My husband has me on an allowance that does not cover groceries, vet bills, gas and household bills. He travels for work, I do his expense reports and see what he spends on non-reimbursable activities and dinners. I feel resentful and he doesn't understand why. He measures us w diff rulers. WWYD?
He doesn't see you as an equal/ respect what you do. Look at his actions. And you've described your money as an "allowance" as though you are a child. You're married. Your his wife. Not his kid.
Put it to him plain-- your job is running the house. And you can not do all the things he takes for granted if he does not provide you with the means to do them. You do the expense reports and you have a problem that he spends on frivolous things and ignores what is needed at home. Would he not have a problem of you spent the house money or new clothes and shoes?
Exactly.
Hopefully a conversation can get thru to him. If not, don't take care of anything but the vet bill. It's petty. It will get his attention when you out the unpaid notice I front of him or when the fridge is empty. When he gets it, then have the conversation again.
You may also need to seriously getting a job so you aren't at the whim of your husband and his financial control.
Put it to him plain-- your job is running the house. And you can not do all the things he takes for granted if he does not provide you with the means to do them. You do the expense reports and you have a problem that he spends on frivolous things and ignores what is needed at home. Would he not have a problem of you spent the house money or new clothes and shoes?
Exactly.
Hopefully a conversation can get thru to him. If not, don't take care of anything but the vet bill. It's petty. It will get his attention when you out the unpaid notice I front of him or when the fridge is empty. When he gets it, then have the conversation again.
You may also need to seriously getting a job so you aren't at the whim of your husband and his financial control.
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