What is your opinion of love? Is it permissible for them to do what they want, or are there red lines that they shouldnt skip?
This question has me worried, so if you're in an unsafe relationship, please look up crisis or abuse hotlines for your country/area. If you're in the US, you can text HOME to 741741.
As for the question, boundaries are an important part of healthy relationships. These are different for every couple, so all parties should communicate their boundaries and desires, and clearly understand those of the other. People aren't mind-readers, and if the other person is dismissive of your concerns, that's a red flag.
Some people may not like to be touched. Others may not like certain topics. These are ok, and YOU decide what lines should not be crossed. A healthy relationship allows each person the freedom to live their own life and the mutual abiding of each other's boundaries. So, to answer your question, it's more complicated than that. You shouldn't let someone walk all over you, especially if they're encroaching on something you've explicitly asked them not to do.
I'll use my relationship as an example. In the early stages of our relationship, I did not want to be touched a lot and in certain places or times. Only when I became more comfortable with him and made my desire for touch clear would he oblige. I knew he wanted to get his hands on as much of me as he could almost right away, but he held back, listened to my concerns and desires, and my boundaries shifted in time. And I'm grateful I have a significant other who knows how to treat boundaries and consent.
In my opinion, hard red lines are doing things that could endanger anyone, and any kind of abuse (physical, emotional, sexual). These are signs you and possibly the other person need help, fast.
Love can be an extremely rewarding thing. But don't stand for uncomfortableness or abuse, for fear of being single. Having self-respect can get you to great places.
As for the question, boundaries are an important part of healthy relationships. These are different for every couple, so all parties should communicate their boundaries and desires, and clearly understand those of the other. People aren't mind-readers, and if the other person is dismissive of your concerns, that's a red flag.
Some people may not like to be touched. Others may not like certain topics. These are ok, and YOU decide what lines should not be crossed. A healthy relationship allows each person the freedom to live their own life and the mutual abiding of each other's boundaries. So, to answer your question, it's more complicated than that. You shouldn't let someone walk all over you, especially if they're encroaching on something you've explicitly asked them not to do.
I'll use my relationship as an example. In the early stages of our relationship, I did not want to be touched a lot and in certain places or times. Only when I became more comfortable with him and made my desire for touch clear would he oblige. I knew he wanted to get his hands on as much of me as he could almost right away, but he held back, listened to my concerns and desires, and my boundaries shifted in time. And I'm grateful I have a significant other who knows how to treat boundaries and consent.
In my opinion, hard red lines are doing things that could endanger anyone, and any kind of abuse (physical, emotional, sexual). These are signs you and possibly the other person need help, fast.
Love can be an extremely rewarding thing. But don't stand for uncomfortableness or abuse, for fear of being single. Having self-respect can get you to great places.
