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Regarding the Kenya Moore situation, why do men continue to date other women even after they have found the one? Are they not sure or what? Why do marriage minded men move so fast in this case? Why didn't James give Kenya a heads up about his plans to marry someone else?

Who?! Just kidding, sorta. We had several level of thoughts about this topic around the 28min mark this week http://www.twoguysoneshow.com/2015/05/21/bonus-lily-listener-questions-chivalry-and-more/ The main issue: your ex-man doesn't owe you a 'heads up.' We believe in the 'Golden Rule' - do onto others as you would others do onto you - but your Ex no longer falls into this group. One of the benefits of being the Ex is you are freed from the obligations of being the Main or the Current.

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Im 23 and ive had the usual trouble with dating as anyone my age. the weird thing is ive had several women say "I treat them too well" when they elaborated, they say my habit to be faithful & not be a dick to them is offputting. have you ever dealt with this & how did you manage?

Yes, this is something we've dealt with. Because of the way our lives are set up, we will answer this on the 'bonus' podcast http://www.twoguysoneshow.com/2015/05/14/listener-questions-feedback-and-life-add-bonus-episode/ rather than here. Check in around 45mins for our response. You have two options.
Good luck!

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Isnt a person being put in the friend zone more of the fault of the friendzone-ee rather than the friendzone-er? Seems like the person being friend-zoned isn't communicating his/her intentions properly.

No. Communication is a two-way street. Most, not all (but more than some) people know the person in the Friend Zone likes them more than a friend. If you allow someone who clearly has more feelings to stay in your life for your own benefit, then you're equally guilty. Most people think simply stating their intent or non-intent absolves them of responsibility. That's now how this works. That's not how any of this works!
Thanks for the question. We talk more about why both the friendzone-ee and friendzone-er are responsible at around 57min of TGOS Ep 67 http://www.twoguysoneshow.com/2015/05/05/067-f-buckets/

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Whats the best way to be well informed with current events without becoming stressed out? With the blatant propaganda and the seemingly daily police brutality article, it can be tough to digest the news.

Find your salvation in moderation. If it wasn't for bad news, there wouldn't be any news. We have some other thoughts/tips at the 57min mark of TGOS 67 http://www.twoguysoneshow.com/2015/05/05/067-f-buckets/

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My lady is an AKA. Pink/green cardigan, a paddle from when she crossed, duffle bag at my crib, whole 9. She's trying to drag me to this Greek thing this summer and I'm like "bruhhhhh". Is it selfish to say "yo babe that's a part of your life I REALLY don't care about"? Greeks so sensitive about that

BRUH! Prayers and sympathies. Logically, you don't have to go. But the way yo relationship probably set up, you should probably just go. I would voice your concerns and maybe find a comprise. Is there something you want to do with your family/friends that she's not a big fan of? This might be a good time for bringing that up and find snatch a win from the jaws of defeat.

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What advice would you give to yourself when you were in your twenties regarding finances, career and affairs of the heart?

Great question. We spent a ridiculous amount of time answering it on TGOS 067 (about 57mins) http://www.twoguysoneshow.com/2015/05/05/067-f-buckets/
In thinking about this good, yet haunting, question later, I realized we forgot to cover some advice an older mentor gave me once, which might apply to all three areas: What you're doing (or not doing) in the present will show results in your life 5 - 10 years from now, so act accordingly.
For example, while partying, smoking, drinking and putting off life-changing or life-challenging decisions in areas like finances, career and affairs of the heart might not have a noticeable immediate impact, it's the decisions that you make in your 20s that are reflected in the status of your life in your 30s. I imagine this holds true throughout the course of your life. Just something to keep in mind as you make or put off minor decisions today that might have a major impact on your tomorrow.
Hope our responses help. If not, our bad.

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Hi WIM, how are you? Can you compare Texas and Colorado and tell me which one is better for a young professional in the business/marketing industry?

