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I got admitted dor masters at a uni in the US.Before leaving for it a guy started to like me and i like him too so we went out for a movie.We liked us as a couple.Now i have got to know the course in which i am going isnt good enough.my parents tell me not to go.I am sad beyond words.please help.

sharanya
First thing first, forget what other people say about the course, is it something you wish to persue? Will it make you happy and leave you content? If the answer to these questions is yes then go for it.
They are your parents and they wish you well so naturally they would be concerned but it is upto you to make them understand that this is something you WANT to do, and they're your parents at the end of the day they want your happiness.
As for the guy, as the saying goes distance makes the heart grow fonder besides this also your career and ambitions are the things that are most important so keep that in mind too.
So take a deep breath think it through and I am sure you'll make the right decision.

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I talked to a guy in the uni i was about to go for masters.we started sort of dating for a few weeks.Now i want to change my mind and go to another school completely across the US. i feel bad and guilty that i might break his heart and hurt his feelings.What should i do?(change schools or not )

Ok so think about this: In the long term, there's a possibility that this relationship won't work out. Education though, always does. If you've found a better school, a school more suited to your tastes and that you feel will give you a better experience then I would definitely suggest that you choose this school. Although you just started dating him for a few weeks, if he's a truly supportive and all round great guy that you should be with then he wouldn't let something like this get in between it. No doubt he might be upset and I suppose maybe you too, after all you both had these plans surrounding the fact that you were going to be in the same university but you have to choose what's best for you and that is to not compromise on your education. See, if you feel that you would still be happy and it would benefit you to stay in this university then by all means stay, but I believe that you have to chase your dreams and picking the better university will help you do that. In fact if you do pick the other school and this guy supports you then you've got the best of both worlds. Be strong and make good choices. Make a decision you won't regret 10 years from now. Stay wonderful xx

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I am very very scared to go to us for masters.It was what i had planned but now as the date is coming close i feel jittery,panicky anxious as hell so much so that i am unable to pay my visa fee.What should i do?How should i get myself to go abroad and study?I am too too too scared

First of all, congratulations on all your hard work till date that has brought you to this point. You've faced a lot of hardships, loads of sleepless nights, read through countless books.
You have the potential for greatness and you know it. That is why you made up your mind and planned to study abroad. Stay true to your awesome self. You can do it. You are a rockstar and this is your pre-show fright. Every great rocker has felt it and those who say they haven't are straight up lying. This fright is your enemy. It makes you think you're not good enough or that you won't make it. That's absolute rubbish. You know how amazing you are. Now, you must step up to the stage and accept your destiny. This moment is the fruit of all your hard work. Embrace it.
It's absolutely normal to feel jittery and nervous. It is a big life decision but nonetheless it's the one you've wanted and the one you've taken. Trust yourself, you've come so far, you must have had your fair share of troubles too, so just relax and take this up as a challenge. If you're feeling nervous about the new place and people, you can always interact with your university people. The beginnings are the hardest part, so just take the first step and it will all be fine. It's your education at stake, so take a deep breath and think about the things scaring you and work on them one by one.
The first day of school worked out, so will this.
I have faith in you. You will be amazing. Just remember that you always have the support of your loved ones. Take care and all the best!

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I'm deeply in love with a guy since last year, we didn't date, it's always been one sided but true love. I never named it infatuation. And for me he's been the perfect one always but then lately I saw a guy who was effing cute and my pals are like 'you've stopped loving HIM'. Science says this(cont)

Hey! We are sorry but we didn't get your complete question yet. It would be great if you send us in your whole question, so we can provide you the best possible answer.
Stay Wonderful xx

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I have a terrible time taking a decision.i hate life transitions.i just cannot decide which uni to go abroad.and when i decide on one i become so anxious that i change my decision.Also i feel sweaty and afraid just at the thought of leaving home.i CANNOT stand changes.What should i do?i cry

