What's your favorite phrase in a foreign language?
"La belle dame sans merci." A phrase from John Keats' poem of the same name.
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What makes you feel better when you are in a bad mood?
Nothing, apparently. I have the patience and tolerance of a fork and the temper of an overheated kettle. Yes, yes, I'm ashamed of both.
If you could visit the past or the future, which would you choose and where would you go?
The past, of course. There are a number of things I would like to see with my own eyes and marvel at. The future ? No, thanks. I would rather choose to live an unexpected life than an assured one fulfilling all my demands.
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What's the worst movie ever?
I used to think it's 'The Room', but I'm convinced now that it's Twilight.
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Which material thing is the most important for you?
We all depend on a number of material comforts for survival. Society has been fine-tuned in a way that we can't, in most ways, comprehend a life beyond these trifle certainties. It's evident everywhere. We can't move a step without electricity, computers, and the list goes on. However, in absence of these boons - that we now consider basic amenities - life would still find a way to move forward, may be by creating newer facilities through limited resources. But that's another subject. The main point I want to present is : nothing in our lives is indispensable. Hence, worrying about material possessions should be the least of our worries when so much more is at stake.
I can't really think of anything that is important to me. There are certain books I'd like to preserve - because nothing is more valuable than the storage of information in the form of the printed word - my computer, my means to connect to the Internet. Money, obviously, as a means to survive. Everything in this list is subject to changes depending on whether I'm in the middle of a zombie apocalypse or a natural disaster.
But there are certain things that are important to me. Not material possessions, but material achievements. I'd like to see myself as independent, accomplished, strong and successful. I'd like to be able to live with the person of my choice. Out of all this, the most important is my sense of security, as that is what gives rise to happiness. I don't generally like to be insecure about anything. But when I am, I hope that I'm able to control it. And what I dread the most in today's world is, losing ground beneath your feet. It's everywhere... Starting from religious fundamentalism to a young girl's death by cyber-bullying to the loss of natural resources and the growth of mental complexities in each level of the society.
I can't really think of anything that is important to me. There are certain books I'd like to preserve - because nothing is more valuable than the storage of information in the form of the printed word - my computer, my means to connect to the Internet. Money, obviously, as a means to survive. Everything in this list is subject to changes depending on whether I'm in the middle of a zombie apocalypse or a natural disaster.
But there are certain things that are important to me. Not material possessions, but material achievements. I'd like to see myself as independent, accomplished, strong and successful. I'd like to be able to live with the person of my choice. Out of all this, the most important is my sense of security, as that is what gives rise to happiness. I don't generally like to be insecure about anything. But when I am, I hope that I'm able to control it. And what I dread the most in today's world is, losing ground beneath your feet. It's everywhere... Starting from religious fundamentalism to a young girl's death by cyber-bullying to the loss of natural resources and the growth of mental complexities in each level of the society.
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Yes, I forgot it. I am sorry, it was a little late yesterday, and I was tired and had my mind kind of busy.
I know...
What 'kind of person' are you in a relationship, in your eyes? And what kind of person do you WANT in a relationship?
I'll answer it nevertheless since I don't believe in censorship.
I am the passionate one in a relationship. My feelings are, more often, stronger and reactive. Sometimes I can be very understanding, sometimes angry, all depending on the situation - and mostly, the edge of my feelings can be quite like a double-edged sword. I guess it is the passion that makes me more demanding, and I wouldn't lie, I have a very strong fear of being exploited. Not exploited in a physical and material sense alone, but on a deeper and a more personal level. There are a plenty of things I regret doing once I do or say them, but storing them inside might have been a more dangerous option. I guess I'm also the more open person in a relationship - I like to talk about what I want so that my partner is more understanding. But now that I think of it, that openness is a degree of self-protection from that despicable fear. This also makes me very cynical and analytical at times, judgemental, when things do not go my way - because I want a cause or reason to understand that the person I love is someone I know and hasn't changed drastically.
When I fall in love with a person, I do so mostly because of his personality. So, the second part of the question has no specific answer. But one of the things I like would be that I want, really want my partner to be a good friend first, and remain that way throughout the relationship. I can't stand shadows in a relationship - I would adjust to them when I understand them. And one of the things I dread is a partner changing in a relationship. I don't mean 'changing for the better or worse', I mean changing such that I can't recognize his actions anymore.
