Think of everything desired in life. Chances are the biggest obstacle to having that life is myself. At a certain point being angry @ others or blaming outside forces represents a mere distraction. In worst cases when dealing with bad people they want you to be angry and emotional as it will cause you to exhaust all of your energy and focus on something that is worse than useless. Then you wont have any power or energy left to devote towards things that might actually help you.