We all have panic attacks while taking major decisions on life, we all feel lost some times. And we all sit down and tear up.
Its perfectly fine.
You know what you must do? Breathe. In and out. Regulate your heartbeat When ever you are making a decision. Take deep breaths. Close your eyes for a bit. And drink some water.
Uprooting yourself from anywhere is always hard, but you must remember that with transition comes experience. What you have grown to cherish will always be there in your memories, and you will find much more, explore much more.
What is the point of living, if you dont live a little?
Dont worry about change. It comes, it goes. It is a part of life.
Take a decision. With a clear head. Dont make rash decisions. Choose the college that you think will be the best for you. Confide in your family or a friend, so that they can be there to give you moral support if you need it, while accepting a college.
And above all, smile.
And tell yourself, out loud, that you can do it. Because you can.
Now go, and live your life.
All the best, and I hope you get to go to the uni you want to.
Stay Wonderful xx

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I have to go for masters at a us university.I habe a choice between two universities.in one a guy i like and he likes me back is going.In another i dont have any guy etc.The two unis dont have much difference but the uni in which that guy is going is slightly lesser than the other? which to choose?

Step one - Never, ever in your life choose anything that will be there for the rest of your life (that is, something like your school, college, career choice, option of where to live) based on your likings or infatuation.
You're going to a college, you're going to study. To build a future. This will be there for you for the rest of your life. Do NOT take this decision keeping a guy, or your boyfriend or your BFF in mind. Whenever you have to take decisions for your life and career choices, always be selfish. Choose what is the best for you.
Because that guy you like, might not be there for you in 10 years. But this university and its education, it will last a lifetime.
I hope you take a wise decision.
Stay Wonderful xx

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YWP i am not able to anything perfectly. Whatever I try to do it goes wrong. I sometimes feel sad and I don't even know the reason but then later i feel like cutting hands or depressing thoughts come into my mind what should I do?

Listen to me. And hear me out. Before I go on to say anything else let me tell you SELF HARM IS NEVER OKAY. It might feel like a temporary relief but it won't stop at that. To divert your attention away from the mental pain you'd take the option of choosing physical pain but that doesn't make anything alright! Before you know it, it will become the only way you'd know to deal with pain and hurt. Your body is a masterpiece that you as an artist have made to be what it is today. You took care of it, protected it and now you wish to destroy your creation? You're young and beautiful and your entire life lies ahead of you. Don't throw all that away. And what perfection darling? There's no such thing as perfect! You just haven't found the right thing, YOUR thing maybe. And trust me when you put your heart and soul into anything, the outcome will be great. Don't think about doing anything perfectly, in the end you should be happy with the result. Your opinion of yourself is what matters at the end of the day. We all feel sad sometimes its hormones or sometimes its a certain memory. That is fine. We're humans and we feel a range of emotions, sadnesses being one of them. It is normal. So don't feel out of place. Remember your happiness is in your hands. When you feel depressed do the thing you love. Paint, dance, sing your lungs out, cry if you must, let those emotions out, talk to a friend, read a book, drink coffee do whatever you must but DO NOT give in to the temptation of replacing one pain with another.
And remember to stay wonderful❤

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Hey YWP you are doing a great work here! So i just thought maybe you could help me too! I'm not 100% sure what's wrong with me, but i have lied to my friends about my boyfriend,And i feel guilty. I sometimes feel shy to tell my best friend about my feelings. I feel depressed too. so help please!

Hello! Thank you for appreciating our efforts. First of all it is entirely up to you what aspects of your private life you wish to share with others. If you don't want people, be it your friends or family or anybody else, to know about your boyfriend there is no compulsion to tell them. And there's nothing to feel guilty about it. A relationship is between two people and as long as those two people involved are happy with where they stand morning else matters. And about not being able to share your feelings with your best friend? It's okay. Not all of us are capable of pouring our hearts out in front of peopl. That's how we're made. You mustn't feel bad about it and if it does make you sad, not being able to communicate with him/her, try talking about little things at first and eventually open up. As the saying goes, "Rome wasn't built in a day". Take your time. Relax and don't be so hard on yourself. The world is hard to survive, focus on the positive, the good things in your life. There's no rush. Do things that you love and do them at your own pace. Feeling sad occasionally is normal but don't let the negativities cloud your life and take control of it. Don't deprive yourself of the wonderful future that lies ahead. Stay strong. :)

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I care wayy too much about what others think of me and how they perceive me.it takes a toll on my self confidence.also i keep comparing my looks to other girls.i feel so damn ugly.i have never been asked out by a guy.this has really lowered my self esteem.help me please how to come out of it.