I am the passionate one in a relationship. My feelings are, more often, stronger and reactive. Sometimes I can be very understanding, sometimes angry, all depending on the situation - and mostly, the edge of my feelings can be quite like a double-edged sword. I guess it is the passion that makes me more demanding, and I wouldn't lie, I have a very strong fear of being exploited. Not exploited in a physical and material sense alone, but on a deeper and a more personal level. There are a plenty of things I regret doing once I do or say them, but storing them inside might have been a more dangerous option. I guess I'm also the more open person in a relationship - I like to talk about what I want so that my partner is more understanding. But now that I think of it, that openness is a degree of self-protection from that despicable fear. This also makes me very cynical and analytical at times, judgemental, when things do not go my way - because I want a cause or reason to understand that the person I love is someone I know and hasn't changed drastically.
When I fall in love with a person, I do so mostly because of his personality. So, the second part of the question has no specific answer. But one of the things I like would be that I want, really want my partner to be a good friend first, and remain that way throughout the relationship. I can't stand shadows in a relationship - I would adjust to them when I understand them. And one of the things I dread is a partner changing in a relationship. I don't mean 'changing for the better or worse', I mean changing such that I can't recognize his actions anymore.
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What 'kind of person' are you in a relationship, in your eyes? And what kind of person do you WANT in a relationship?
Forgotten to uncheck the 'ask as anon' button ? For someone who has it disabled for himself ? Wow...
The girl who was cyber-bullied.
So, yes. Not only was she cyber-bullied, but also told that she "deserved to be bullied" for being a 'slut'.
This fries my beans.
So, not only would she be cyber-bullied for answering questions - hell, she didn't even answer them properly, she only participated in the conversation - that are considered near-to-normal in today's world. And who are these gangs of anons, these self-proclaimed moral police of the Internet who would decide on others punishment but forget unticking the 'ask as anon' box at the top ? Most of all, what are we being reduced to ?
A young, naive girl who makes a silly mistake due to her inexperience is branded as a slut, and not the man behind the curtain who managed to stay under the cover of an anon as he initiated the process. Who are we to judge others at the drop of a hat ? Who are we to define sexist terms and apply them again and again to women just to look for holes to judge them ?
What enrages me more is how primitive we all are underneath the translucent burqa. Our younger selves go as far as to make sick indications towards a girl of their age and call them sexist names instead. Didn't the sexual movement take place back in 80's when we all preached and talked about this wonderful sexual freedom ? Didn't the schools decide on making sex-ed mandatory by the new millennium ?
Oh well. Who am I ranting at ? We know we are hypocrites. We talk impassively about how 'sex sells' and preach about modern contraceptions - all the while allowing the sick virus of gender-role obsession grow inside the back of our minds. And this is why women are still 'sluts' at the drop of a hat. Or tampon.
Lastly, why can't we all keep our real selves slightly detached from the Internet ? I won't ask you to 'get a life' because I myself have none. What I mean is to disguise one's true identity while we are using the Internet. We don't need to make everything public. A new site may have my Internet handle and not my name, it may not have my real picture at the very beginning. Why not make our identities a little more private ? We all know of cyber-bullies and cyber-crimes. Trust is like a mirror, better not put it in wrong hands. And why take a risk ?
This fries my beans.
So, not only would she be cyber-bullied for answering questions - hell, she didn't even answer them properly, she only participated in the conversation - that are considered near-to-normal in today's world. And who are these gangs of anons, these self-proclaimed moral police of the Internet who would decide on others punishment but forget unticking the 'ask as anon' box at the top ? Most of all, what are we being reduced to ?
A young, naive girl who makes a silly mistake due to her inexperience is branded as a slut, and not the man behind the curtain who managed to stay under the cover of an anon as he initiated the process. Who are we to judge others at the drop of a hat ? Who are we to define sexist terms and apply them again and again to women just to look for holes to judge them ?
What enrages me more is how primitive we all are underneath the translucent burqa. Our younger selves go as far as to make sick indications towards a girl of their age and call them sexist names instead. Didn't the sexual movement take place back in 80's when we all preached and talked about this wonderful sexual freedom ? Didn't the schools decide on making sex-ed mandatory by the new millennium ?
Oh well. Who am I ranting at ? We know we are hypocrites. We talk impassively about how 'sex sells' and preach about modern contraceptions - all the while allowing the sick virus of gender-role obsession grow inside the back of our minds. And this is why women are still 'sluts' at the drop of a hat. Or tampon.
Lastly, why can't we all keep our real selves slightly detached from the Internet ? I won't ask you to 'get a life' because I myself have none. What I mean is to disguise one's true identity while we are using the Internet. We don't need to make everything public. A new site may have my Internet handle and not my name, it may not have my real picture at the very beginning. Why not make our identities a little more private ? We all know of cyber-bullies and cyber-crimes. Trust is like a mirror, better not put it in wrong hands. And why take a risk ?
