I read your story on xojane and had a very similar experience (super straight, no "I've always known" feelings) til i fell for a girl when I was just about 22.. Is there a way I could contact you to hear your thoughts on my own story? (and how I feel uncomfortable calling myself gay…)

Hi! I saw your comments over on my blog, when I get a chance later today I'll write you back! short answer though, I think it's fine to not identify as a lesbian- that's actually pretty common (I'll find some links if I can!) and I think it's great that you're in touch with yourself enough to know what "label" feels right for you!