Help and Advice on any issue

Hey! I know at first it may seem overwhelming and you may have questions such as "what do I say to my parents, friends, family, etc? What will they think? Is this just a phase etc?" but millions of people across the world identify as being bisexual, and consider it a natural, fulfilling part of their lives. Unfortunately, not everyone is able to understand that what they identify with is an acceptable part of themselves. Here are some basic ideas to consider should you ever feel conflicted about your bisexuality. These will hopefully encourage you to celebrate the magnificent individual you are. :)

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Determine your feelings toward bisexuality in general. Is it something you may have been morally opposed to? Were you previously accepting of bisexuality, but never imagined that you would fall into that category? Knowing where you stand will give you the benefit of further understanding why you believe you could be bisexual.

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Think of people you know that identify as being a bisexual. Evaluate how you perceive they are affected by their bisexuality, and how it reflects on their lifestyle. If someone you are close with is bisexual, this will greatly help you to understand that being a bisexual does not automatically ostracize you. There are many reasons why you might appreciate this person and their bisexuality is only a single factor.

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MOST OF ALL - Do not be afraid of what others will think of you. Regardless of what someone thinks of your bisexuality, their opinion alone is not enough to change that aspect of you. Trying to suppress your sexuality for someone else's peace of mind only impairs your ability to respect that you are open to change!

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Find your own meaning in it. Your sexuality is a part of you like any other that should be nurtured, explored, and celebrated. It can be justified by something as simple as appreciating the beauty of seeing two women embrace, or as intricate as believing that you are too inspired by human beings to enjoy a relationship with only one sex.

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Don't become convinced that there is something "wrong" with you if you are bisexual. If this is an idea you've had previously, you will have to decide which is more important to you: your peace of mind from knowing what's important to you, or letting yourself be controlled by the misconception that you have to fit into someone else's mold! :)

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Don't feel pressured to be open about your sexuality until you are ready to be. Even people who fully accept their bisexuality may choose not to publicize it. If you've just recently realized you're a bisexual, you will need time to understand what it means to you as an individual. Don't think that you're lying to yourself or others if you don't discuss your bisexuality as part of an everyday conversation. Most heterosexual individuals do not feel they must divulge their sexuality as a given. Treating your sexuality as an anomaly will only prevent you from fully accepting it! :) xx

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You don't have to 'ask' her as such :) You can just be walking and slowly hold her hand? :)
And I understand you're feeling jealous when your girlfriend is around other people.. but that only shows you care, which is good. What you must be aware of, is don't show your jealousy too much around her else she may get scared and feel like you're 'controlling' who she see's etc and you don't want that. There is no easy way of getting over jealousy! Here are some tips that I hope will help you a bit. :)

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1. Build your self-confidence!!! Jealousy is usually an insecurity and low self-worth. You may have fears of being abandoned or rejected by your girlfriend. The best way to build your self-esteem is to act the way that a confident person would act. Make decisions as though you have all of the confidence in the world. Eventually, your feelings will catch up with your actions!
When confident people get abandoned or ridiculed, it doesn't break them. You are good enough!

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2. Avoid comparing yourself to other people. Make friends with someone who you think has it all, and you'll discover that even this person has his or her own hidden struggles.Even famous and beautiful celebrities have struggles that you can't see. They may get passed over for movie roles that they want, they may lose a big game or they may struggle with drugs and alcohol. Just because someone looks great on the outside doesn't mean that things are going great on the inside.
Instead of focusing on your shortcomings, think about the positive qualities, skills and character traits that you bring to the table. It all goes back to becoming more confident. You have so many great qualities and physical attributes that no one can take away from you.

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3. Have reasonable expectations about how much time someone can devote to you!!
If someone spends a good deal of time with you, and you never feel like it's enough, then you're demanding too much.
Look at yourself..... What's making you so needy that you can't be happy unless this other person is around? Branch out and spend more time with other people, or find an activity that makes you happy. Sometimes, all you need to do is to take better care of yourself instead of focusing all of your energy on someone else.

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4. Do the opposite of what a jealous person would do. When you feel jealousy taking over, don't react in a destructive way by making accusations, giving someone the silent treatment or dropping little sarcastic hints. Instead, try to do what a trusting person would do in your place.
If a friend is going to spend time with someone else, for example, recommend a good movie or restaurant.
If the guy or girl you like is talking to someone else, join the conversation in a friendly way.
When someone else gets the job that you want, be nice instead of being sneaky or trying to undermine the other person. Instead, congratulate the person and offer to help them be successful.

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(cant fit anymore on.. youll have to inbox me again) x

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Hey, I'm really sorry you're feeling like this. You sound like you're fed up which I don't blame you. I understand you're shy and quiet around friends and even family, but don't beat yourself up about it. It's not your fault you feel like this! If they're your true friends, they'll understand and be there for you and try to help get your confidence back up so you feel able to speak! :) Don't worry about them not understanding you, it's probably because they haven't gone through it so they don't know what it's like.. speak to people who will understand and are willing to listen. Surround yourself with positive people. :) If you need to speak to me, my facebook and Kik is on my profile. Don't even feel like you're alone.
I'm wondering...have you spoken to your parent/guardian about how you're feeling? It may be a bit of anxiety or something? xx

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