I discovered quite early that I am not straight! I think the first time I really liked someone was when I was in primary school, and it was a girl. I asked myself if it was possible that maybe I was gay.

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Then in secondary school I just figured I was bi because I had crushes on both girls and boys and learned that that was called "bisexuality".

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When I went to uni, I had been in a long term relationship with a boy, and even though I had the occasional attraction to girls, it wasn't really something I thought about. I've never hid that I am not straight, I knew it immediately when I had that very first crush back in primary school, but I never really set out to 'discover' what I was. I just liked people for who they were and not whether they were boys or girls, and never thought much about it.

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But when that relationship ended, I actually ended up liking someone who didn't really identify as either boy or girl. So I knew I wasn't straight, but this also meant I wasn't bi.
So since that moment on, I decided to look into it more. I discovered that there was such a thing as "pansexual" and that's what I've been using to identify myself as (ﾉ◕ヮ◕)ﾉ*:･ﾟ✧ so when I meet cool genderqueer people I don't feel confused anymore, it makes total sense! In a way I always knew that I was attracted people for who they were and not their genitals, but I didn't really put a label on it. Now I have a better way of putting it! It didn't really matter for a long time and it still doesn't matter really, but it's nice to feel like I 'figured it out' eventually.

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Also, I think sexuality is fluid so this might change in the future, but so far I think this has been true for most of my life. I just discovered it gradually, bit by bit, along the way!

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Hi, this doesn't offend me. Out of these options I would prefer a friend, but I'm always a bit wary because I don't want to burden someone I love with thoughts they can't help with, putting them in an uncomfortable position?
I wouldn't pick a teacher because they don't need to know about my personal life. Neither do colleagues really. In my personal situation I feel that my family is too close to me to hear them 'objectively' - it's complicated but I would not really feel comfortable myself trying to talk to them.
This is why a friend is always a better option, they know you better than teachers or colleagues do, but they won't always interfere the way close family does.
However, I would always recommend talking to a professional if it's something your friends can't handle, because a professional can give you adequate help that you might need, and also they can go home at the end of the day.
Another option is to find support from someone who is going through the same thing but isn't a personal friend, does that make sense? It can be very helpful to talk to someone who you don't know that closely.
Good luck, hope that helps!

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