Ok, so let me tell you that it is perfectly natural for you to feel insecure. We're only humans and seeking self improvement won't hurt you. However, what you're doing is hurting you and your perception of yourself. If you hold yourself up to someone else's standards of beauty, then you will never feel beautiful. So what you should do is take a long look in the mirror and point out every single flaw you can see. Guess what, not one of those has anything to do with YOU. It's just about how you look and that can easily change. Normally people say you should just be happy with how you appear but I don't. If you're unhappy with how you look, then you should definitely strive to look better. Work out, eat well and drink lots of fluids. That's the easiest way to start looking better but I really don't think JUST that will help. I mean sure you'll start looking better and healthier, but you will never feel even half that pretty because you aren't happy on the inside. I firmly believe that if you are a confident, radiant and happy person that you will automatically look the same. The solution to all your problems is basically this, feel attractive and you will look attractive. You need to fall in love with yourself before you can hope a guy falls in love with you. I want you to go out with your friends, go dancing, read books, listen to music, learn a foreign language or how to paint. Basically do anything and everything that makes you happy and really it can be anything from gardening to clubbing as long as it makes you feel alive. Once you start doing these things whether around people or on your own, you will start enjoying yourself. As soon as that starts happening you will automatically feel more confident in your own skin. You will be the person you always wanted to be. But guess what, this person is inside you right now and your insecurities are blocking her way out. So what do you say we start breaking them up and pulling her out from the darkness. It'll happen only if you're ready to believe she's there somewhere and you want her to be known and loved. Because you are worth someone's love and only when you love yourself just as you are, can you be open to being loved by someone else. Stay wonderful xx

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I am 23 year old girl who has never had a boyfriend.Any guy i like it turns out he already has a girlfriend.i just feel i have become late and all the good guys are gone.i feel really lonely and pathetic.all my friends go out on dates.i feel miserable.i might die alone or have arrange marriage.help!

Hey, if you don't mind please scroll down a bit. We have answered the exact same questions twice.
Follow the advice, and you shall not be in any dilemma anymore.
Stay awesome x

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I am gay and my parents got to know about it so they tried to beat the gay out of me but i cannot help it im really sick and tired i dont know what to do i cut myself i think of dying everyday please help me

Hello. I afraid that this is a country of closet homosexuals because of the mentalities of the citizens. You must try to talk to your parents. Tell them about homosexuality and how it is not something you choose but something you are born with. Try to explain with science. If they refuse to understand, try finding someone who has give through something similar. A person who can help you deal with it. Before all that, please make sure that you are not simply bi-curious. Never feel ashamed of who you are. Be proud. Dont worry. People have problems in life. This is just another speed bump, you will pass it. You will grow, become a man of your own. Please do not lose hope. There are many like you. And they have overcome families and their restrictive attitudes to homosexuality. Be patient, be calm. And over all, be strong. Here are a few social networks online, which you can go to for further help. http://www.desiboys.in/m/signin?target=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.desiboys.in%2Fm http://www.wonderfulthingshappen.com/ http://www.utopia-asia.com/tipsinxdi.htm Here are a few queer events/parades which are held every year in big cities. Delhi Queer Parade - http://delhipride.org/ Bangalore Queer Parade - http://www.bangalorepride.com/ Queer Azaadi Mumbai - https://queerazaadi.wordpress.com/ Chennai Rainbow Pride - http://chennai-dost.blogspot.in/ Kolkata Queer Parade - https://m.facebook.com/pages/Kolkata-Rainbow-Pride-Festival/220405277990076 Sangama, a human rights organisation, has a helpful list of LGBT support groups across India on its website Sangama also runs 24-hour helplines for sexual minorities dealing with issues of harassment. They can be reached at the following numbers: Tel: 099 4560 1651/52 Tel: 099 4560 1653/54 Tel: 099 4523 1493 Tel: 080 2343 9124 (LesBiT) Tel: 099 452 31494 (Samara) Stay wonderful x

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Why are single people like me made to feel sad by the society especially on valentines day etc? I dont have a boyfriend and all of my friends have them.i feel ugly and abnormal.I am 22.i feel sad,pathetic and frustrated.Its annoying to see couples like these.