Just saw something disturbing...
So, I was simply going through the many names in the stream section, when I come upon this girl. She's young, supposedly twelve, immature and pretty. Just as a young girl should be. The question she answered to was one sent by an anonymous person, peppered with words such as 'slut' and 'whore'.
This struck me. Why should a twelve year old, happy pre-teen have to deal with shady words she still has a shady understanding of ? Why can't she simply talk about her crush and joke with her friends ?
I did a bit of stalking. I went to her page, I read all the questions. There weren't many of them, just about twenty or thirty. The questions at the top of the page were all sent by anonymous persons, or rather, an anonymous person. The gist of the first five questions was the same : She was a slut.
Now, let's assume that she being a twelve year old, will probably have a majority of twelve year old friends or contacts through Faceboook. With a few exceptions, of course. The anonymous person seemed to be someone who knew her in real life. Now, why would any pre-teen want to throw around a word like a 'slut' so carelessly in a public forum ? Hell, they shouldn't even be on the Internet in the first place.
Anyway. Let's just be through with this.
I scrolled to the end of her page to see what brought on such a 'public outrage'. The first few questions were normal ones - auto-generated ones of the site and a few remarks made by her friends. Nothing wrong. Then, a few back-and-forth messages from an anonymous person. The guy starts with a cheesy compliment towards her looks, and after a few messages, the conversation shifts to the colour of her 'knickers' and 'iron man junior' in his pants. By this time, her answers have become somewhat clueless. I understand. She feels flattered by the attention, the strange direction the conversation had taken makes her feel more mature, but she is also struggling to keep up with his indications. The guy seems polite and courteous, though a bit cheesy.
The cyber-bullying starts within another four days. There are floods of questions telling her how 'fat' and 'ugly' she is. After scrolling through five such messages, I found a little piece of head-ache rolled into a question in a few poorly-constructed sentences. Another anon, a friend of hers probably ( I'm assuming by the standard of the grammar ), claims that she is a 'slut and a whore' and he will post all the 'slutty' conversation on Facebook. She is horrified, with reason, and she apologizes. Not just once. After that, there are streams of anonymous people telling her what a 'slut' she is, one in particular telling her that she "deserves to be bullied for answering those questions." The question ends with a 'whore', inevitably.
When I asked her why doesn't she censor anonymous comments, she said that she is afraid that it will lead to something worse. She hopes that they would give up. She continues to reply questions like that with a 'Sorry'.
This struck me. Why should a twelve year old, happy pre-teen have to deal with shady words she still has a shady understanding of ? Why can't she simply talk about her crush and joke with her friends ?
I did a bit of stalking. I went to her page, I read all the questions. There weren't many of them, just about twenty or thirty. The questions at the top of the page were all sent by anonymous persons, or rather, an anonymous person. The gist of the first five questions was the same : She was a slut.
Now, let's assume that she being a twelve year old, will probably have a majority of twelve year old friends or contacts through Faceboook. With a few exceptions, of course. The anonymous person seemed to be someone who knew her in real life. Now, why would any pre-teen want to throw around a word like a 'slut' so carelessly in a public forum ? Hell, they shouldn't even be on the Internet in the first place.
Anyway. Let's just be through with this.
I scrolled to the end of her page to see what brought on such a 'public outrage'. The first few questions were normal ones - auto-generated ones of the site and a few remarks made by her friends. Nothing wrong. Then, a few back-and-forth messages from an anonymous person. The guy starts with a cheesy compliment towards her looks, and after a few messages, the conversation shifts to the colour of her 'knickers' and 'iron man junior' in his pants. By this time, her answers have become somewhat clueless. I understand. She feels flattered by the attention, the strange direction the conversation had taken makes her feel more mature, but she is also struggling to keep up with his indications. The guy seems polite and courteous, though a bit cheesy.
The cyber-bullying starts within another four days. There are floods of questions telling her how 'fat' and 'ugly' she is. After scrolling through five such messages, I found a little piece of head-ache rolled into a question in a few poorly-constructed sentences. Another anon, a friend of hers probably ( I'm assuming by the standard of the grammar ), claims that she is a 'slut and a whore' and he will post all the 'slutty' conversation on Facebook. She is horrified, with reason, and she apologizes. Not just once. After that, there are streams of anonymous people telling her what a 'slut' she is, one in particular telling her that she "deserves to be bullied for answering those questions." The question ends with a 'whore', inevitably.
