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If I end up looking like Danny DeVito in drag the downside of transitioning (in terms of lack of acceptance by society) might end up being worse than not transitioning at all. Dodgy analogy but side-effects worse than the original symptoms? What do you think? Could therapy and happy pills be ok?

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I know this is a common issue a lot of trans people face. "What if I don't pass? won't that be worse than how I am now?" I asked myself that every day as I began to seriously contemplate this step. Might your life be harder as a result (from the standpoint of society)? Sure. Does that mean it's not worth it? I don't think so. I think as long as you find peace with who you are, you've succeeded.
Overall, the concept of "passing" is troublesome. Women come in all shapes and sizes. There are cis women with facial hair. There are tall women, women with broad shoulders, women with small breasts, large hands, prominent Adam's Apples.
Only you can decide if this is something you want to (or need to) do. I can't tell you if you should or shouldn't transition. I can't tell you how you might look after some time on hormones. I can't tell you how much abuse you may or may not receive as a result. That's all something you need to find within yourself.
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I asked you what it means to be a woman. You still haven't answered. If you are a woman because you just are one, then why can't you be a woman without getting breasts? Going on HRT? Your words say one thing, your actions say another. Regardless, I wish you happiness.

Okay, fine. I'll bite. I went on HRT because I felt tired and sad and dysphoric and generally uncomfortable in my skin (like, actually uncomfortable in my skin). Going on HRT alleviated physical, mental, and emotional discomfort. Do you ask this same question of women who got on HRT during menopause? "Why can't you be a woman without going on HRT? Hypocrite!" No, I bet you don't do that.
And the breasts were just something that came along with HRT.
I am a woman because I am a woman. I went on HRT because I wanted to alleviate my physical, mental, and emotional discomfort. Hopefully that answered your series of intrusive questions.
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You Forgot It in People followed closely by their self-titled record, totally.
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You're avoiding my question...I asked you what it was to be a woman. You didn't answer. You just are a woman, it has nothing to do with your body apparently. Yet you want breasts and a vagina. So obviously that's what it means to you regardless. Why don't you just admit that you want to be a cishet?

1.) You do realize that trans people can not, by the very fact that they're trans, be cisgender, right? 2.) I'm bisexual, so no, I have no interest in being straight, gay, lesbian, etc. etc. etc. I am what I am. Bisexual. No matter what gender you consider me, that's what I am.
I am a binary-identified woman, in that I don't feel as though I'm "between" or "outside" genders. My gender presentation, however (which is how you look, dress, etc.) isn't stereotypically feminine. I have really short hair. I wear jeans. I don't really wear much makeup. None of that -- nor my genitals, breasts, or anything else related to appearance -- have a thing to do with whether or not I'm a woman. I am a woman because I am one. There's nothing hypocritical about that.
Thanks for playing, but I'm done answering these types of troll-y questions.

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What I'm getting at is how I find you to be very hypocritical, like when you say "I'm a woman because I am one, not because of what my body looks like" and yet you still take hormones and plan extreme surgery? And you're a trans advocate but then deny the trans aspect because you are a woman?

Then YOU define woman. By all means. Go for it, anonymous.
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What does it mean to be a woman to you though, having breasts and a vagina and wearing make up etc? Does an a vaginoplasty really make you a woman? Surely it's not that simple since the nature of gender is socially constructed and fluid over time and across different cultures?

Who said anything about "breasts and a vagina and wearing makeup?" I'm a woman because I am one, not because of what my body looks like, not because I do or don't wear makeup, etc. You keep asking these leading questions, but why not just come out and say what it is you're getting at?
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Hi Parker when you say your driver's license is accurate as it is and you wouldn't want a trans category, doesn't that mean that you are now cis?

No, that's not what it means. I am a woman. I happen to also be transgender. I am not defined by my status as a trans person any more than I am by having blue eyes or any other feature.
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If your drivers license says you are female does that not make the US government transphobic as you are in fact a trans woman? Should the license instead say "trans woman"?

My driver's license is accurate as is.
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Is there no trans category on driving licenses? And do you think there should be?

Not in any state in the U.S. I think there most certainty should be an option for individuals who don't fit into either of the two options. That said, even with such an option, I'd still opt for my license to read female.
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How do you feel about this statement: "Men are self-entitled pigs."

A bit much? Perhaps. Say what you've gotta say, though.
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