in my experience with situations like these, I've had to create my own closure, taking my time to grieve the loss of the relationship, trying to move forward & heal. However, sometimes an opportunity for closure presents itself & in instances like those, I take it. We are not all granted the opportunity for closure, so my motto is if you are, please consider.
More on creating your own closure:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=41rujD3fRBM
Thank you for watching :)
What has worked for me is expressing my hurt feelings in a very calm way and seeing if the other party is actually willing to compromise or change a specific behavior that I have linked to being hurtful. If not, I reevaluate the relationship and adjust how I view it so as to not put myself in a position to be hurt again in the same way. This video goes further in depth about compromise:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dae4FUDAnwQ
I think both parties have to be in a mental space where they've cooled down and are willing to make the necessary compromises to be in each others lives. I think it begins with respect & the strength to be honesty. Sensitivity to each others feelings while still getting things off your chest honestly & listening, not to respond but to really understand; all of these things can help greatly.
I think people struggle with feeling like they don't have options when it comes to forgiveness. Many feel like forgiveness looks exactly the same way for everyone, comes in the exact same form, can only manifest in one way. I do not agree.
Thanks for the compliment. People who have been victimized or made to feel inferior or scared, turning to victimizing and spreading fear in order to "win," instead of challenging the whole system of victim and attacker or realizing there can be other kinds of relationship dynamics.
Settling for something you know is wrong is the most repulsive thing to me.
Writing a book and trying to get it published.
My mom is supportive in her own way. She's a living testament that working a job that you hate but making lots of money is not enough. She tells me this. She knows that I'm a go getter. My father would prefer that I did something in the medical world for security purposes.
I'd primarily write fiction, poetry, prose, and other creative avenues of writing, perhaps even journalism. Well I am already writing...
Communication.