Shorouk Diyaa

Look, I tried to write an answer for this question plenty of times and then I get lost between the points I write
Well, we romanticize relationships, we expect EVERYTHING from being a relationship, it's like the magic potion we drink and volla! we are more organized, productive and achieving than ever and all out issues, problems and insecurities are solved. We even expect unrealistic stuff, like we'd find out the reason of our existence when we're with someone, or we'd never have a bad day or get angry, all unrealistic things! The world won't be all sunny and full of rainbows, and you'll still be the same person that rushes the opposite way from their problems, dumb lazy a**.
We were also brought up with the concept of "lacking the significant other" thing, like you're never complete without an another, or even worse: You're not normal if you don't see that. No, we are humans, born with something called a brain, which gives us a *mind*, and since life is meaningless, our existence suddenly made a meaning for it, and thus, each one of us has a purpose of being and goals and things we want to achieve and all that crappy cliche we may say here.
mmmmm, I think we don't understand exactly what we're feeling in a relationship or the purpose of it. We don't know exactly we want from it as well, so we expect whatever our surroundings or the things that shaped our conscious tell us.
We idealize and simplify things irrationally and throw the burden of magically fixing and all that nonsense that's should be be written here on the feelings the partner can provide us with. I have low self-esteem? F it, they're going to fix that for me, I'm insecure about things in my life? I'd tired of the stereotypes created by whoever or whatever in the world? I have some problems with my identity? I don't know what to do with my life? I have no control over myself? etc.. And you know how they deal with that, they num their feelings about their problems and walk the opposite way to get the good feelings we can get with a good company.

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Actually I tend to notice people not knowing why they're in some of their relationships, in most cases it's just an escapism, or mmm they're trying to compensate for some bad experiences they had in their lives, or mmm, the reasons are a lot, and unfortunately -and sadly- for me I haven't seen people getting together on a purpose or reasons that don't drive me to self hatred for being a human with the same features they have and with needs or whatever! So, let's hope for the best y3ny, and mmmm that's how I see the reasons for some people to think being with someone is the answer.

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