. We also spoke to your question on TGOS 063 http://www.twoguysoneshow.com/2015/03/31/063-these-ethnics/ around the 41:40min mark. Good luck and keep us posted.

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What's your take on weed? I don't smoke, never have. I know being a drunk poses far greater risks. But I know people who drink too much who have great jobs, my friends who smoke a lot are barely employed. With pot use becoming legalized, do you think smoking is a sign of dysfunction?

Adults should be able to make adult-like decisions, with the decision to smoke (legalized) weed or not just being another one of those decisions adults should be allowed to make (in states where it's legal). Similar to you, we know people who smoke who manage to maintain jobs and families, and people who drink that cannot. We also know people who neither drink or smoke who still fail at both. So, we don't want to confuse personal accountability with people's inability to act responsible, regardless of their choice of vices. We answer your question in more detail on this week's BONUS episode http://www.twoguysoneshow.com/2015/03/26/bonus-thugvestment-social-engineering/

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I believe marriage contracts are outdated but many women insist on it, however, they refuse a pre-nup. To me this is stupid (no need to sugarcoat). thoughts? What do you think about the majority of college degrees being earned by women?

Need some more info on this "marriage contract" concept, because it's new to us. How's it used/what's its purpose? On your second question, we think a larger group of women with secondary or greater education is a good thing and we--men, women, and couples--will benefit. At about 41mins of TGOS 063 http://www.twoguysoneshow.com/2015/03/31/063-these-ethnics/ we also answer your question on the show.

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Do recommendations on LinkedIn matter?

In reviewing LinkedIn, if available, Rich has used this information in hiring reviews to confirm others in your industry can vouch for your skills. While such validation or confirmation isn't limited to LinkedIn, having this information readily available may make your recruiter's life easier, and thus improve your immediate opportunity. For more info, we answered your question on our Bonus episode http://www.twoguysoneshow.com/2015/03/12/bonus-thugvestment-listener-questions/

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why perpetuate the myth of happy wife happy life? is not your happiness as important? and i like pizza too. rich, you the man. peace

Because it's true! Our happiness is important, but we seem to have a lower bar to achieve our happiness. At 1:34:00 of TGOS 62 http://www.twoguysoneshow.com/2015/03/24/062-long-distance-marriage-first-guest/ we discuss this in detail, but as WIM says on the show, men drive towards a "finish line" when it comes to reaching happiness. Women don't seem concerned with finishing over the priority of being understood and appreciated, which us men seem (or prefer) to forget sometimes. Also, if seeing your woman happy makes you happy as well, then the goal of keeping her happy perpetuates everyone's happiness in the relationship rather than acting in conflict of our own pursuit of happiness as men.

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What do you think about the state of black pod-casting? It seems like there has been a gluttony of new shows that basically rehash the same topics driven into the ground.

We agree about the gluttony of new shows, but as a new show ourselves, we'd be hypocrites to say others shouldn't pursue podcasting if they're dedicated. Podcasting is the "new toy" of the social media world and the recent influx will likely self-correct this year or next year. Podcasting takes a lot more work than blogging, which saw a similar spike then correction a few years ago, and we think we'll see the same pattern here. We talk about this more on TGOS 61 around the 1:34:00 mark http://www.twoguysoneshow.com/2015/03/24/062-long-distance-marriage-first-guest/

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My ex is losing at life. No job. Community college dropout. He screws up opportunities because his priorities are jacked. He won't use his real estate license & instead is involved in an MLM. We ain't getting back together, but I'm the only person close to him to call him on his shit. Should I?

The worst advice is UN-solicited advice. Sounds like your ex-guy might be an ex-cause as well. Don't enable him, but don't belittle him either. If or when he ask you for help or to 'call him on his shit,' then you can step up to the plate.

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