Yes. Answer: It depends. I have a background/degree in business but I have worked in auditing for about a decade. As it relates to business and professional life, Texas wasn't bad but my Colorado experience has been great. There is one exception, which has less to do with Colorado versus Texas than long distance versus short distance relationships of the personal, professional and social variety.
With the clarity of hindsight, Rich and I both opine on what it's like to relocate across the country for work and the impact it has on your professional and social networks as well as some other factors you may want to consider before making a permanent move at around 57:30 of TGOS 067 http://www.twoguysoneshow.com/2015/05/05/067-f-buckets/

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Why do black men only acknowledge the negative effects of white supremacy when it affects them ( police brutality , racial profiling ) but turn a blind eye when it affects black women ( colorism, negative stereotypes, police brutality ...) ?

Good question but we disagree with the premise. I don't think we, as a few black men, turn a "blind eye" on issues that affect black women, but you are correct in recognizing that we do tend to focus more on issues that directly impact us as black men. Part of the issue is the limit of our own personal experiences, and while we can relate, sympathize and empathize with issues that affect black women we don't know what it's like to be a black woman. We might have more of a blind spot than a blind eye on issues that impact black women since those are not issues we deal with each day as black men. Unfortunately, this often comes off as dismissive or is outright ignored simply because we can't relate.
Complicating the issue (or issues) is also the fact that many of the issues that we deal with as black men remain unresolved or we don't know how to solve them which makes it even more difficult for us to address, embrace or take on more of the issues of others within the community, including and not limited to black women. We all spoke about this in more detail on TGOS 65 http://www.twoguysoneshow.com/2015/04/21/065-comfortable-ft-smooth_orator/

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Any dating tips for celibate/abstinent women? We love God and men and are sensual but its hard finding men who want commitment that will understand. Living by Christian ideals doesn't always attract men. What type of guys should we be looking for? Where can we find them?

Unfortunately, not really. Other than upfront communication about your goals, reasons or whatever else you're comfortable discussing upfront, there's not much you can do (our opinion) to make a man stay that doesn't want to stay. However, at least you'll weed out those only there for the wrong reasons or at least reasons that don't align with your personal commitments. As far as where to meet these men? No idea!
We made a few mildly informed guesses on TGOS 65. Hope some help. http://www.twoguysoneshow.com/2015/04/21/065-comfortable-ft-smooth_orator/

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Is there a pt where u know when u've outgrown ur own site? How do u separate it from the feelings of burn out or regular writers fatigue?

The easiest way to tell might be to clearly determine what outcomes/goals you have or had for your sight. Have they been achieved? Is there more opportunity in the future or have you reached your max potential? In our opinion, it's easier to determine if you should keep going after you've determined where you're trying to go. If you've already gotten there; yes, maybe it's time to move on.
As writers, it's natural to feel burned out, so a simple break might be all that you need. Also, some time away might provide clarity on if you want to return. All three of us stopped (primarily) writing on our personal blogs/websites for various reasons. We discuss the different motivations on TGOS 65 http://www.twoguysoneshow.com/2015/04/21/065-comfortable-ft-smooth_orator/

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How do you tell a woman you don't like her kid? Dating shorty since the summer, met the kid last month during a snow day and he's an ass. I have nephews and a goddaughter so I get that kids can be on level 10 and they act up, but she doesn't even tell him to chill, discipline, nothing. He's 10

You don't. No way that ends well. Assuming you like this woman and want to build a future with her, you can, however, ask her for some clarity on what role she sees or wants you playing in the child's life. Does she want you to be more disciplinary? Authoritative? Or, sit back and "chill" like her? etc etc. Based on her response to this question, you can better determine what you should or should not do and if you'll be ok playing that role, or lack of role, in his life. We answer your question as a group on TGOS 65 during the listener feedback section of the show (after 34min).

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Does it seem to you as if the relationship questions seem to be about, "How do I manipulate them into giving me what I want?".

Yes. We see a lot of questions like that (and have for years). We consistently advise that you'll always be better off simply finding the actual person you like instead of trying to manipulate the person you want into the person you like.

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