My BF& I hav been going to therapy & recently I asked him2 be open about what he would lik for me to make changes toward& one of thing he said 2 get in shape like how u were abt 5yrs ago which hes seen pics of. I have put on about 10-15lbs. We've only been 2gether 2yrs. Am i wrong to b mad &say FU.
You asked him a question, he have you his honest an honest answer. You can't be mad at him for this. He wasn't rude or condescending, which is generally the problem in these situations.
Looks are important. They aren't everything, but they are a thing. Let's no pretend otherwise.
Take an honest self assessment-- he met you one way and has been there for 2 years, but do you need to lose the weight, or is he being picky?
I've been in your position. The guy was a complete ***hole about it (and I was the same size as when we met. The story is in my book, A Belle in Brooklyn).
I dealt with it again last year when I out on a LOT of weight and CBW finally said, "B, WE need to go to the gym." (We'd both gained, but I moreso than him). I didn't like hearing it and my ego was bruised, but he was right. WE worked out together (and apart too) and WE got in better shape.
If you feel like BF is being reasonable and you just didn't want to hear the truth, lick your wounds for a minute, then tell him you would like his help getting the weight off. You BOTH should incorporate fitness AND healthy eating into both of your lives. This doesn't have to be a dealbreaker.
Looks are important. They aren't everything, but they are a thing. Let's no pretend otherwise.
Take an honest self assessment-- he met you one way and has been there for 2 years, but do you need to lose the weight, or is he being picky?
I've been in your position. The guy was a complete ***hole about it (and I was the same size as when we met. The story is in my book, A Belle in Brooklyn).
I dealt with it again last year when I out on a LOT of weight and CBW finally said, "B, WE need to go to the gym." (We'd both gained, but I moreso than him). I didn't like hearing it and my ego was bruised, but he was right. WE worked out together (and apart too) and WE got in better shape.
If you feel like BF is being reasonable and you just didn't want to hear the truth, lick your wounds for a minute, then tell him you would like his help getting the weight off. You BOTH should incorporate fitness AND healthy eating into both of your lives. This doesn't have to be a dealbreaker.
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