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You say that it takes time to know if you love someone. Both sets of grandparents say it was love at first sight for them, I have held on to that notion since I was old enough to hear the stories. Do you say not possible because of modern times or do you completely not believe in love @ first sight

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In general, I don't believe in love at first sight. You don't meet someone and suddenly know them well enough to build a life with them. That takes time.
Your grands were lucky, or rate, or given their history, have brushed over some details. I know several married couples that tell great "how we met" and "we always knew stories."
Um, I was there for some of those early stages. The story they tell leaves out a lot of messy details. But "I met him, he was dating other women, and I used to drive by his apartment to see if he was home ", doesn't have the same ring as "it was love at first sight."
Does it happen for some folks like your grands? Sure. I'll take your word for it. But looking for "love at first sight" is not a dating strategy that is applicable to the masses. Your grands were the exception to the rule. Everybody wants to be the exception to all the hard rules, but they are not.
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