Ughh nen I don't know. How to accept rejection? The highest form of rejection? Like say I've been dreaming to attend Ateneo since 1st year hs and I found out na di ako nakapasok... Shet.. How to accept?

There's never an easy way to accept that. But ... Okay. Personal advice. One thing I've become good at is letting go of the things I have no control over. Yes, I feel shame and disappointment, of course I do, but I don't let myself dwell on those for very long. Usually the hurt feelings are a result of my own pride and expectations, so the battle, really, is only within myself. It's sometimes good to be humbled, to be reminded that ultimately, the Universe is in charge, not me. "So what do we learn from this, self?" I'd ask, and after I give myself an answer, I swear to remember it, and then I take the deepest breath and let it out, imagining exhaling all the bad feelings away with it. I'd feel lighter afterwards. Because whatever it was that I wanted but didn't get, it was never mine in the first place. It wasn't meant for me. And I can't change what happened. So it's pointless to mourn over it.
It's like when you're in a maze, and you hit a dead end—no matter how much you were sure of your path before, when you reach a dead end, it's still a dead end. What do you do? You can stay there and rage against a wall that wouldn't ever budge. You can crouch in the corner and cry and hate yourself. Or you can walk back the way you came, remind yourself to cross that path off your mental map because it leads nowhere, and find another way out.
And there's always a way out. Life is full of rejections—or what I like to think of as re-directions. Dead ends, but only temporary.
Just know that the thing that would keep your feet moving forward is your belief in yourself, despite and in spite of everything, so don't ever lose that. xx
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highly doubt people still go here and/or care to even ask me questions, but i'm just gonna publish this to neatly close this account off. i've moved to curiouscat.qa/fdat just cus the UI there is more tolerable. so long and thanks for all the fish!


Do you like romance books? Like, those graphic with sex scenes?

Chicklit novels are the easiest and quickest reads for me so I enjoy them a lot. If I need to forget reality for a couple of hours, get some words swimming in my brain, but not be stressed out, those novels are my go-to. Notice that I said chicklit, not necessarily romance, because I don’t always like the heavy/serious romance books. I enjoy those with more of a contemporary-minded heroine and with witty and funny dialogue. A lot of them have sex scenes but *shrug*. It’s human anatomy anyways so it doesn’t have any shock value for me. Haha

Is it a turn off when a girl says “maganda ako” or “feel ko maganda ako.” Even if she is pretty or what? Thanks!

I wouldn’t necessarily consider confidence a bad thing.

Do you still have a crush on Logan Lerman?

From where I am sitting right now, I can see his photo still pinned on the corkboard on my desk, so that’s very much a yes. Haha

My friend laughed at me when I said I don’t have photographic memory, is she being a toxic friend? Like, sorry, I’m not smart as you. :/ thank you!

“Science hasn't been able to prove the existence of actual photographic memory.” No need to feel bad!
And I don’t want to throw the word toxic around especially for just one thing (that I don’t even have full context of) so I’m inclined to say no.

How would you feel if your friend said your shoes/shirt is “pang-matanda”? Hurt? No big deal?

No big deal. Unless I specifically asked for that friend’s opinion. But even in that case, I wouldn’t be hurt because I asked for it. Regardless, the bottomline is: I dress for myself. :)

Re: The Before Trilogy, yes, it’s so good. It’s about two travelers who meet at a train, you can watch the trailer to see if it’s your liking tho.

I watched the trailers and I’m thoroughly intrigued. It seems right up my alley so I can’t believe this missed my radar? Anyway I know my next Netflix binge now. Merci!

Have you watched The Before Trilogy? (Before Sunrise, Before Sunset, Before Midnight.)

I haven’t! I’m ... not sure I watched any movies this year actually lol 💀 Would you recommend it?

About that friend who wants me to sell her books, she doesn’t know how to sell online, she says. And I can’t refuse, because she forcing me and won’t take no for an answer, so I just accept it. She knows I sell my books online and I have experience.

Is it possible for you to ask for some form of compensation, at the very least? For your effort/time/electricity? I know it’s not easy to sell stuff online. Maybe a percentage of the profits? And if she refuses then you can refuse too?

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