I think porn does have a lot of problems and generally a negative influence on people who watch a lot of it and do so when they’re young; I think they develop a very contrived, unrealistic, warped and very narrow view of sex.
I watch porn very rarely. like I just don’t find it authentic or realistic or sexy at all because the majority of it is like, the dude lightly touches the womans vag with the tip of his dick and immediately she’s just like UNNNNNNNGODDDD FUCK YEAH OH MY GOD HOLY SHIT FACK YAH FACK YAHHHH BABY (squirts entire oceans worth all over the walls and orgasms 50 times simultaneously) and I’m sitting there fucking horrified like wtf because I dont know whether this guy has the dick of the lord himself or his touch is physically hurting her IT SCARES ME. NOBODY MAKES THOSE NOISES??? no dick is that bomb and no woman reacts that way? it’s just self-indulgent male fantasy; porn is just absolutely driven by hetero male fantasy so it exists to please and empower them so the sex in most porn is unrealistic and provides a one-sided and very narrow view of sex.
and you can very easily tell when your sexual partners haved watched too much porn because the whole thing feels fucking atrocious; they are clearly performing and it is an instant boner killer for me because they’re not feeling the moment, they are treating sex like they have to perform instead of going by instinct and feeling out their partners needs; they aren’t losing themselves in the moment okay I am like the goddamn fucking black swan ballet instructor when I talk about this shit I’m just like (whispers frenchily) LOSE YOURSELF
like I’ve had dudes use very obvious porn-inspired moves like slapping the vag with their hand LIKE?? WHAT ARE YOU DOING?? DONT SLAP IT?? HAS IT OFFENDED YOU IN SOME WAY? THIS AINT WHACK-A-VAG DUDE YOU WONT WIN A PRIZE. and the only other place I’ve seen that type of nonsensical shit happen is in porn, I have never heard another woman mention that or say she’s into it.

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so basically my main problem with porn (besides the portrayal of women in it because lbr most porn is made for heterosexual dudes) is that people end up believing it’s how sex has to or should be done, they forget that porn is acting, its a performance - so they end up mimicking performance sex instead of just going by their instincts and working with their partner which makes the sex feel so artificial and disconnected - and they also end up feeling inadequate or judging themselves or their partner harshly when the sex doesn’t live up to these flashy porno standards.

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I think porn is fine if you’re older and you want to watch some crazy shit go down or just want to change things up; but I really wish porn wasn’t watched by younger people with little prior sexual experience who end up using porn to inform most of their view on sex and how it should be.

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