Have you ever been single for so long that you started to not wanna be in a relationship because you got used to having all of your time to yourself? Lol of whatever else reasons you have?
Hey there.Thank you for posting this question to me and I’m Glad to be in one of your list :) From what it could seem like,I see that you’re having a hard time now trying to deal with this ‘single vs attached’ status and to answer your question ,no I hadn’t been in your position before but I ought to say something that could lighten your situation.
Living the single life definitely isn’t ideal for someone who requires large amount of attention from the opposite party.To be truthful ,I’ve seen people in my lives who completely lost faith in love due to the prolonged period of time being alone,in other words ,learning the importance of independence.
Let’s first understand how love works.When a person falls in love ,it’s as though someone new has emerged —a person who thinks in other ways ,with altered goals and priorities . It’s almost as though a switch had been thrown and a different program had started to run.Often, we see couples who believes that their partners are unbelievably perfect, and all words composed of superlatives.We see this as positive ,it makes us feel happy and productive,and at the same time relieving our dejection and loneliness.
But as time progresses, these pleasant efforts results aren’t just as such.We are apt to deceive ourselves,not only in our personal lives but also when dealing with abstract ideas.Also , we often close our eyes to conflicts and clashes between our beliefs.Love can in turn make us disregard most defects and deficiencies ,and make us deal with blemishes as though they were embellishments.
Indeed,once those short-lived attractions fade,they sometimes go on to be replaced by more enduring relationships ,in which we exchange our own interests for those of the persons to whom we’re attached. This large conception of ‘Love’ is too narrow to cover enough ,it is a kind of suitcase-like word ,which carries so much emotions and thoughts.
Really, it’s better off living the single life actually .
Living the single life definitely isn’t ideal for someone who requires large amount of attention from the opposite party.To be truthful ,I’ve seen people in my lives who completely lost faith in love due to the prolonged period of time being alone,in other words ,learning the importance of independence.
Let’s first understand how love works.When a person falls in love ,it’s as though someone new has emerged —a person who thinks in other ways ,with altered goals and priorities . It’s almost as though a switch had been thrown and a different program had started to run.Often, we see couples who believes that their partners are unbelievably perfect, and all words composed of superlatives.We see this as positive ,it makes us feel happy and productive,and at the same time relieving our dejection and loneliness.
But as time progresses, these pleasant efforts results aren’t just as such.We are apt to deceive ourselves,not only in our personal lives but also when dealing with abstract ideas.Also , we often close our eyes to conflicts and clashes between our beliefs.Love can in turn make us disregard most defects and deficiencies ,and make us deal with blemishes as though they were embellishments.
Indeed,once those short-lived attractions fade,they sometimes go on to be replaced by more enduring relationships ,in which we exchange our own interests for those of the persons to whom we’re attached. This large conception of ‘Love’ is too narrow to cover enough ,it is a kind of suitcase-like word ,which carries so much emotions and thoughts.
Really, it’s better off living the single life actually .