First off, valentines day is to celebrate love. its not make- fun -of -single- people day. Society made a day for the celebration of something wonderful. It's not valentines day here that is bad, it is your attitude towards it. Secondly, having a boyfriend doesn't define you. Your individuality does, whether you are in a relationship or not. so you aren't ugly or abmormal just because you are single. I get you feel out of place, but to be honest, if you're not really in love with the person you're with its not worth being in a relationship. And hey, you're not pathetic just because you're single. Let me tell you something about guys, for all their macho confidence they are sometimes a wuss when it comes to asking a girl out , they find rejection and insult to their manliness and so they take a hell lot of time to ask a girl out. So if you're waiting for a guy to ask you out. Don't. You can ask a guy you like out too. I used to feel the same way, and so I asked this guy I liked , out. Later I found out he was in love with me for six months but was much too intimidated by me to ask me out. He thought I'd punch him or something :p. My point is , you never know something exists until you try. And if you want something you gotta go after it, (tho not a stalkerish way) dont feel sad or pathetic. though I fell you couples who do the whole sickly love thing in public are gross and I avoid them like disease. Don't hate on them for it. please don't get sad about being single it just means the right guy isnt here yet. Be in a relationship with the one you love. It looks like a pretty package from outside, but inside its jelaousy, lust, fights and a lot of other stuff which would hurt you like crazy . But if its with the person you really and deeply love it won't be as much.

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Is it okay to have sex without getting married.

Sex is a natural human function. Our bodies are programmed to desire it. It is perfectly fine to desire, or engage in sexual activities preceding marriage. Sex, just like marriage is a very personal choice. Some people believe in sexual freedom and others in reservedness. What really matters is what makes you comfortable. If you are comfortable with the idea of sleeping with somebody, you should definitely go ahead and do it. If there is passion, feeling and an urge, why not go with your body? There are a couple steps you should always take if you do want to sleep with multiple sexual partners, However. Health always comes first. Take care of yourself and your needs. You are a gem, and No one can tell you to do or to not do anything. Make your own calls, make mistakes, fall down, and learn to stand back up on your feet. If life was a straight road, what would be the fun?

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Why are you doing this? You don't even know me? You think I'll be helped this way?

You were the one who came to us and asked us for help. So we, are providing it to you. And yes, we don't know you. And yes, we care. Also, no. You won't be helped this way. You won't be helped until and unless you make it work. YOU are your own savior. Go ahead and make yourself proud, tiger. Also, stay smiling xx

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I feel like an underachiever. Its not that I am useless compared to others. But I feel that I could've been much much better. All I want to do is cry now :(

We all have the potential to be someone better, Someone great, Someone who can do things that we dont know how to do.
Its normal to feel this way. this feeling is only a reminder or all that you can achieve.
Go out into the world and be who you want to be. There is Nothing you cant achieve if you try.
But at the same time, remember never to compare yourself with other people. Everyone has different skillsets. You have your own. You are not an underachiever. You are yet to top into your store of potential and let it out.
You are you, be you, be awesome.
And never lose faith.
You can do it, and No one should be able to tell you otherwise.
Stay Wonderful xxx

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I am in love with a guy who isn't in love with me. It kills me everyday. I cry myself to sleep everynight. I can't get him out of my mind, I don't talk to anyone about it because I feel like I am bothering them. I have thoughts about ending my life a lot these days. I don't want to but.. I need help

