Aella

Wishing to date a woman is an interesting thing. Most of the time it's men who pursue women, and women who do the selection. I mean it goes back to biology - men can spray semen and run, women get stuck with children. Plus women are inherently beautiful - they exist and men want them, while men are only valuable if they earn it - through doing shit and being brave. Pursuing a woman immediately makes a man appear to be more brave, thus more valuable.

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I don't date anybody because I feel very masculine in a lot of ways and have very little emotional desire for a man. My focus in this world is creating and leveling up, not earning male attention. The people I am attracted to are people who have an equal focus in creation and 'leveling up,' - meaning, mainly, people who do not need me or actively search me out. I'm kinda like a cat - if you see a cat and go 'OH KITTY' and run at it to pet you, it will run the fuck away cause it's a goddamn cat. But if you sit there and look away, at one point you'll find it in your lap.

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This is also true for most other women, as well. In fact, consider it kind of a general rule. Women are like cats. Women can sense desire and neediness in a man, and that is immediately unattractive to them, because it's a perception of value thing. If a man acts like his own value depends on a woman (e.g., he'll be upset if she denies him, or he's terrified to hit on her because he's terrified of getting denied), then the woman sees the man as "less valuable" than she is. He is actively putting her above him, giving her power over him.

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The problem is, women want a man who is "more valuable" than them, so they feel like they've scored, or achieved something socially valuable, in a sense. So in order to show a woman that you are valuable, you must get to a point in your life where none of your emotional wellbeing is dependent upon her. You can take her or leave her. Women are, in general, very aroused by this.

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I am a woman and I operate by the same rules, though I think personally it's a bit more extreme. I am turned off by even a slight expression of dependency. I also, in a man, require a great deal of dedication and focus turned outwardly.

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So asking me if you can date me is not the way to do that. The best way for anybody on the internet to woo me is to send me a link to their best accomplishments in life - music, writing, video channel, etc. - and if it's impressive, and if your style clicks with mine, and if you're demonstrably intelligent and funny, then yeah, I'd be interested enough to probably engage in casual coitus.

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