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I'm not insensitve just real her bein raped shouldnt still affect our sex life mos def after all dem greens I spend for to seek help she still f##ks like she in high school I'm a man wit needs

You're INCREDIBLY insensitive if you think it's up to YOU to determine when she should be over a personal trauma.
Has it ever occurred to you that the rough sex she doesn't like and you threatening to cheat on her if she doesn't do what you like is delaying her progress in dealing with her assault?
You have needs, she's not meeting them. leave and go find someone who can. dont bully, cajole and threaten her to get your way. Be a better boyfriend.
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Dating a 33 y.o man who often tells ME to call HIM. I find that I initiate most contact or else we don't speak. Is this a sign that he is emotionally unavailable or something else?

Sign he isn't interested as demonstrated by his lack of effort.
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Is it possible two ppl can b good on paper and madly in love but one not b sexually excited about the other or if two ppl are together then it should count for something.

To answer first question, yes.
Eh.. Together isn't enough. You need to be happy (at least sometimes), fulfilled and have basic needs met (most of the time)

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Hi, I am the 1 who asked abt the mother & hitting situation. I wntd 2 ask ur take on hitting as punishment. I didn't realize until I was an adult that hitting ppl is wrong b/c my mom did it 2 me. I know that's the reason I was such a violent girl growing ^. Do u believe in hitting?

No, I don't. Only to protect your safety and that of someone who is unable to defend themselves.

My mother, when I was a child, used 2 hit me when she got angry. Now I am an adult, when she walks toward me in anger, I still feel threatened. I told her she needed 2 back up when we were in a heated discussion & she started 2ward me. She gt pissed & said I shud NVR tell her 2 bck up. Was I wrong?

No. You're an adult and you have every right (as you also did as a kid) to protect your person. Mom or not, she doesn't have a right to threaten you and you DO have a right to defend yourself, if necessary.

Tried getting husband in mood candles lingerie all he did was talk about work so I started Crying and asked if he was attracted to me. His response: u wait until after we marry to ask me that!?" What does that mean?

If he married you, he's attracted to you. In his mind it was a totally silly/offensive question.
If he's talking about work while you're trying to have sex, he's REALLY stressed about work and likely money.

Now that we are married there's really no recourse. If I don't do what she wants what is she going to do?? Divorce me??

This is a horrible outlook. Its basically, "i can do whatever i want and you have to deal." Not sure how long you're actually going to be married.
Um yeah, she could divorce you. Half of people who marry take that recourse at some point.
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If someone you felt in your mind was (75%)attractive and they were holding the door open for you, and said "Hey beautiful, your looking nice today" would you say"Thanks" and keep walking, or stop and make conversation?

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Thanks and keep walking and wishing I held my own door.

Everytime I suggest a trip Wth my friend she wants to invite others along. I've said "just me and u" which sounds a little freaky when I say it/ but she still just Lols and then does it again. How do I get it across to her that i only want her and I to travel?

Just tell her that flat out "please dont invite other people." If she does, don't go and stop planning with her.

So what happens when your "dating for fun" and feelings get involved? Don't u look like an ass for dating someone and then sayin "sorry just kidding not really into you"??

You're not obligated to commit because you're dating. You say, "I enjoy spending time with you, but is like to keep things at this level."

My husbands Cuzzos wife is upset bc he and I TXt occasionally. Usually it's about fam gatherings, group texts or shooting the breeze. Nothing inappropriate so what gives?? We are just bring friendly and behaving as family.

That's not on you to deal with. It's on husband's cousin.
There may be more to that story than you know of.

Yo ma I got a bone 2 pick wictha u shouldnt talk bout peepz u Dnt know 2 say I Dnt luv my girl cuz I like it rough aint rite I give her what ever she want what's wrong wit wanting luv how I like it when I get home?

1. Your lady wrote in to ask a question because she was unhappy with the way you treat her. I did not seek her out to tell her anything.
2. You spending money does not give you the right to have sex however YOU want with you GF and especially not if it's hurting her and she does not like it. Nor does it give you the "right" to ignore her pain or emotions.
3. Threatening your GF that you will cheat on her if she doesn't do what you want is not like or love. It's instilling fear and beating down her self esteem. YOU told your GF "what you won't do another woman will" and that's why she showed up here.
YOU created this problem for yourself. Instead of blowing up my timeline, you may want to actually talk to your GF and treat her better so she doesn't leave you. I am not your problem.
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CBW: My BF is a flirt. He flirts with his friends and associates in what seems playful and what he calls "meaningless" they all also know about me. When does flirting become inappropriate? I don't want to restrict who he is but also don't want our relationship disrespected.

When he does things you don't like point it out to him and ask him if he would be ok with you doing it to him.
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CBW how do you let a guy know you're interested who you told before you're probably better off friends during an awkward moment (about 2 years ago)? If he liked me would he have given up or would that not have stopped him?

The time might have strengthened his interest or trapped you in the friend zone. Just ask him what's up you want to stay friends or try what you wanted?

Wait #cbw answering questions?! How does a woman know if a man is interested? And what if said guy is too shy to make move how would i ?

If we want it we go get it. Do you want a man that's scared to simply say Hi my name is ...?
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Cbw I want to deepen emotional and sexual intimacy wih My man without being corny suggestions?

Babeland classes and/or talk to him about what you want. He'll be happy to ... make you happier

CBW, at what point did Belle tell you her nickname for you (c b w--ugh autocorrect)? What was your reaction? Whats the other name that she refuses to tell us because you would "kill" her? Ha!

After a couple months. I lol. It's nonyaaaaa
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CBW- Hi! I'm an inch shorter than BF in flats. 2.5-3 inch heels plus a 'for makes me taller. He's cool. But in general, how do men view their GFs being taller? I rarely see shorter men w/ taller women.

You don't want those guys. Who is mad at long legs!!

CBW every time me and my boyfriend get into an argument we attack each other verbally. It gets pretty nasty. I know this is unhealthy but there's so much time invested and we have children. Is it best to go our separate ways or try to make it work?

Get counseling. There's a backstory that's adding fuel to your arguments

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