Ughh nen I don't know. How to accept rejection? The highest form of rejection? Like say I've been dreaming to attend Ateneo since 1st year hs and I found out na di ako nakapasok... Shet.. How to accept?
There's never an easy way to accept that. But ... Okay. Personal advice. One thing I've become good at is letting go of the things I have no control over. Yes, I feel shame and disappointment, of course I do, but I don't let myself dwell on those for very long. Usually the hurt feelings are a result of my own pride and expectations, so the battle, really, is only within myself. It's sometimes good to be humbled, to be reminded that ultimately, the Universe is in charge, not me. "So what do we learn from this, self?" I'd ask, and after I give myself an answer, I swear to remember it, and then I take the deepest breath and let it out, imagining exhaling all the bad feelings away with it. I'd feel lighter afterwards. Because whatever it was that I wanted but didn't get, it was never mine in the first place. It wasn't meant for me. And I can't change what happened. So it's pointless to mourn over it.
It's like when you're in a maze, and you hit a dead end—no matter how much you were sure of your path before, when you reach a dead end, it's still a dead end. What do you do? You can stay there and rage against a wall that wouldn't ever budge. You can crouch in the corner and cry and hate yourself. Or you can walk back the way you came, remind yourself to cross that path off your mental map because it leads nowhere, and find another way out.
And there's always a way out. Life is full of rejections—or what I like to think of as re-directions. Dead ends, but only temporary.
Just know that the thing that would keep your feet moving forward is your belief in yourself, despite and in spite of everything, so don't ever lose that. xx
It's like when you're in a maze, and you hit a dead end—no matter how much you were sure of your path before, when you reach a dead end, it's still a dead end. What do you do? You can stay there and rage against a wall that wouldn't ever budge. You can crouch in the corner and cry and hate yourself. Or you can walk back the way you came, remind yourself to cross that path off your mental map because it leads nowhere, and find another way out.
And there's always a way out. Life is full of rejections—or what I like to think of as re-directions. Dead ends, but only temporary.
Just know that the thing that would keep your feet moving forward is your belief in yourself, despite and in spite of everything, so don't ever lose that. xx
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