When I asked her why doesn't she censor anonymous comments, she said that she is afraid that it will lead to something worse. She hopes that they would give up. She continues to reply questions like that with a 'Sorry'.
What's your favorite snack food?
French fries :3
What did you forget to do today?
Appear for an interview.
Some years ago, there was a kidnapping in Germany. A cop threatened the kidnapper with torture to make him tell where the kid was because they hoped that the kid's alife. Now, the cop was sentenced for that too and the kidnapper got reparation payment. What do you think about it?
It reminds me of a quote by Rousseau, " Man is free, but everywhere he is in chains." I think we are slowly forgetting that laws exist to protect man, and not the other way around. In our desperation for equality and the well-justified concerns about the proper implementation of judgement, we are forgetting our priorities. The priority should always be an innocent human life above everything else. What surprises me was how the cop was sentenced for a threat, and not an actual crime. Are we forgetting what we created laws for ? Although we say that justice is blind, we do not expect it to be deaf as well. Human justice, when meted out, should always be truly humane, in all respects. Sometimes we need to go beyond the usual chains of rules and regulations and logic to lend matters like these a fresh eye - an approach that is sensitive as it as well as it is logical - may be a balance between the two. Neither following the laws blindly nor being sympathetic to certain situations will help. I'm afraid that someday the dedication to laws will make us blind and unfeeling.
What meal was so good that you can't forget it?
A food for thought.
Amanda Todd. Amanda Todd. Amanda Todd. You were young. You were beautiful, stunning and amazing. Then you made a mistake. People make mistakes. But this is the Internet. Nothing here is ever lost. It all comes back to you. Now I want to ask why the authorities did nothing while it was all out there.
Amanda Todd and her short life : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ej7afkypUsc
Is this where we stand today ? Are we beings with zero tolerance, forgiveness, understanding, compassion ? Have we become people who need to grapple with their diminishing self-esteem through judging others by every tiny segment of their beings - especially those mistakes and actions we commit everyday and blame others like us, just because they were more...blatant ? Naive ? Is this the price naiveté has to pay in a world that claims to be open and accepting ? Then I say, we are standing at the edge of hell - only hell looks like as picturesque as a faded painting on the wall.
Is this where we stand today ? Are we beings with zero tolerance, forgiveness, understanding, compassion ? Have we become people who need to grapple with their diminishing self-esteem through judging others by every tiny segment of their beings - especially those mistakes and actions we commit everyday and blame others like us, just because they were more...blatant ? Naive ? Is this the price naiveté has to pay in a world that claims to be open and accepting ? Then I say, we are standing at the edge of hell - only hell looks like as picturesque as a faded painting on the wall.
Is there anything you see that no one else notices?
I see injustice. Everyday everywhere. I see innocent people knee-deep in a pool of mud. I see helplessness and insecurity everywhere. Every direction. I see people falling again and again while they try to rise. I see people losing direction, all around me. And sometimes I am afraid if I'll be one of them. Sometimes I'm afraid that no one notices it anymore, and the world will turn pale to those unseeing eyes.
What is better than chocolate?
Coffee ? One gives you high adrenaline, the other high serotonin.
What kind of things annoy you?
What annoys me is how instead of evolving as persons and using the amount of information given to us through television and the Internet, we are falling low. People we see in this day and age are mostly ones looking for "five-minutes-of-fame", rather than newer heights to reach. People are more self-conscious than they are self-aware. Collective self-esteem has reached an all-time low, attention-seeking an ideal height.
What question do you ask yourself a lot?
Sometimes I wonder what would be better. Not to fear anything or not to fear anything that has to do with fear ?
If you could interview anyone, who would you pick?
Hmm.... I would pick Charlie Fuqua so that I can ask him whether he would stand by his (strange) idea of death-sentence for disobedient children when it comes to his own. It might be interesting to see what his best course of action would be when his own daughter is broken and in need of parental guidance. Death sentence, seriously ?
How much money do you really need?
People learn to survive. Need changes with time and opportunities. What I need today, could be doubled or halved by tomorrow.
What drink do you prefer when you’re thirsty?
Seriously ? Water. I love Coke and Mountain Dew, but when I'm thirsty, nothing compares to cold water.
What’s in your pockets?
Spare change. It's practical to keep some.
Where would you like to live?
I think, the question should be, "With whom would you like to live ?" My home is where I have something to hold on to, and that is where I would like to live.
Have you ever stolen anything?
A kiss. I'm sure that was forgiven. No, seriously.