start a family, think about how anger won't make you the best mother or a wife. Anger can effect many areas in someone's life. It can effect any dreams, any chances, any relationships. It's so unhealthy, and the first step is to admit your anger has caused unnecessary problems in your life. I admitted that my anger was pushing away people and my life, and it made me want to change myself. So whenever you're angry, think of something you really want. Once you think of it, think about how anger will NEVER get you what you want. Once you think about that, take a really long, deep breath and say to yourself something along the lines of "It's gonna be okay. Happiness will be much more worth it in the end. This silly problem isn't worth getting mad over." Different things work for different people, so figure out what calms you down, and say it to yourself every time your mad. My biggest help is always taking a deep breath. It's so calming. Sometimes I even stand up and take a deep breath because it feels much better. Eventually, with a lot of practice, little things won't bother you so much :) Now when something irritates me I'm just like ughhhh, but I brush it off my shoulders, take a deep breath, and MOVE ON. I always gotta tell myself to just move on. Overcoming something like this definitely isn't easy, and I admit I still get mad sometimes, but getting mad occasionally and venting is way different than exploding over everything. So never think you ALWAYS have to be happy, just pick your battles. Remember to decide whether the argument is worth it or not :)

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Thank you so much!! Don't worry about the anger issues, you aren't alone I promise! Going into more detail of my anger problems, I would get angry over EVERY THING. If someone looked at me wrong I said something about it. I always argued. Always yelled. I took my anger out on family and friends aaand most of all my boyfriend! I took it out on him kos he was the one who was always with me. Me being so angry started a lot of arguments between me and my mom, me and my boyfriend, my friends, etc. and finally my boyfriend one day was just like "I really hate when you get mad." and he explained to me that being angry just puts him in a bad mood and it causes unnecessary problems in my life. He told me that I shouldn't let little things bother me so much. On top of that, I was also taking a class at school that was basically all about finding ourselves, and my teacher made it almost like a therapy session lol And between my boyfriend talking to me and finding myself and venting in class I realized that anger was not the answer for everything. I realized that being happy is so much more attractive. It attracts more friends, your significant other or the opposite sex in general, it attracts your family, making you closer with your family. Being happy just feels so much better. So my advice to you, whenever you are angry just think of one thing in your life you want really bad. For me, it was to have better relationships with my family, friends, and boyfriend. By thinking of how badly I wanted this, it made me realize that being angry wasn't going to help me get those close relationships. If you have anyone in your life that your anger has effected more than once, think about how much better it'd be to make that person happy and to have a better relationship with them. If you really want a successful career, think about how anger won't help you grow professionally. If you badly want to

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