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How would you advise the media to cover people who transition publicly, like Chelsea Manning, in a respectful way? How should readers, who may not know about transition, be given background information? Thanks in advance!

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I think it's important to mention both names in the first piece (after all, it's impossible to establish who you're talking about unless you mention the person's former name - however! This only applies to people who are already public figures pre-transition. In Manning's case, I think it would have been reasonable to say, "Chelsea Manning, formerly known as Bradley Manning..."), but from then on, only reference Chelsea. I think it's important not to stay too focused on the physical aspect of transition, and I can't really see a reason to go into the medical details unless absolutely necessary. I mean, in Manning's case, the question about surgery, something she didn't mention in her statement, kept coming up. That shouldn't have. Most importantly, if the person in question releases a statement (as Manning did, where she specified which name and which pronouns she'd like to go by), use the information in that statement to guide future reporting. Anything else, feel free to ask.
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I asked you what it means to be a woman. You still haven't answered. If you are a woman because you just are one, then why can't you be a woman without getting breasts? Going on HRT? Your words say one thing, your actions say another. Regardless, I wish you happiness.

Okay, fine. I'll bite. I went on HRT because I felt tired and sad and dysphoric and generally uncomfortable in my skin (like, actually uncomfortable in my skin). Going on HRT alleviated physical, mental, and emotional discomfort. Do you ask this same question of women who got on HRT during menopause? "Why can't you be a woman without going on HRT? Hypocrite!" No, I bet you don't do that.
And the breasts were just something that came along with HRT.
I am a woman because I am a woman. I went on HRT because I wanted to alleviate my physical, mental, and emotional discomfort. Hopefully that answered your series of intrusive questions.
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You're avoiding my question...I asked you what it was to be a woman. You didn't answer. You just are a woman, it has nothing to do with your body apparently. Yet you want breasts and a vagina. So obviously that's what it means to you regardless. Why don't you just admit that you want to be a cishet?

1.) You do realize that trans people can not, by the very fact that they're trans, be cisgender, right? 2.) I'm bisexual, so no, I have no interest in being straight, gay, lesbian, etc. etc. etc. I am what I am. Bisexual. No matter what gender you consider me, that's what I am.
I am a binary-identified woman, in that I don't feel as though I'm "between" or "outside" genders. My gender presentation, however (which is how you look, dress, etc.) isn't stereotypically feminine. I have really short hair. I wear jeans. I don't really wear much makeup. None of that -- nor my genitals, breasts, or anything else related to appearance -- have a thing to do with whether or not I'm a woman. I am a woman because I am one. There's nothing hypocritical about that.
Thanks for playing, but I'm done answering these types of troll-y questions.

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What I'm getting at is how I find you to be very hypocritical, like when you say "I'm a woman because I am one, not because of what my body looks like" and yet you still take hormones and plan extreme surgery? And you're a trans advocate but then deny the trans aspect because you are a woman?

Then YOU define woman. By all means. Go for it, anonymous.
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What does it mean to be a woman to you though, having breasts and a vagina and wearing make up etc? Does an a vaginoplasty really make you a woman? Surely it's not that simple since the nature of gender is socially constructed and fluid over time and across different cultures?

Who said anything about "breasts and a vagina and wearing makeup?" I'm a woman because I am one, not because of what my body looks like, not because I do or don't wear makeup, etc. You keep asking these leading questions, but why not just come out and say what it is you're getting at?
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Hi Parker when you say your driver's license is accurate as it is and you wouldn't want a trans category, doesn't that mean that you are now cis?

No, that's not what it means. I am a woman. I happen to also be transgender. I am not defined by my status as a trans person any more than I am by having blue eyes or any other feature.
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If your drivers license says you are female does that not make the US government transphobic as you are in fact a trans woman? Should the license instead say "trans woman"?

My driver's license is accurate as is.
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Is there no trans category on driving licenses? And do you think there should be?

Not in any state in the U.S. I think there most certainty should be an option for individuals who don't fit into either of the two options. That said, even with such an option, I'd still opt for my license to read female.
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How do you feel about this statement: "Men are self-entitled pigs."

A bit much? Perhaps. Say what you've gotta say, though.
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