Okay, so I have been EXACTLY where you are right now. Getting over someone you love and doesn't love you back, will break your heart over and over again. It's much more different than getting over a breakup because atleast in that situation there's someone else going through those feelings with you and you have the memories of a relationship to carry with you. With unrequited love, you just have your own memories of him/her and the overwhelming depression of not having someone reciprocate your feelings. But guess what, you are actually not alone. Firstly, thoughts about ending your life are common. So many people JUST think about it. But you shouldn't be the person that acts on these poisonous thoughts because that's exactly what they are : POISON. You have a long and beautiful life ahead of you and no boy is worth throwing that away for, ESPECIALLY a boy that doesn't feel as much for you as you do for him. Trust me when I say that there are gorgeous, caring and loving boys who will come for you at different periods in your life and they will love you so much that you will be overwhelmed by the love you will be showered with. The only way you will get that is by reminding yourself that you are beautiful and worth loving and your life is a gift that you will treasure forever. Then, in order to cleanse yourself of this pain and sadness, you take a week to detox. By this I mean that for one whole week, just cry your heart out and with those tears, let all the bitterness for this boy fall out. Watch romantic movies, eat ice cream or do anything that takes you to your happy place. Just let everything out that week. All I have to say to that is never think of yourself as a bother and if anyone makes you feel like that, cut them out of your life because you don't need that kind of negativity. So ideally, you take another week and this is only after you feel empty of any negative feelings or thoughts. During this week, I want you to take long baths, go shopping or go out with your friends and pamper yourself. You could also go join a dance class, learn a language or just do cartwheels in your backyard. Basically you have to do things to make yourself feel beautiful and alive. Slowly, start taking back what was always yours and start loving yourself. Take all that love you had for him and turn it around so now that love is for yourself. Believe me, this will work if you set your heart on getting over him. Once your heart is free of that burden and it's filled with unbounded love, then you can move on. If there's one thing I know for sure it's that when you love yourself, you make it easier for someone to love you. Just focus on yourself now and one day you'll be able to look him in the eye and have a conversation with him without feeling like your hurt is being ripped out of your chest. The day you can do that, is the day you will open yourself up to the possibilities of love. Stay wonderful xx

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And adding to the question I have been bullied and some people think that I need someone's sympathy, that's why I need a gf. Why do people think like that?

I dont know. You don't need anyone's sympathy. You've survived this long on your own and that's amazing . It is true though . It is nice to have someone on your side with you. But there is no point forcing it. And you don't need a girlfriend to share and be close to. Even a good friend will do. And for that you need to also be open. You know? Love is all about trust. Trust is the first step to love. You trust them to listen to you and help you and not make fun of you or tell other people your secrets. You don't need a girlfriend , you just need someone you can trust.
Love yourself, and others. Give them a chance x

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How do you get a gf? I can't even ask out a girl and I see guys with gfs. I mean literally HOW? Do I need to learn some pickup lines? Cause my humor isn't really what girls dig in.Its good but its so called "vulgar" :P. Help me out :P

Lets see. Why do you want a girlfriend? Is it because of the statement you can make? The 'I'm so cool I have a gf'. If thats what the reason is , then that's why you're not getting a girlfriend. Now if you want a girlfriend because you want someone to love , someone to share happiness and sorrows with and have fun with then a girl will consider being with you. And no pick up lines are like a 'jerk tag' . So dont do that. But I've found that wierd and funny pick up lines to be a very good and funny conversational topic so just for that maybe you can. Well see that's where you're wrong. Girls don't have problems with vulgar humour its just when you're not close to them or well yeah their boyfriend it comes off as 'creepy'. So when talking to a girl, keep the vulgar level minumum. Once you guys are close you'll find her making vulgar jokes too. Now if you want something real , its easy, be yourself. Is this the moment you say 'be myself, like its that easy'. That's kinda the point you know. I mean say you're looking for a panda. And you go to buy a panda from the shop. But when you come you find the skin peels off and inside there is a mongoose. It's like that. You have got to be yourself. Be gentlemanly, thats what girls like .But do that with the girl you like .Don't hit on another girl in front of the girl you like. Its like this. Don't stop yourself from falling in love with someone. Because if its just for a statement its not worth it. It'll get over real soon. Wait for the real thing. When you fall in love , and its like this , because you're in love you are nice to her , good to her , it comes automatically. And she falls for you too.

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